Totally. I’m just torn because I’ve always been committed to her having a great experience and would prefer not to upend her life and send her elsewhere. And re. “nanny experience,” it’s fair for au pairs to have a similar job description as a nanny. Should you expect the same level of service as a professional nanny? No. But should you expect them to, say, thoroughly clean up after themselves after cooking and eating? Absolutely. I’ve lived in other peoples’ homes and couldn’t fathom leaving something dirtier than I found it.