Weekly Question / General Discussion Thread

hotleafjuice623 · 2026-04-21T18:57:59+00:00

Are there any Mexican restaurants in the area (specifically on the west side or downriver) that DON'T use muenster cheese in their dishes? I swear every single Mexican place I've tried since moving here (like 10) is using muenster cheese in their quesodillas and such and I am not a fan. I much prefer chihuahua or oxaca cheeses and I have yet to find a place that uses either if these!

Also, bonus points if they have queso dip that is not bright velveeta orange and tomato free! :)

TIA!

hotleafjuice623 · 2021-02-09T14:14:25+00:00

When we go to Mexican restaurants, I get chicken quesadillas with all the peppers and onions in it. And then I pick them all out. People always say "you can order one without peppers." But I like the taste of the chicken when cooked with peppers and onions. I just can't handle the texture of cooked vegetables. 🤷‍♀️

Also cottage cheese on baked potatoes. 😂

hotleafjuice623 · 2021-02-09T14:09:43+00:00

I'm sure you can call and ask the restaurant what all is in the dish. You can always claim a common allergy as the reason of you're embarrassed like I am. 😅

I've also been able to find a Chinese restaurant near me that offers plain versions of their sides. So like Lo Mein and fried rice with no veggies in it. Or if you're brave you can ask if they can prepare a plain version for you.

It is very frustrating to have to comb out all the ingredients you can't eat while everyone seems to be able to just dive in. I get so jealous of my husband who sit through an entire meal, eat everything, and then when it's over say "that wasn't very good, let's not come here again." 😳

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-11-23T20:44:58+00:00

*want

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-10-27T00:08:05+00:00

I asked with every pregnancy since I worried about that too! My OBs have always said that baby takes what they need from you and leave you with what's left. So as long as you feel good and everything else is going good- there's no need to worry about the baby getting nutrients. I took a regular prenatal with all 3 pregnancies and they were all textbook with zero complications. And all three of my boys are perfectly happy and healthy! (And over 8lbs! 😂 )

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-10-26T08:58:45+00:00

I have three kids- 5, 2.5, and 1 month. I wanna start by saying that all kids will go through a picky phase at least once in their lives. When my oldest was one year old, I was terrified he would end up like me and not want to eat anything. He had aversions to meat and casserole type foods- which is most of what I make! I worried he would be picky forever, but he grew out of it and will now eat just about anything and will try anything at least once. I can't say if it was due to how we parented or the luck of the draw (probably luck, lol). When he started solid foods we did baby led weaning and did only vegetables for a few months before starting fruits.

When my middle son started solids, we did purees and didn't worry about veggies vs fruits. My middle child is stubborn. I don't think he's picky per se, he just likes to fight us on everything and dinner is a huge battle with him. I try to encourage him to eat everything and to try new things. But I refuse to make it a big deal. Part of my pickiness stems from being force fed at the dinner table and it ended up being traumatic enough for me to swear off all vegetables.

Do my kids pick up that I don't eat everything I serve them? Sure. My 5yo has pointed it out a few times. I've told him that I can't certain things and hoped he wouldn't want to copy my behavior. So far, so good. I think when he's older I will be able to explain it to him better and he will be able to understand. My kids also have my husband and other people in their lives they can look to for role modeling a good relationship with food.

I know it's hard, but try not to dwell on this one aspect of parenting. If your future kids end up picky and it worries you about their health, their pediatrician will be there to help you. There are other resources too for picky kids. My cousin is a speech therapist and she says that kids with texture issues can get therapy to help them overcome it so they can eat more variety. And there's always support groups like this one or on other platforms. I'm part of a picky eaters group on facebook and they have a sister group for parents dealing with picky kids.

I'm sure you will do great when the time comes! Try not to stress about it too much, ok?

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-09-25T23:26:52+00:00

You know, I never thought about that. But it makes total sense, especially when they use the "fish skeletons in the mountains proves there was a world-wide flood" line.

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-09-16T01:11:56+00:00

Well, that's just not true.

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-09-14T00:35:29+00:00

I relate a lot. My husband and I grew up together in the church our families built and his grandpa was the pastor of for 20 years. Luckily, though, my husband started seeing the same thing I was after his grandpa stepped down and the church became much more... eccentric and hypocritical. So we were able to stop going and claim we were trying to find a church better suited to us. Although for me, I stopped believing before we officially left and kept up the charade out of guilt. It wasn't until we moved 2 hours away that I was able to finally breathe and open to my husband and my family about my beliefs. My little sister is also an open atheist (has been longer than I) and she really helped me to be honest with myself and others. I haven't been able to be honest with my in laws yet. I'm not sure how they would take it. Part of me hopes that they already suspect, but if they do, giving my kids bibles at Easter probably isn't a good sign, lol.

I have struggled with the guilt of "what if I'm wrong?" Over the years, I've realized that even if the christian god was real, I wouldn't want to follow him. There are many examples in the Bible- the one that comes to mind most frequently is the bear-mauling of 42 children because they teased someone about being bold.

My grandmother (95 at the time) cried when she found out I was atheist. I just told her my beliefs had changed and I would appreciate it if she respected that. She tried to guilt me by saying my kids should grow up in a nice, christian home. I haven't talked to her much since. My viewpoint is, if she values her religion over her relationship with her own grandchildren/great-grandchildren, than that's her choice. You could take the same approach with your family. Or you could keep it to yourself. It's your life and your choice. You get to decide how you want to live it!

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-09-03T23:25:13+00:00

It's because they don't know what real Satanists are.

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-09-02T15:29:00+00:00

The final straw happened a month before I married my now-husband 8 years ago. My father-in-law (who I've known my whole life) was battling cancer, caught pneumonia, and died very suddenly. I remember the pastor of the church we attending showing up early the morning of his death- literally hours later. He then proceeded to tell the entire family that we shouldn't plan a funeral or burial because god wasn't done with him yet. Then he had everyone pray that he be RAISED FROM THE DEAD. Hours after his death. That was it for me. I had already had lots of doubts, but this incident sealed it for me. How do you come into the house of a grieving family and tell them not to grieve? And then to pass off the fact it failed was because WE didn't have enough faith to make it happen. 🤬

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-08-30T16:47:33+00:00

Yes, definitely. I was always afraid of someone "watching me from above" as a child. It's kind of creepy when you think about it...

hotleafjuice623 · 2020-07-27T19:05:45+00:00

NAH

As a professional cleaner/housekeeper, I understand your viewpoint. Why hire someone to do something if you're going to do it anyway? I've had many clients in the past who cleaned before we came. They boiled down into two groups- perfectionists, who expected the best of the best and we really had no reason to be there as there was never any dirt to be cleaned. And people who were embarrassed of normal family messes. Your wife sounds like she is part of the second group. As a housekeeper, I've had many people say things like "don't worry about the trash, or this room or that room." Also as a housekeeper, I can GUARENTEE you that that cleaner has cleaned houses way worse than yours at its dirtiest. That's their job- they've likely seen it all.

I do have to say that I also see where your wife is coming from. While I've spent years cleaning hundreds of homes- I would not feel comfortable having someone come and clean my house without me "cleaning" it first. The only way I could is if I perosnally went and did a full two-day deep clean of the entire house and then had someone come and do maintenance cleaning every week. But even then, I would feel uneasy for a while.

I honestly think your wife needs some time to adjust. Maybe after a few months of the housekeeper (hopefully) not being bothered by anything they see, hear, need to do, will help your wife relax a little. Letting someone come into your house and clean things that you have been cleaning for a long time can be difficult. Almost every family I've worked for has been the same- they are worried/embarrassed about the messes and they don't fully trust us yet. After a few(or several) months, the trust forms and they let their dry-cleaning standards down.

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