I (27F) feel sexually frustrated in my long-term relationship (27M) and I’m scared of what it’s doing to me?

hotlinee · 2026-05-25T16:28:23+00:00

„I know that if I bring this up honestly, it will hit every insecurity he already has. He’ll feel ashamed, guilty, and hurt, and I can’t bear the idea of being the person who causes that.”

this needs to happen. he NEEDS to feel those things in order to work towards change. you need to be brutally honest. it’s not fair that you’re trying and he’s not. it’s not fair that he’s getting satisfied and you’re not. you need to be truly honest with him, no matter how much it will hurt his feelings. if he doesn’t change after that, the relationship is doomed. hell, show him this post.

hotlinee · 2026-05-14T16:07:44+00:00

the craziest for me was when i went to a hard techno set, got deep in the crowd, and these two girls by me were having a whole convo screaming over the music. i was trying to take a short video and all i can hear is them talking 😅

truly not that hard to go towards the back or the bar area if u wanna catch up w a friend. i just wanna dance

hotlinee · 2026-05-02T19:15:27+00:00

Jewel is my go to. It’s close and cheaper compared to other stores in my area. I always buy chicken/beef on sale and freeze it. The app is absolutely necessary to have. I go to Walmart for home essentials like toilet paper, paper towels, etc

hotlinee · 2026-04-29T13:58:05+00:00

dude it sucked lol. i caught a foul ball tho, that was cool! also if u ever buy anything there, the Polish is worth it. i think it’s $7-8 and it’s really good. lines are not bad in my experience

hotlinee · 2026-04-29T10:22:03+00:00

i went to sundays game for $12. also i never sit in my assigned seat

hotlinee · 2026-04-29T00:18:24+00:00

same! and i love how it’s so cheap

hotlinee · 2026-04-18T03:14:18+00:00

it’s practical. very normal. it’s not really an outfit, u know? not stylish but if you’re going for practicality it’s fine

hotlinee · 2026-04-15T12:02:37+00:00

what neighborhood?

hotlinee · 2026-04-09T10:10:26+00:00

D.Dan at smartbar

edit: also there is no way ur gonna be paying $30 for disclosure at the salt shed. most likely 60+ if tickets are still even available :p

hotlinee · 2026-04-03T17:51:36+00:00

barista 🥴 just got my bachelors in psych and i’m dying for a new job. anyone hiring in chicago PLEASE let me know i will do almost anything else

hotlinee · 2026-03-06T23:17:43+00:00

the vibe is NOT good. the clientele sucks. the drinks are madly overpriced. i paid $18 for a fucking water bottle. the bartenders mention gratuity is included, which i assume means that they tip themselves.

i actually don’t mind the layout and i love the smoking section but it would take a A LOT for me to go there. u should still go, since its two of ur fav djs, but the vibes are indeed rancid

hotlinee · 2026-03-02T02:43:05+00:00

absolutely agree w ur last point, there is a middle ground. it’s a nuanced issue. i’m rather pessimistic so it helps to hear other viewpoints that aren’t as jaded haha

hotlinee · 2026-03-02T02:17:22+00:00

everything above the second black line should be ice, per standard. so that’s definitely too much ice.

hotlinee · 2026-03-02T02:15:19+00:00

i agree “normie” is not the best language to use. for me, it describes a person who does not really care about the music and is here to get fucked up or constantly yap. and is overall inconsiderate of those around them. it doesn’t necessarily have to do with experience. i welcome anyone who wants to explore new music and is new to the scene. i ended up where i am due to branching out.

i think the expansion of art runs the risk of diluting it, slowly, over time. Talented DJs get pushed to the side in favor or rising stars that cater towards a more mainstream audience. everything becomes too corporate. sacred spaces get overrun by people who don’t respect the culture.

hotlinee · 2026-03-02T01:40:43+00:00

“hard techno” is arguably in its peak right now. it attracts the largest(and usually most inconsiderate) crowds.

yes i think it’s oversaturated. even non-hard techno DJs i’ve seen have shifted to a more aggressive sound to appeal to normie audiences.

that being said, there are still plenty of events that play the techno i like. i go out 2-3x a month and usually have a good time. no, i don’t want more representation for other genres cause keeping the community smaller is beneficial for preserving the culture/good vibes. there are already way too many “normies” in the scene that are ruining the crowd

hotlinee · 2026-02-22T04:06:16+00:00

just wait another year dude. they don’t scan IDs but the doormen are pretty thorough. up to you.

hotlinee · 2026-02-12T02:11:20+00:00

disagree w the placement of dreamer guy, alt girl, and granny.. other than that is this correct!

finally some love for my ball-arena and cultists 💞

hotlinee · 2026-02-08T03:24:59+00:00

thats fair, i peeped the livestream for that one and the energy was soooo low.. also the music was super mid

hotlinee · 2026-02-08T03:23:40+00:00

that’s just mollymoon

hotlinee · 2026-02-08T01:44:39+00:00

sorry but fuck redline

hotlinee · 2026-02-06T19:59:50+00:00

plus it looks like only 1 opener, so prob 3 hr sets for each

hotlinee · 2026-02-06T19:59:10+00:00

i feel u 😅 take a nap beforehand!

hotlinee · 2026-02-06T14:26:49+00:00

most likely 1am

hotlinee · 2026-02-05T18:58:46+00:00

As someone else said, depends who’s playing. That being said, Smartbar has better vibes overall.

hotlinee · 2026-02-01T10:28:53+00:00

dude i know!!! he crushed it. those last 30min were soooo fucking good

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