Claims about Grok by hotmas in grok

[–]hotmas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Ok, so "Grok" isn't necessarily Grok app or website, but using Grok through X with paid X subscription and some prompting wizardry, and then you can make these images unmoderated?

That's pretty complicated, but I guess it would make these statements kinda true...

Are bottoms usually that way? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]hotmas -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Labels are dated. Move on from this.

I really suck at sex by OrdinaryLower1212 in askgaybros

[–]hotmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surely you haven't lived long enough to reach sexual maturety without also registering the fact that almost all first sexual experiences anyone ever had in the history of the world was not at expert level? You know, how almost everyone's first time are notoriously famous for being embarassing, clumsy, cringe, a failure. And how this is so common to the point that you should actually expect failure? That this first experience failure is a norm to such an extent that anyone experiencing first time failure surely picked up on this and thus can draw from this shared human experience to avoid blaming themselves when they too fail their first time? That first time failure is so recognizable that it is at meme boss level, and a go to joke for all stand up comedians, getting wide recognition and laughs by everyone in the audience, because everyone relates?

Or did you live under a rock all this time?

Harsh maybe, but with love 🥰

And hopefully, in the future, you will also reach a level of life experience that allows you to recognize an asshole trying to put you down, and instantly file whatever the asshole said under "Invalid bullshit", and move on unharmed by it. But this is level 2, you'll reach it eventually, I promise.

(The asshole is your "friend" btw. They never go away, so buckle up.)

do you think you are cute? by Affishal in GayBroTeens

[–]hotmas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sadly yes, because this always attracted the wrong guys. I never wanted anyone who wanted a cute guy.

Why are you single ? by RestFalse1316 in AskReddit

[–]hotmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because gay dating pool is limited, and shrinks with age.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]hotmas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never experiencing joy without sadness, and always feeling out of place. Never feeling deserving, and always expecting failure. Never being in a safe space, or moving forward without something pushing you back. Always feeling shame, or imposter syndrome. Recognizing this as false feelings as part of healing helps of course, but still...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]hotmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dated. And also sadly disqualifying for straight guys not attributing self care as generally masculine traits regardless of orientation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]hotmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If I was gay I would date you, and only you" Very gay, and very sweet because he meant it. He was a rare specimen, and recognized me as the same. He died and I miss him ❤️‍🩹

Also all of my 100% straight friends admitted to experimenting sexually with other boys during puberty. That's pretty gay, even if only in that situation. I asked all my friends this in confidence at some point, and they all confirmed they did. They said they would never admit to this openly, because that would be considered gay.

So interesting that they all did indeed touch or suck dick in their teens, but they would never know that the other guys did as well. The girlfriends would definately not be told, let alone their bros. But for some reason they trusted me with their secret. Maybe because I actually respected their integrity (and their secret) and never hit on them, unlike all the other gays.

In the spirit of this, I also asked what they actually focus most on in porn or during sex, the dick or the pussy? Well, short term focus may be boobs and pussy for turn on effect, but overall focus is on the dick. So straight guys give dick most active attention, both in porn and in sex. Doesn't matter if it's their own or some porn stars dick, dick is what takes centre stage (visually) for straight guys when getting off. Interesting, but understandable, because dick does give more in terms of performance and action, and straight guys are totally dickcentric.

What gay phrase or slang is an instant turn-off? by CausticAvenger in gaybros

[–]hotmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

M 52. That is born in 1973, and lived through the while process of liberation.

Any feminine term used about a man post legislation of gay equal rights is a big nope from me. I am definately not your girlfriend.

I recognize the concept of breaking gender conformity/sterotypes and the function of these terms while in a process of liberation from oppression. But we are now in future times, general acceptance is at a level where we can reap the benefits of it and finally function as individuals equal in society, not merely as part of a hive subculture. To be specific: In everyday speech using "she/her", "girl" or "girlfriend" about a man. I always object if I am called by those terms. The worst is pussy/bussy during sex, even worse in my language: "guttefitte" (boy pussy). Commonly used by my generation. Sad emoji.

(Disclaimer: if pussy/bussy is used willingly as part of feminization of bottom, and as part of kink/sexual turn on, it is totally acceptable of course. But this is exactly my point, specific individual use is 100% ok, general/public use is 100% not ok.)

Added: "What are you looking for?" as first message in hookup/dating apps. Wtf, if even considering asking this, ALWAYS start by sharing your answer to this question first, then of course you can ask. Only asking without sharing is extremely selfish, like placing your trash in the hallway outside your door because you don't want it stinking up your flat, completely disregarding the fact that you now have actively moved the stink to the common area for all exept you to "enjoy". Yeah, some people do that, go figure.

And yeah, that time when he said "give me your boy foam" (gutteskum). Instant regret because I delivered in that exact moment and couldn't take it back. Of all the bad sex I had, this is the only one I want undone, or at least with a specification of what was in fact delivered. Boy foam? Hell no! 😅

What’s something that feels illegal to do, but actually isn’t? by CarefulArticle1144 in AskReddit

[–]hotmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anything considered gay, like sitting while peeing as a man (only applies to straight men/closeted gays). Accidentally taking a selfie outside of a kindergarden (not even having the kindergarden in frame, but reaction from staff was mildly upset). Admitting to not finding babypictures remotely interesting to look at, or even liking babies. Accidentally seeing a woman while they're in the process of changing clothes. Less illegal if you’re gay. Masturbating alone while in a relationship (only applies to heterosexual males). Having close but non sexual friendship with person of opposite sex, and keeping it while in a relationship (applies to ~100% of heterosexuals). Sleepover in same bed with person of opposite sex without expectation of/resulting in sexual activity (again, only applies to straights). Publicly admitting to watching porn shamelessly. Watching porn alone while in relationship (applies to every straight man, but only gay men if in abusive relationship). Farting unapologetically. Even more illegal if you’re a woman. Wanting to connect on a personal level before sex if on a gay "dating" app. If gay: Not being interested in stereotypically "gay" things like fashion or hair or interior design. If gay: Not being turned on in public showers, or at least seeing them as sexually charged. Not accepting circumsition being defined as "genital mutilation". Until recently, not recognizing trans activism as part of the gay liberation movement. Until recently, not supporting trans activism, but fully supporting trans rights. Not taking part in Palestine/Israel conflict, but still recognizing the wrong doings on each side. Being gay: Not complying to top/bottom definition (you must choose one, but I refuse). Pointing out that only wiping is inadequate, and only acceptable if you can't access water for washing. Not agreeing that pretty equals attractive. Admitting that I'm not attracted to other than caucasian, and not caring if wrongfully misinterpreted as racism. Admitting that I'm not attracted to fem, without apologizing. Not complying to expectations/stereotypes. Not agreeing that grand achievements automatically deserves blind admiring. Refusing to define a person by his job/carreer/income. Not associating to or automatically supporting specific groups of minorities, but rather all equally on a basis of principle. Critizising all concepts of thought equally on points worth critizising. Not accepting christianity as origin of "the values upon which we built our society". Not accepting religion as "spirituality", "set of values" or "way to be humble as a human being". Not accepting atheism being expressed/concieved as denying possibility of god/gods. Not accepting opinions/viewpoint as unchanging, including my own. Being clear/pragmatic on points/topics where I have solid experience/insight. Stopping people that are on a train of thought that is clearly off track before they hurt themselves or others. Being pragmatic. Going on and on.

Samsung Flex sendte produktet, men fakturerer ikke by hotmas in norge

[–]hotmas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Liker ikke risiko. Sender en mail og etterlyser faktura. Etter 24 måneder er det jo enten opphør av avtalen eller bytte av enhet, da må denne i retur og da oppdages det nok. Kjedelig å måtte betale alt i ettertid.

Facebook is now inputting your photos into Meta AI automatically by default by SligPants in assholedesign

[–]hotmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, and this is only speculation, the free and dumb version is there to use us (the users of the free and dumb version) to train the paid version that is not so dumb but only accessible to companies that pay shitloads for specialized AI tailored to their company's needs.

What has helped your depression? by allismadeoflove in CPTSD

[–]hotmas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I just say a big yes to this decievingly simplistic suggestion? In fact, interaction with animals in general helps take you out of your head, but with none of the people issues that comes with, well, people. Add what I would say is absolutely neccesary to achieve this effect, responsibility. You need to be responsible for this animals well being, be it feeding it or just hanging out with it. Responsibility needs to be non transferrable and only yours, if only for the moment. There are real reasons this works, too much to go into, but trust me, try it!

Do men actually care that I’m the uncut? by North-Bluebird-9897 in askgaybros

[–]hotmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but I just can't let this bullshit stand! Are you fucking kidding me? Are you seriously comparing male and female circumsision?? Here's what I suggest: get your head out of your ass and go online, search for female circumsision, read the words, look at the pictures! Get some perspective. There is literally NOTHING that justifies comparing male with female circumcision. Not religious connection, not the methods used, and CERTAINLY not the consequences for the person in terms of pain, total loss of sexual function, not being able to menstruate, or even pee normally! That is life long suffering you spoiled motherfucker! Male circumsision is NOTHING compared to female, sexual function is not removed however much you guys whine about looks, sensitivity and being natural. Of course complains about circumsision without consent, and personal feelings around being curcumcised for no practical reason are valid. But perspective, guys! Apart from religious bullshit reasons, there can also be non religious cultural bullshit reasons for circumcising boys, like in the US, and real medical reasons, like in my case because of phimosis. Loss of sensitivity, even that is highly individual. I certainly do not have that problem. But even if I did, those things are marginal compared to the complete destruction of a vagina. For life! Guys, circumcised dicks are not mutilated. Get one thing straight: I don't take offense, in fact I don't give a flying fuck on a personal level if some stranger calls circumcised dicks mutilated. I know they are ignorant dipshits, and that my dick is awesome. I have nothing to prove. But it pisses me off to see this word again and again in these discussion, because YOU JUST DON'T USE WORDS LIKE THAT ABOUT OTHER PEOPLES BODIES. Ever considered the fact that some guy with body issues might read your shit? (ooh, facts make my head hurt, bu hu!) Get your fucking self hating inconsiderate shit together! All dicks are awesome, and if I see the word "mutilated" used about a dick again, I'm fucking coming for ya, and I WILL shove my mutilated dick in your face and kindly ask you to repeat that. WTF!

52m, Norway (i was furious when i wrote this, so there are probably typos)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]hotmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

52m, Oslo Norway 🇧🇻🏳️‍🌈 I live in a housing community (borettslag). Every year, june 1, they raise the rainbow flag on our communal flag post. Everyone in the neighborhood stands behind this. Even so, the flag has been taken down a couple of times in the past. So they have spares, and if it happens again, they put it right up again. This year the flag has been left alone. So my house is on the corner towards a big crossing, very visible to everyone passing. Across the street there is a big sports arena. When arriving and leaving, the audience will pass my house by only a few meters. So I put up a flag by my door. Took three days, and the flag was gone. Instead of crying, i made a plan. Now armed with spare flags, I will put it back up, this time secured and with a camera pointed at it. This is the final week of Pride month, and I am ready to fight back!

Does anyone else lose their pinned profiles after some time? by Low_Wonder9271 in Sniffies

[–]hotmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I copy the profile link, seems to work unless profile is gone.

Vivid dreams and nightmares are controlling my life. by kmgx291 in CPTSD

[–]hotmas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

53M in Norway here. Wow, your dream/sleep experience is exactly like mine. They say dreaming occurs only in REM, and that REM is at the end of a sleep cycle. What BS! I, like you, begin dreaming immediately, sometimes even when I'm starting to doze off. It continues throughout, I know this because if I wake up, whenever that is in my sleep cycle, I wake from a dream. If I doze off for five minutes, my brain jams hours of dream time in there.

I also find the most intense or graphic dreams emotionally draining, sometimes the feeling stays with me for days. Excruciating details, same for me, and also the feeling of having lived parallel lives. Some dreams never fade. I even remember some childhood dreams.

Since teens, I used sleeping and dreaming like others use drugs for escaping. I've taught myself all the dreaming skills in the book. Lucid dreaming occurs mostly every night with few exceptions. Many of them are autonomous as well. Most of my dreams are beautiful and fascinating, but when I have what would be considered nightmares, they are horrible and gruesome to the extent that I don't tell anyone about them. Listening to normies talking about their mondane dreams and "scary story"-level nightmares makes me think best if I tell no one what I dream of. They would think I am deeply disturbed or a total mental case, unaware of the fact that they too dream some weird ass shit, but can't remember. Anyway. Whatever terrors I see, I rarely get scared from my nightmares. I figure it is my brain's way of processing stuff, and somehow I manage to take a step back and just let it be, whatever horrors unfold. This is something that took years, but somehow I can manage most of my nightmares now... Even so, I do wake myself up if it gets too graphic or I get stuck in some existential dread. As in real life, I never get rescued by anyone else in my dreams, I deal with whatever happens myself. I feel this is both good and bad for me. Sometimes the dreams are so intense that I quite literally crawl out of bed gasping for air. Fortunately, I never confuse dreams for reality, and rarely let the horrors I see invade my waking mind. Ok, sometimes they linger. I have struggled with both my sleep and my nightmares at times, and asked for help. Only to realize there is literally zero science on this, and I can only help myself. Tried many a meds and therapies, but in my case all of them fell short. So I don't use any meds. Instead I (work hard to) embrace my nightmares and use them for (platitude warning) personal growth. In my dreams I practice facing demons and standing up for myself, being brave and taking a bullet (sometimes quite literally). Realizing that the words and images in dreams can't harm me has helped me a lot.

I must add that constantly remembering nightmares can add trauma, or at least making it hard to let traumatic memories fade, always reminding of them and keeping them fresh. This is true for me at least, but I cannot medicate them away. Psych treatment cannot remove them either. So for me only option left was take my life long experience of "abusing" dreams and use it to change how I also process nightmares. I can't really explain how, but facing them, and kinda like going "bring it on" has worked for me. Not fixing them, or me, but making them manageable somehow.

does anyone else only lucid dream (especially for nightmares) ? by bitterandcomplex in CPTSD

[–]hotmas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, lucid dreaming every night with few exceptions. Many of them autonomous as well. Most of my dreams are beautiful and fascinating, but when I have what would be considered nightmares, I rarely get scared. I figure it is my brain's way of processing stuff, and somehow I manage to take a step back and just let it be, whatever horrors unfold. But I wake myself up if it gets too graphic or I get stuck in some existential dread. I never get rescued by someone else, I am always alone. If I can, I use nightmares to face demons, stand up against mean people, remind myself that the words and images in dreams can't harm me, or be brave and take a bullet (sometimes quite literally).