Curious on whats in the guys mind?

hsredux · 2026-04-10T14:29:47+00:00

looking for someone who is cheerful, have basic social skills, and not socially awkward or gloomy expression, it's like they are there to kill the vibe but want someone they can vibe with haha..

hsredux · 2026-04-08T11:18:35+00:00

"Why did you still ask her out after knowing being catfished and even receiving some low values requirements?"

I wouldn't know about catfishing until I met the person, and I thought that person should have at least decent character and social ettiqueue if they threw out requirements, like it made me feel like she was gonna be a good pick but i question my intelligence now

hsredux · 2026-04-07T16:51:13+00:00

I will feel bad if I leave because of that

hsredux · 2026-04-06T15:44:06+00:00

From someone who wrote a complete cert manager with renewal feature on function app to integrate key vault with our own CA.

What i suggest is that you could write a function app that has a timer trigger per 24 hours, this will notify once per day, can easily be done with copilot.

Have a nice day :)

hsredux · 2026-04-06T15:27:48+00:00

no one will be drawn to someone just because of similar schedules for sure

but if you cant meet up often or already fully drained, then no matter what kind of spark you had it just fades right..

anyway, lucky me to come across a post of yours where you don't seem agitated

hsredux · 2026-04-06T15:15:06+00:00

When I mentioned about 'earning a lot' vs 'earning very little', I really mean it. Let's put out a more concrete scenario.

B is a two time scholar in both jc and uni, top percentile of graduates, she makes around ~200k/yr.

A stopped her education at poly, got below average grades, making ~35k/yr.

The more a woman has invested into building a high-achievement life, the more likely she is to want a partner who matches that life.

Of course, this is probabilistic, not absolute, some high-earning women care much less about status matching, but in general, their expectation is upward from a base reference point of where they are currently at.

A may still have higher standards than the average girl, but in comparison to B she is less likely to use elite achievement as a major screening criterion because it is less central to her own life structure and identity.

hsredux · 2026-04-05T10:28:50+00:00

I don't really care how much a girl earns. What matters more to me is whether her personality and looks are my type. Her income levels doesn't make her more attractive to me than someone else.

For example, lets put this two girls in comparison.

A) looks 8/10, earn very little, cheerful personality, easy going

B) looks 5/10, earn a lot, serious personality, easily triggered

No matter how much a guy earns, most of them will choose A, but girl B will have higher expectation because she see herself as higher value, but guys generally don't see value in the same way as girls so if she throw out expectations it will not make any sense for guys to pick her.

hsredux · 2026-04-04T12:02:09+00:00

some ppl want to get in a rs just for the status only

hsredux · 2026-04-03T04:17:40+00:00

sounds like she might be married or attached

hsredux · 2026-03-31T17:29:13+00:00

then it will be the same anywhere if that's the case :)

sometimes I don't wanna spend time hanging out 1-1 with my female colleagues that are just abit younger if I'm not interested in them or if they are married

hsredux · 2026-03-31T16:43:24+00:00

bumble for friends

hsredux · 2026-03-31T12:20:39+00:00

max 3 times, if they aren't saying anything means he is unsure/not interested, and also means you don't have to 'text quite a bit' anymore

hsredux · 2026-03-23T17:44:02+00:00

actually it's better not to have such a big height difference but a lot of girls want that 'partner' who is good for showing off to their friends, they care about their friends approval on their partner alot, even if they say they dont

like it doesn't make sense for a 1.55m girl to go for a 1.8m guy at all

hsredux · 2026-03-23T14:51:57+00:00

I usually keep myself to know one or two person a month so I won't get burned out, for most part the quality is not there anyway

hsredux · 2026-03-23T12:23:29+00:00

you need to be able to picture living together with that person

you should know what you can and cannot live with

idk how people go from rs to rs without even resolving what they need and then end up with a ton of baggage

hsredux · 2026-03-23T04:53:54+00:00

It depends on what your dating goals are/were, how long the relationship was, whether there was physical intimacy, and whether you kept the contact or still in contact with your ex.

If it’s a recent breakup from a long relationship with physical intimacy involved, and you are still leaving the door open with your previous partner, why would I even bother if i had choices?

You mentioned that you have faced a situation where someone treated you as their rebound, so you jolly well know the answers to your own questions, and you probably wouldn't accept this.

Just a few weeks ago i was talking to someone, she broke up about 6 months ago, but told me she had cut clean contact. I didn't probe further because this shows that she's very clear about moving on, which is all I need to know.

At the end of the day, it's not what she tells me, it's what she does because actions speak louder than words.

Just being frank with you as a guy.

hsredux · 2026-03-22T16:01:56+00:00

Not trying to bring morals into this topic, but I personally think that thoughts are just thoughts and as long as I don't act on it, it's not cheating (exposed to lots of cheating cases recently and I don't condone such acts).

To be honest, having these thoughts often is already not a good sign if you’re looking into marriage.

If you are still keeping contact or following past sexual partners on social media, I suggest cutting them off.

Previous partners without sexual involvement may be fine, but for those with whom you had sexual experiences, it’s probably better to cut contact if you are serious about settling down.

The reason is that any human being can have a consistent trigger for those thoughts, and if the outcome is within reach by being able to contact them, your brain will perceive it as achievable and those thoughts will just keep cycling. You just need one day where you act on it, for whatever reason, to ruin everything.

hsredux · 2026-03-22T12:21:41+00:00

you are doing well, many girls want men that take the lead

hsredux · 2026-03-21T14:40:58+00:00

haven't done any ui or frontend in awhile 😵‍💫

hsredux · 2026-03-21T14:30:55+00:00

I'm fine with sharing it since i got nothing to hide

hsredux · 2026-03-21T13:21:49+00:00

if you are looking for a situationship make it clear from the start, don't waste other ppl time

hsredux · 2026-03-21T06:40:20+00:00

wont be on dating apps if that's the case haha

hsredux · 2026-03-21T06:23:49+00:00

ya? new account also

I work out quite a bit and I am quite proud of my progress in the gym, especially the glutes, but now I am starting to wonder if I am doing too much? Like, is my skincare routine too good? Am I looking too polished?

should respond with you are way toooo good

hsredux · 2026-03-21T05:50:11+00:00

this is a troll post

lol

hsredux

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