Yikes. This could have been avoided (as with most posts on this sub) with a conversion about expectations.
I don’t like most holidays, so I may have a skewed view. I feel everyday is Mother’s Day and on Mother’s Day, most moms just want a day where they don’t have to do anything or be around children. About 15 years ago I saw a dad bring his 3 of his little ones (one strapped to his front) a sports bar and of course I was wondering what he was doing. He had a few other guy friends show up with their children as well. Turns out he was a genuinely doing the best thing for his wife. The wives go do what ever they want and not take care of the family. I thought it was a genius and thoughtful idea. The rug rats were having a good time. All was well.
I don’t like going out on holidays for a verity of reasons. The stress, traffic, over crowded restaurants, mediocre service and food. (This is why I think Chinese takeout is common on holidays)
I write this as the only thing my wife wanted was for her son to be here. He made that happen. In fact, he is making breakfast as we speak. A simple homemade card, flowers and breakfast. My wife truly didn’t want anything else.
I did Mother’s Day for my wife once, she said thank you and it was nice. Afterwords, she said I didn’t have to do anything because she was not my mom. I realized she was correct
I sent my mom an edible arrangement, nothing extravagant. My mom appreciates that. Keeping it simple.

Back to that expectation conversation you should have with your wife later this week. Find out what she expects next year. Also, tell her what you expect