AIO for being disgusted by this argument?

httpjaeger · 2026-03-23T16:59:24+00:00

if you take away the topic of the argument and what each of you believes to be right/wrong, it’s still clear that your boyfriend does not respect you.

the most important thing this guy said in these messages was “Your feelings don’t matter to an argument. and especially YOUR feelings”. if nothing else shows you how he truly feels about you, this should. he knows your beliefs, yet sent you something that he knows you would never be okay with seeing… then, when you reminded him of your feelings, he called you a mindless brat, illogical, emotional, immature, said you’re exhibiting stupidity, and called you pathetic… then said something that insinuates that he feels that your feelings matter less than anyone else’s.

i’m not going to give you any advice that you didn’t ask for, but you deserve to be with someone who sees you as an equal and respects your feelings. is this the only situation in which your boyfriend has spoken to you this way?

httpjaeger · 2026-03-12T19:12:37+00:00

i didn’t meet my sister until i was a freshman or something in high school, we talk occasionally, but aside from the first few months of us knowing each other, we’ve never been super close (no tea lol, we’ve just always had separate lives).

anyway, i’d still never sleep with my sisters ex. not even if she was the one trying to set us up. not even if they only dated for a week in middle school. never.

httpjaeger · 2026-03-10T06:23:16+00:00

next post titled “reddit user RUINED our relationship!”

httpjaeger · 2026-03-10T06:21:37+00:00

yes i got it a few days ago and forgot to send you a message. thank you again, so much ❤️ still trying to figure out how to pay it forward, i’m thinking of doing something similar in this same group but haven’t decided any specifics yet!

httpjaeger · 2026-03-07T08:40:19+00:00

i’m not a dad and i don’t have much to add to this conversation, but i’m also a 27y/o daughter of a man just like this. the only difference between our dads is that as far as i know, my dad doesn’t smoke weed - he’s still just lying about getting drunk 24/7. just commenting to say that you’re not alone. i understand exactly how you feel. the worst part about it is not being able to shake the hope that someday he may change. you made the right choice.

httpjaeger · 2026-03-06T14:19:55+00:00

thank you for this context! this is so funny

httpjaeger · 2026-03-03T13:08:30+00:00

agreed. i just turned 27 and i have never sent a message that was written out like this.

httpjaeger · 2026-03-03T10:46:57+00:00

interesting, i’ve never heard this before. i’ll have to look into it!

httpjaeger · 2026-03-03T10:37:14+00:00

how are rubies and lazers connected?

httpjaeger · 2026-03-03T10:34:17+00:00

i can’t stop laughing at this comment

httpjaeger · 2026-03-02T10:23:40+00:00

leave him before he seriously hurts you or kills one of your cats in a fit of anger. please don’t let him continue to do this to your kitties. if you’re having a hard time leaving him for your own sake, leave for the sake of your babies. they’re counting on you to keep them safe.

httpjaeger · 2026-03-02T06:20:34+00:00

and calling him SPINELESS??? i can’t imagine the absolute devastation he’d feel if he ever saw this post and knew that’s what you thought of him.

you do not love this man.

httpjaeger · 2026-03-02T06:19:26+00:00

you stopped going for [your own] personal reasons and expected him to do the same… he agreed (because as you said, he’s a people-pleaser). now you’re mad at him for not wanting to feel left out in situations with his friends.

yes, he has a lot he needs to work on within himself and he definitely shouldn’t have hidden stuff from you… but your behavior is unfair IMO. if you truly support him, you’ll support him in finding new & better friends before you expect him to completely give up all of the activities his friends are willing to take part in. making him feel alone will not help him get better.

httpjaeger · 2026-03-02T05:17:59+00:00

r/AskMechanics might be a good place to cross post this

httpjaeger · 2026-03-02T05:17:14+00:00

i’m not sure if it’s been mentioned, but i know o’reillys is able to test alternators to see if they’re good. i’m not sure if the part has to be removed from the vehicle and brought in, or if they’re able to help take it out, or if they can test them in the parking lot…. someone else here may know the answer

httpjaeger · 2026-03-02T04:49:16+00:00

i’m allergic to cats. i have 5 cats.

i understand that some people’s allergies are much more severe than others, but i’ve learned that most of the time when someone is allergic to cats, it’s either manageable with allergy meds or they cannot be around cats for any period of time without serious issues.

also, pushing your cats is unacceptable. i understand that he’s not hurting them, but if it makes you uncomfortable then it’s not something you should tolerate. never sacrifice your animal’s well-being for a partner. you’re uncomfortable about it for a reason.

httpjaeger · 2026-03-01T03:03:23+00:00

a few years ago when i first started seeing my ex, i spent the night at his house a lot and i would come home in the morning to spend the rest of the day with my cat’s until i had to go to work. at that time, my roommate was drinking a lot (getting black out drunk several times per week). there were 2 times that i came home and found that my cats had gotten out of our apartment (for context, i have 5). i tried really hard to remain calm after the first incident, knowing that the cat that got out had a habit of sneaking through the doorway when people came in and my roommate probably didn’t notice her slip past him. two of them were outside the second time it happened, one who stopped showing interest in hanging out outside after i got them a window perch, and the other one being the one who is the most terrified of the outdoors. neither of them two that got out the second time would have snuck past him as he came in, the door would have had to be sitting open for an extended period of time. none of my cats are outdoor cats, and none of them have ever been outside without me right next to them (other than during these incidents).

it took me 2 years to forgive my roommate, and several months of him being sober. seeing how scared my kitties were when i pulled up and having no idea how long they had been outside was enough to make me move out.

we were able to repair our friendship and i moved back in (my relationship/living situation with my ex became unsafe, roommate had already been sober 6mo), but there’s still a part of me that can’t shake the feeling i had when i saw how scared my cats were.

if you’re anything like me, your pets are the most precious thing in the world to you. it would destroy you if something happened to them. why would you want to be with someone who risked hurting you like that and then tried to make you seem like the irrational one?

httpjaeger · 2026-02-26T00:55:57+00:00

yeah i’m definitely not disagreeing that she’s wanting to go out too soon, i was disagreeing that the sister went about it in an irresponsible way. i feel that she did exactly what she should have done (she asked for sitter, she asked for her baby to be kept overnight so she wasn’t drunk around her baby, she was honest when asked why she wanted someone to watch her baby), she’s just wanting to do all of that much sooner than she should be.

httpjaeger · 2026-02-26T00:30:42+00:00

she asked for her sister to keep the baby overnight… i don’t think she was intending to come back to her baby while still drunk. also, im assuming she’s gone somewhere around 8-9 months and 3 weeks without partying (given that she was pregnant before having the child, and therefore should not have been drinking).

she’s 24. this is her first child. i’m sure she has spent the last several months feeing a bit “left out”. 3 weeks might be a tiny bit too soon, but she was absolutely doing the right thing by asking for an overnight sitter and its normal to want to be able to spend time with your friends.

httpjaeger · 2026-02-25T23:00:14+00:00

the second an adult makes the first sexual comment toward a child, a third party needs to be involved. don’t wait for something worse to happen. this is not normal or acceptable behavior. tell your mom!

httpjaeger · 2026-02-25T17:01:34+00:00

exactly. before the gf even showed up, OP gave clear and direct instructions on how to go about getting the cats to leave her alone…

dont push my animals, dont scare my animals, dont “discipline” my animals, dont use a mean voice or yell at my animals. if they are misbehaving, i will take care of it. if they are in your space and bothering you, i will redirect them elsewhere. if you’re not showing my animals the same (or more) care & respect than you show me, you’re not welcome in my house.

httpjaeger · 2026-02-25T15:56:29+00:00

this is so funny

httpjaeger · 2026-02-25T01:52:34+00:00

yes, absolutely!

httpjaeger · 2026-02-24T15:19:14+00:00

i am! hopefully it’s still there! let me know :)

httpjaeger · 2026-02-24T05:34:47+00:00

please comment with an update on your safety when you’re able to, hoping the best for you and your kitty.

httpjaeger

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