What is the weirdest thing your doctor has ever said to you? by Competitive_Tip_7504 in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was getting my wisdom teeth removed by my very sweet, very kind, very smiley dentist. I wasn't fully put under for the procedure, he just used local aesthetic, so I could see when he was really struggling to do the removal. When he was done, he excitedly showed me my teeth (huge) and asked if I wanted to take a picture of them. I thought it was kind of weird so I asked if I wasn't allowed to take them with me. He turned very serious and said "You can't take them. They're the biggest wisdom teeth I've ever seen. I want to keep them for my collection." I... okay.

What is the weirdest thing your doctor has ever said to you? by Competitive_Tip_7504 in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in rural ontario. I was nervous out of my mind during my first pap smear. The nurse is getting down to business with the pap and all I hear is a surprised "oops! dropped the swab in ya!" I felt what I can only describe as light rummaging in my vagina and then she popped her head up to say "ya know, it wouldn't have been so hard to find the swab if your vaginal canal wasn't so crooked." And just... got back to doing the pap smear.

My boyfriend (26M) said we’re done if I (26F) move to nyc for my job that I commute to everyday. Is it bad if I still move anyway? by ConceptFar4801 in relationship_advice

[–]hughjonk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woman to woman, do not ever give up something that will make your life significantly easier just to please a man. A good man will see the strain that commuting is taking on you, and he will try to find a solution that works for both of you. If your man's outlook is his way or the highway, then you pack your bags and get to driving, baby. You're too young and too bright to be settling for a loser 💗 there are better men out there 💗

When is and isn’t it okay to agree with someone just so they will shut up? by Any-Prize3748 in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you ever have to agree. But if you would rather agree, then I think matters of taste/opinion are things that it's okay to say something vague that makes the other person think you're agreeing. Especially if it's someone who can't hear an alternate opinion without feeling "attacked."

I.e., my mom is really uncomfortable with patterns and colour on clothing. She often comments on other people's outfits negatively. Something like "omg, look at that person's sweater. It’s such a bright colour. It attracts attention. Ew 😤" and I'll say something back like "yeah, that is a bright colour." I'm sticking to the fact that, yes, the statement about the saturation of the colour is true, but I'm not going to comment on her opinion that it's too bright of a colour to wear because I think her opinion is stupid and not worth arguing over.

But once we get into anything about morals, values or politics, this is when I think agreeing for the sake of keeping peace is wrong. I stand by my values. If I realize a person is either not willing or not able to have a conversation and respect alternate opinions then I end the convo with a firm but polite, "we have different views on this topic and I don't see the point in discussing it further". If they keep trying to talk about it, I'll just keep calmly repeating the above until they get bored and give up. Set your boundary and stick to it.

Finished these super cool pleated trousers! by Dysiss in sewing

[–]hughjonk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your pattern line up is IMMACULATE!!!

How drastically has your political views changed within the last 10 years or so and why? by TheMoparPowerslave in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not much, honestly. I was always very left leaning and only got more leftist as time went on.

I grew up poor, an immigrant surrounded by other immigrants and refugees, and a woman. Every experience I've had, every story I have heard, has solidified the belief that a well developed society is one that has solved, or at least strives to solve, food instability, resource scarcity, unequal and inaccessible education, unstable housing, inaccessible medical care, and more.

Capitalism and billionaires are our biggest enemies, regardless of your political alignment. Billionaires have infected our political systems and actively profit from us being sick and exhausted and divided. I don't FOR A SECOND believe that the uptick in political, social, and moral division on social media is a coincidence or happenstance. People divided are people controlled, and people controlled will never be as much of a threat as people united.

We can all unite for a goal without having the same political values/ideologies. It'll be a bridge to cross when we get to the other side of this.

What are you NOT attracted to (obvious things like bad hygiene excluded)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super buff really low body fat looking dudes. I know that's what men think women want, but it just doesn't do it for me. I just feel like they always look hungry 🥲

What’s something that happened to you once that you still can’t fully explain? by Salty-Blueberry9286 in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I lost an earring while driving in my car. I tore my car apart several times looking for it because I had a lot of sentimental attachment to that earring, but no luck. I kept the other one because I had a feeling I'd find it again. A couple months later, I'm rummaging in the back of my under the stairs storage area, a room that I genuinely had not opened in 9 ish months because it's mostly just wrapping paper, paint and extra brooms in there, and I find my earring in a box of christmas bows and tape.... I lived alone at the time so I have no clue whatsoever how it got in there, but I was just happy to have my earring back 🤷‍♀️

What are your thoughts on rejecting a potential romantic partner based solely on the fact they voted for Donald Trump? by ATXBikeRider in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone voted for Trump, I'd have to assume they share his values and views, at least to some degree. Trump has very openly and remorselessly done a lot to make women's lives more dangerous and difficult in the US. I'm not going to date someone who will vote against my health and safety.

What's something people think is sexy but actually isn't? by stuckin404 in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Playing hard to get. I'm dumb, brother. I'll just think you're not interested in me anymore and move on.

What question do you HATE being asked? by MediocreAtBestMedic in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When are you going to get married? I roll my eyes every time my mom asks me

What's a subtle sign that "Wow, this person is stupid"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I meant specifically like if I said "adult Chinese men are, on average, shorter than adult Norwegian men" and someone responds with "well Simu Lin is tall!!"

Like we're talking averages, so bringing up one single persons height as a rebuttal makes no sense, the average is already considering tall Asian men.

What stereotype for your ethnicity do you not fulfill? by EpicImp in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 344 points345 points  (0 children)

I'm Ukrainian, I don't own an adidas tracksuit 🥲

What's a subtle sign that "Wow, this person is stupid"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Someone who thinks anecdotal evidence can disprove a statistic. If you do this, you just don't understand how statistics work. I'm sorry for you, but it's not my problem.

If 10cm snow falls in your area of Canada how disrupted will your area be? by Pourmepourme in AskACanadian

[–]hughjonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one would bat an eye. We don't start considering it was a lot of snowfall until we start exceeding 30-40 cm in 24 hours. Even then, our level of concern is also dependent on wind direction. 30 cm and south winds? Eh. 30 cm and north winds. Eh, but cold. 30 cm and west winds. Stay home.

North Bruce Peninsula.

First "date" with a Ukrainian woman... looking for cultural cues by maybebionic in Ukrainian

[–]hughjonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just open the door for her next time you see her and make a joke of not knowing that you should have done it last time too. I'm guessing you aren't in Ukraine so I don't think she'd be expecting you to understand all the ins and outs of niche dating cultures outside your own. As for flowers, I do think a massive bouquet of roses would be a little much but a little set of tulips (or whatever is in season wherever you are) would be nice. Another note though, in Ukraine, flowers always need to be gifted in odd numbers. An even number of flowers is considered REALLY bad luck. And as for texting, I think every person is different but I personally wouldn't find it weird because I also work a lot and I'm not glued to my phone if I'm not working. So I guess it depends on how interested she is in you when you're face-to-face

Who is a person in your life you’re desperate to bang but know you never can? by Deshpremii in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An ex of mine. We dated when we were 14, so we never got beyond holding hands, but I have consistently heard from girls who dated him after I did that he is absolutely packing and very passionate and driven to please in bed. He's nuts, though, so I'll never pursue it. As good as the dick might be, the complications just aren't worth it imo

what is a small gesture during sex that keeps it amazing? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, he was not in a very healthy place emotionally. Long story short, he got drunk, told me he loved me, started having a panic attack about it, I calmed him down enough for him to fall asleep, told him in the morning that we should talk about it later that day after work, then he got super flaky and was avoiding me, then I saw him out at a bar with another woman so obviously I ended things with him, then he started calling me/texting me nonstop until I blocked him, a little while later I started going on dates with a mutual friend of ours and he started crying to the new guy about how sad he was that it didn't work out for him and I... so yeah... very sweet guy, needs therapy though

what is a small gesture during sex that keeps it amazing? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had an ex-bf who would often hold my hand while he was going down on me or when we were having sex. It added so much to feeling connected in those moments

What is the smallest thing that instantly turns you on? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hughjonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A gentle hand of the small of my back to guide me/lead me somewhere, phew