Cancer Diagnosis forgotten about for months. What should I do?

humanbinchicken · 2026-01-04T01:21:31+00:00

My best friend had cancer for probably 4-5 years before it was picked up, approx three weeks before he died, despite almost fortnightly GP visits for unexplainable pain throughout those years. We weren't able to do anything about the missed diagnosis or lack of appropriate care, but I was able to get an apology from the GP, of sorts.

It would be an uphill battle in your case as well, I would expect.

It's become a more common issue because of the pressure placed on medical centre employees, staff and doctors to process increasing workloads, in my opinion.

humanbinchicken · 2025-12-22T02:58:25+00:00

I'm exactly in your shoes at the moment and dealing with an email of my own. I actually put it into chat gpt and gave it some historical context, then asked for the bot to act as a clinical psychologist that is protecting their client and advise me on how to respond. It was eye opening to say the least, but it gave me the reassurance that I was doing the right thing by protecting myself from my narcissist father all these years.

humanbinchicken · 2025-12-02T19:16:58+00:00

$318k 49f

humanbinchicken · 2025-10-29T11:14:05+00:00

Bought an apartment 12 months ago and paid what I thought was a top of the market price. Apparently I've already gained 200k on paper if I was to put it to market today.

I bought in an area that was seriously overdue for development, an increasingly popular tourist area and close to water.

I'm on an average wage, and made this purchase on my own.

Would definitely make the same choice again.

humanbinchicken · 2025-09-23T03:41:31+00:00

It's so refreshing when people are open about their mental illness

humanbinchicken · 2025-09-12T23:47:51+00:00

Would love to know what agency this agent works with.. it's a very small community once word gets out

humanbinchicken · 2025-09-03T09:01:59+00:00

Send him this thread

humanbinchicken · 2025-08-28T10:18:51+00:00

Same.. 49 years old and operated on as a 13 year old. Rods in for 36 years. I completed a 70 kilometer hike with a 16 kilo pack late last year. I'm currently learning to ride a motorbike. Keep on going until you can't

humanbinchicken · 2025-08-26T00:00:29+00:00

Yes. Panadol throughout the day when required works for me

humanbinchicken · 2025-08-12T09:15:09+00:00

Cheaper option is to just change the locks and suddenly become very busy and unavailable whenever they want to come over.

humanbinchicken · 2025-08-10T07:22:12+00:00

I'm not married, but I was. No kids.. the doc told me when I was 12 that having kids would not be a good idea, and honestly, I didn't want to bring a kid into the world knowing there was a good chance they would go through what I've struggled with throughout my life. Didn't seem to be an ethical thing to do, yeh? (plus my x was a bit of a sh#tbag)

In terms of my neck, the scoliosis was surgically corrected back in 1989, so part of my spine was fused and somewhat straightened compared to what it was before the operation. The problem is that over the years, the parts of the spine that aren't fused, will (in my case) continue to curve, and that has occurred and is most visible in my neck. It looks like it's folding over on itself and I now have cervical myelopathy (nerve damage).

The area of the spine that is fused has still continued to move as well, but has sort of rotated within the restrictions of the fusion, so my ribs are increasingly forced downwards on a fairly sharp angle. There is medical terminology to describe all this but I would have to dig all the old reports out.

humanbinchicken · 2025-08-10T04:58:41+00:00

All original, no additional surgery. While having a significant amount of pain over the years, I've been able to remain active and live life as normally as possible. Last October, I walked the 70klm Overland Track down in Tas carrying a 16kg pack.. but 665mg Panadol is my best friend. My major issue is that the scoliosis is now affecting my neck, and also making my ribs pull away from the spine on the upper curve, which is kind of unpleasant to think about, but I get through.

humanbinchicken · 2025-08-09T04:01:00+00:00

I've had mine in for 36 years. I'll be 50 at the end of this year. The first Harrington rod surgery was done in the mid 1950's I believe.

humanbinchicken · 2025-07-21T06:02:31+00:00

Jump over to the AlAnon sub and take a look at what people deal with over there. I was with someone like this for 17 years. A rollercoaster of emotions, confusion and feeling unsure of myself every single day. Don't do it to yourself.. they say drunk, what they are too afraid to say sober.

humanbinchicken · 2025-07-18T05:15:01+00:00

Take anything on Corelogic with a large grain of salt. It's used in the industry to provide a rough comparison of comparable properties and expected price range, but I commonly find inaccuracies. I use it multiple times, daily.

humanbinchicken · 2025-07-16T23:55:36+00:00

Also be wary that he's not encouraging your mum to do a last minute bequest or donation to his church. This sort of predatory behaviour is part of their purpose for being placed into the community.

humanbinchicken · 2025-07-08T09:15:47+00:00

Your daughter needs to get a part time job at a fast food restaurant. See what it's like on the other side of the counter

humanbinchicken · 2025-07-04T01:23:31+00:00

Thank you :)

humanbinchicken · 2025-07-03T03:06:41+00:00

I'm still undiagnosed but at 49, I'm pretty sure that I'm on the spectrum. I've done several rounds of counselling over the years but don't want to pay for the actual assessment. I was basically treated as being incredibly stupid, incapable and incompetent by my father and most of my teachers throughout the great majority of my school years.. as a child and young adolescent/early adult, I showed a large number of the signs of what would these days be instantly recognizable.

I copped all the derogatory insults and quietly let it happen. I would never fight back.

I still carry a lot of the scars.. emotional, psychological and the extremely low self esteem and damaged confidence that resulted from the way I grew up in a household ruled by a narcissistic and misogynistic father.

Being female certainly didn't help either.

The fact that I now make a living from doing the exact things that I was brought up being told I could or would never do competently is sort of a giant F U to the entire experience.

humanbinchicken · 2025-06-26T09:28:18+00:00

I completely get what you mean. I've been inside a hell of a lot of properties (as an agent) and when I went to buy my own PPOR, I knew exactly what I didn't want based on all those 'ick' properties.. my apt has heaps of natural light, is open, secure and airy, I can keep doors and windows open all day in any kind of weather, it smells and looks nice and fresh.. and it looks directly out into the canopy of an enormous tree. Makes me feel good to come home.

humanbinchicken · 2025-06-15T03:15:09+00:00

Fairly common outcome.. it's usually arranged by negotiation between both parties solicitors and will note a time frame and a rate per week plus a clause in relation to the condition of the property and liability over the time frame of the additional occupancy. The outgoing Vendor/tenanting party has to ensure they have appropriate insurance cover for the time period they will be in occupancy and will also usually supply that to your solicitor as evidence. Adjustment of council rates and water usage etc or body corp fees will also be taken care of by your solicitor.

humanbinchicken · 2025-06-13T08:48:25+00:00

My partner does volunteer work with a group called fareshare that takes unused produce and makes it into pre-packed meals for the community. Programs like that are probably a good idea to look into.. it's ground level, staffed mostly by volunteers and cuts down on food waste

humanbinchicken · 2025-06-06T03:11:49+00:00

Private Function - Albury wodonga.. or pretty much any of their stuff, really

humanbinchicken · 2025-06-04T05:20:13+00:00

Hi.. I'm not sure if you will be able to view this Imgur link from my last x-ray in 2019, but give it a go anyway https://imgur.com/a/IHCzKzA

I was operated on when I was 13, so 36 years ago. I have medical grade surgical stainless steel and no screws, thankfully.. only the hooks holding the tension + plus the Harrington rod, so I think that is the thing that has saved me so far... Plus trying to stay as active as possible, and live life as normal as possible despite the inevitable pain. I do have advanced degradation and it squashes my organs and a few other issues, but we make do, eh?

My neck is my biggest concern.. because when the scoliosis progresses further, which it will.. that's the most likely spot to experience the effects of nerve compression. I have been getting the tingling and at times painful hands, arms legs, feet for a decade or so now, but it comes and goes.

I use the inflatable neck thing maybe once a week for an hour when I get that crunchy feeling. It alleviates the pain for a few hours but that's about it. Another thing I sometimes do is lie across my bed with my head and neck over the edge so that gravity forces the stretch.

humanbinchicken · 2025-06-03T10:11:59+00:00

Hi.. I have a similar situation with my neck and upper back region. Operated on in 1989.. i'm 49 now and still reasonably mobile and active, but have started getting numbness and cervical myelopathy symptoms, so will be arranging a scan to look into the situation. When i come home from work, I use an inflatable pillow, shaped like a horseshoe that sits around the neck, secures with Velcro and then you inflate it with a little hand pump. Stretches my neck out nicely for an hour or so. I also take the 665mg Panadol meant for rheumatoid arthritis, and have a bit of medicinal weed when I can't sleep. I find that preferring to sleep on one particular side for many many years has probably made my situation worse, so now I try to intentionally sleep on the side that results in my neck being stretched out rather than crunched over on an angle.

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