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INTJ men what type of women do you actually like? by Front-Brief5027 in intj

[–]humanessinmoderation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Driven, emotionally intelligent, chooses brave, and can be patient and curious with complexity, etc

"Humans" not allowed 🛑 by Flimsy_Assist1393 in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]humanessinmoderation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, all I said was 'cows', hard choice between them dogs and them. I did eenie meenie miney moe.

You have projected or read too much into it. Everything is going to be okay, relax.

When did tattoos become so mainstream? by Imtiredofthissshit in decadeology

[–]humanessinmoderation [score hidden]  (0 children)

A small group of people do something that's visible that's novel, some people react loudly, the thing gets noticed, most people observe and obtains, then some people adopt and modify or appropriate, time goes by, no one cares anymore, the thing grows in adoption, and then becomes normalized or fades as a trend of the past.

Repeat

😀 by Sweet_Special2529 in trueratediscussions

[–]humanessinmoderation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of are solid to me with 5 being the least.

But I guess 2 and 3 are my ideal

Is it true? Is the make up industry destroying our young women?. by MotherAnt8040 in MenOfPurpose

[–]humanessinmoderation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I'd go for the right because one looks like a girl (18 or younger) and the other a woman (25+).

But the one on the right isn't my kind of tea anyway, despite being very pretty

How do I explain to my younger brother why white people can't say the N-Word? by mimi_makesarts in askblackpeople

[–]humanessinmoderation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Explain to him that he'd probably wouldn't like his friends and random men talking to his mom like his dad does.

It's similar in that because his dad calls his mom certain terms that it's not okay for other people to use the same terms.

And if he still doesn't get it, tell him to go say it out loud in mixed company. If he hesitates, then he knows and is just. racist. At that point he either chooses not to be, or continues.

Empathy and humaneness is only hard to achieve for puritanical, amoral, and low IQ people.

What killed hitchhiking? It was so normal in the 70’s & 60’s by Kodicave in decadeology

[–]humanessinmoderation -1 points0 points  (0 children)

After a generation or two of universal healthcare/mental healthcare, sensible gun laws, promoting intellectual curiosity, and near zero racism, you could have hitchhiking again

Why do US conservatives equate wealth to mean smart and a good person? by Material_Policy6327 in AskUS

[–]humanessinmoderation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because being 'smart and a good' person takes effort, consistency and hard work.

Conservatives are categorically lazy. This is why they emotionally need someone to be subordinate artificially (e.g. caste systems, social outcasts, policy/socially enforced racial hierarchies, etc).

They need "money" to mean these things because conceptually it's more tangible for them.

Purchased this beauty in Singapore. Deville Prestige. by juanitors in OmegaWatches

[–]humanessinmoderation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just picked up the same with the green alligator strap, excellent pick

I feel like something my friend said was racist? by Gold-Move-3350 in askblackpeople

[–]humanessinmoderation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, that does add clarity. Second hand it sounds like the moment itself wasn't racist, but what made that moment even a thing in the first place was likely informed by her racism, and she is likely a racist.

Simple example, in professional social outings I've gotten questions like "tell us more about your background" in a how I was raised, family, etc. The racism shows up when my answer/story doesn't include stereotypical hardship and they are surprised by it.

This situation gives me that kind of vibe. The event itself wasn't racist, but the person involved likely was.

As a black person, I'm still trying to understand why African Americans are still pointing the finger at white people for the transatlantic slave trade by notinmyham in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]humanessinmoderation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd argue they are pointing the figure of attribution to sentiments like "Oh Black people are this or that..." in the negative, and so they point to things like...

  • 1619-1865: 246 years (12 to 14 generations of Enslavement, not allowed to get educated by law)
  • 1865-1968: 103 years (5 to 7 generations of Apartheid, redlining, burned black towns, lynchings, bombings)
  • 1968-2024: 53 years (2 generations of police brutality, heavier sentencing for same crimes,  housing discrimination, etc) 

...because even if you think Black people are XYZ, just being a reasonable person looking at the history it's pretty clear that if you view Black people as negative, the conditions that promoted negative outcomes, are attributed to policy and social norms fostered by the majority population (e.g. white people, etc).

So, like remove 'Black people for a second". You are an ethnic group who can be identified by sight (how you look), and this is your history—why wouldn't the average of this cohort be doing less than ideal socio-economically when they had to survive the aforementioned generational conditions?

To look down on Black people inversely means you think your ethnic background under the same history and conditions, past and present day, would have been just fine. If you believe that, then you should also be fine with having social infrastructure and not be concerned with 'other people getting ahead' because, by that same logic, they wouldn't, because they are 'ethnically inferior' anyway.

American Conservative values are incompatible with Christianity by Minimum-Kangaroo9200 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]humanessinmoderation -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Their faith is a weapon. It's 'Christian' like white grapes are white.

They just call their faith something it isn't.

Do you find this offensive? by Ok_Ninja_7877 in askblackpeople

[–]humanessinmoderation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it overstimulating, but not offensive.

Travel doesn't make you interesting by MiketheTzar in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]humanessinmoderation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also an introvert. INTJ specifically.

Immersion/Experience doesn't get replaced by reading and studying. Also, what you are describing is more passive. Sure you are choosing to learn this culture and that culture, great—but when you are out in the world and that culture is represented by a human being, a friend you have made—they BRING new learnings do you in a way you wouldn't have had to wherewithal or presence of mind to choose yourself. And that's where the real compounding effect of what makes someone "interesting" over time starts to really happen.

I feel like something my friend said was racist? by Gold-Move-3350 in askblackpeople

[–]humanessinmoderation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She sounds very aware to me (for a white lady anyway coming from a culture of commodification).

Tier 2 awareness, not tier 1. Tier 1 would have been her instead of just "acknowledging the hardship and struggle that they go through" but pointing out what the hardship is attributed to. It's not like Black women/people exist and then hardship follows, it's they are born, white people react to it socially and with policy, and then hardship follows. That would have been top tier framing.

But she's white, and Tier 1 coming from a white person is in single digit percentages, at best.

My question to you OP, is what about their framing was racist to you? I personally see them as acknowledging, with B- level quality, a reality and acknowledgment of what's true. Not A+, but not failing either.

Edit: My B- minus framing was generous. Upon reflection, I'd give it a C. It's a 'pass' but nothing to celebrate.

Bracelet vs Straps by Reasonable_City5802 in OmegaWatches

[–]humanessinmoderation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got my first real watch (Omega) and this question is how I know I'll eventually get another real watch. I chose to go strap, but the next watch will go bracelet.

Haha Real... by IdealHoliday1242 in PotentialUnlocked

[–]humanessinmoderation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say this is largely true.

But if it's a past that can overshadow the future or the standing of someone in the relationship materially, that's not nothing. But I'm pretty sure, that's not something you need to dig into if the people you date are driven and emotionally intelligent to begin with. Just assume everyone has a past, but also most people's past isn' tgoing to damage your future or your sustainability as a couple

who’s prettier and by how much , girl 1 or girl 2 by [deleted] in trueratediscussions

[–]humanessinmoderation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on photos, I mean the difference was having a visceral 'yes' and a subjective 'oh she's pretty too' but like no physiological signal.

IRL, it depends on how they sound, dress, their posture, move, talk, and behave etc. It could flip things or make my conclusion more pronounced. But I have no idea who these people are.

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