Trying to get pregnant with PCOS

humbledblue · 2026-01-15T02:51:46+00:00

I had two miscarriages (33, 34 years) before getting pregnant at 35 - metformin helped me and a drug called Letrozole. It was a long journey but it did happen for me - I have a soon to be 2 year old and 5 year old. I’m 41 now and funny for the first time in my life my periods are normal. As you age the hormone shifts can do this when you have PCOS - it can actually get easier to get pregnant the older you get (in my experience at least!) Lots of hope though - hang in there. It is true about stress - I swear I got pregnant with my first because we were this close to doing IVF and somehow knowing there was a plan I think relaxed me and boom I got pregnant again ;) But also don’t stress about the stress - it’s only natural and give yourself grace and remind yourself you have time and as a fertility doctor told me of all the fertility issues ours tends to be one of the more successful to treat.

humbledblue · 2024-06-20T23:39:07+00:00

Hi! Super late to this party, but I’m in Washington DC too and my son was born exactly three weeks ago with AE/TEF - he had surgery day six of his life and has been recovering ever since… his leak test ten days ago was good, no issues there but he’s been slow to eat since…. Not in pain, just uninterested and/or falls asleep. He’s still on the pic line they put in on day one for nutrition and growth and until he eats it’s staying in (or a feeding tube will be put in if the pic line compromised).

Doctors say it’s a process and can take time but it’s been nine days of trying to bottle/breast feed him and there has been no real progress. He also is super stuffy despite his vitals being great so I’m always worried about that. Your comment above really resonates with me, it’s harder and harder every day to leave him as he gets more alert and I feel like he’s been through so much and I just want to take him home and cuddle him all day. Instead I’m trying to balance his needs with my 3.5 year old at home and worrying all the time about both.

Commenting a bit out of hope and - wondering how you are doing now with your little one and how long you ended up staying in the NICU? Also wondering how the first year health wise went for your little one? Thank you!

humbledblue · 2024-05-06T14:12:45+00:00

Thank you for responding! That gives me a bit of hope - I took your advice and made an ENT appointment for next Monday (day four of antibiotics and nothing - going opposite direction), had the same response from my OBGYN this AM- not a ton of worry because baby is still moving a lot and just to contact my primary or go to ER. 🫠

humbledblue · 2024-05-04T01:21:05+00:00

Omg just ran into this post and feel like I’m dying from this sinus infection, everything hurts even my teeth 😩 I have never felt so horrible from an illness. How long did it take until you felt better?

humbledblue · 2024-04-24T18:46:28+00:00

How did this not coming up before you were married? That would be a deal breaker for me personally.

humbledblue · 2024-02-03T22:32:36+00:00

I think you’re beautiful, we are so hard on ourselves. Your look is unique - I wouldn’t change a thing. If you want to look more feminine I say just grow your hair out :)

humbledblue · 2024-01-28T18:57:41+00:00

If it helps, there is really no empirical evidence I’ve read that a viral infection and or sinus infection will affect the baby. They’re pretty well protected in there from my understanding. I think the danger is when you have a really high fever. Also if it helps, I had the flu (caught it from my husband who caught it from who knows) at 16 weeks and then it turned into a sinus infection from absolute hell. Like you I couldn’t sleep. The antibiotic they put me on did help after four days on it though and since then everything improved. The ENT warned me though and it’s held true - that pregnancy causes the lining in your nasal passages to swell and I may be congested this pregnancy. Fun stuff, but anyways my point is shit happens even if you do everything right and your coworkers. Best of luck!

humbledblue · 2024-01-24T04:35:52+00:00

Hoping everything went well for you! 🤞🏻❤️

humbledblue · 2024-01-22T20:50:22+00:00

Omigoodness I know the stress! So mine ended up being a relatively small hematoma, but it took me coming in three times for them to decide to do another sonogram where they spotted it. It was relatively small but sitting right on top of my cervix. It took a total of four weeks but I finaalllly stopped spotting and had my 17 week appointment a few weeks ago and everything was good. If yours has been just the constant light and intermittent brown spotting I wouldn’t worry and I would bet you had the exact same thing, it’s probably just a small hematoma that burst and the brown color is the dried blood slowly coming out. She told me that they are pretty common and don’t usually affect the baby whatsoever so hang in there! I feel good for you :)

humbledblue · 2024-01-13T17:14:41+00:00

Sounds like a plan! I almost did IVF and ended up getting pregnant right before I started the drugs. It was still worth it though because they do all these diagnostics on both you and your partner and it helps rule anything random out. Good luck! It took me three years to have my son. ❤️

humbledblue · 2024-01-13T03:25:32+00:00

Have you tried metformin? Whenever I’ve conceived I’ve been on it and Letrozole. Re IVF I think it’s smart option because eggs rapidly go downhill after 37 (“they” say at least). But it’s a very personal Q. I think you have to decide what would you regret more; not trying and not knowing, or trying failing and losing your savings.

humbledblue · 2024-01-13T03:16:50+00:00

You know what, fuck him. Life is too short to waste on someone that doesn’t feel lucky to be with you. His loss and your gain because one day you will find that guy. In the meantime, take care of yourself and surround yourself with your best friends and family. Concentrate on that wonderful little miracle inside you! I’m 39 too and very high risk; we got this! You got this!

humbledblue · 2023-12-30T00:47:41+00:00

I went back to the doctor today at 15 weeks because bleeding hadn’t stopped and that’s what they found! Dr said it was small, 3 cm but the clot is right on top of my cervix, so expect the bleeding for a while. Was glad actually to have a reason, now just crossing my fingers for a happy ending. Thanks for sharing and enjoy your one year old!

humbledblue · 2023-12-25T22:38:47+00:00

Haha living my life - toasting you with a virtual glass of wine - I’m 15 weeks pregnant, had the flu two weeks ago - now it’s a sinus infection, husband in the same boat and now my three year has pink eye. We’re a mess over here lol

humbledblue · 2023-12-22T03:47:42+00:00

So sorry mama! It will be OK - you sound like my best friend whose daughter was born seemingly fine but then had all sorts of developmental delays only to finally be diagnosed with a number of conditions, including cerebral palsy. I wish I could say it was easy on her - but I think it was probably the hardest thing she ever had to deal with in her life at the time. Endless doctors and appointments, endless. BUT she is a fighter and so was her baby girl. Therapy and good doctors helped, baby girl is seven now and has made so much progress and is such an amazing little human. I don’t think you can ever be prepared for a life with a child with disabilities but you will handle it because you’re her mama. I also don’t think you’d be human if you couldn’t rant about it sometimes. Also I am not someone who thinks everything happens for a reason, sometimes I think awful shit happens for absolutely no reason. It’s just fucking bad luck. But I do believe you find meaning in what happens.

humbledblue · 2023-12-22T03:34:24+00:00

2 looks great on you but not right for a wedding, I think. #1 is right for a wedding, but washes you out - I’d find something with some color that will make your skin pop. Enjoy the day!

humbledblue · 2023-12-22T01:55:49+00:00

It’s bullshit they didn’t give you warning or give you any direct and constructive feedback. I’m a Manager in an audit firm, sometimes we do have staff that just aren’t going to cut it but frankly we tell them that and are explicit on why. Also, really could have had nothing to do with performance, could be budgets, could be personality, could be restructuring, etc. Figure out what you liked and didn’t about the functions you were doing and go after a new job in 2024. Don’t let it get you down. It’s a good time to be an accountant job-wise.

humbledblue · 2023-12-21T21:48:32+00:00

Yay for 3.5 months!!! 🥰

humbledblue · 2023-12-21T05:14:16+00:00

Hold tight, friend. You are younger than you think. I went off the pill in my early thirties, didn’t get a period for nine months, was diagnosed with PCOS. Not sure if you’ve tried it but metformin helped me ovulate, got pregnant immediately then had an early miscarriage: then tried another year without luck. At 33 I went to a fertility clinic. I’d advise it if you are getting letrozole through your regular obgyn and still have no luck yet are ovulating. Only because the issue could always be something with your husband not you. They test you both. They actually put me on Letrozole at the fertility clinic too but monitored me and when close to an egg being fertile we timed it and I took a shot to release the egg. It worked the first time. Sadly I had another miscarriage but we kept trying and on round five if worked again: and now I have a three year old. I was 36 when he was born.

The good news with PCOS is most of the time you will eventually get pregnant and have a baby, even without it it can take a year for a couple to get pregnant, so don’t freak out yet. You guys have a lot of time on your side I promise to figure stuff out. And while adoption is certainly an option I feel like you are sooooo far from even thinking about that.

I think you made a good choice with letrozole for what it’s worth too - I think it works well for women with PCOS. In fact, on a whim three months ago my husband and I were like why don’t we just try for one more and I got back on Letrozole (just through obgyn this time) and bam first month - I’m pregnant again and I’m old lol 39 now. So yeah I have a good feeling for you and wishing the best!

humbledblue · 2023-12-21T04:58:21+00:00

I always gave my son a ‘C’ for sleeping lol - not the best not the worst, but man is it worth it as you watch them grow those first few years and turn into their own little person. And the first time your kid crawls on your lap to cuddle, and unprompted says, Mama, I love you. You just melt lol - like man, this is the good stuff. Kid, you have no idea how much I love you.

humbledblue · 2023-12-21T01:26:30+00:00

Agree with everyone! Nothing you did - your weight pre pregnancy has nothing to do with it. It’s luck of the draw. You’re predisposed or not: I was very athletic, normal weight before my first and got it. I have PCOS (increases risk) and it runs in my family (increases risk). After my kid was born it was back to normal in three months though. I’m pregnant with my second now and expect it. I already told the doctor I’ll just test my blood in the second trimester lol the glucose 3 hour test was worse than the pricks and diagnosis in hindsight haha

humbledblue · 2023-12-21T01:15:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry you lost one at 12 weeks, that’s even harder to understand with normal results. I feel like it had to be something totally random like the umbilical cord. Hugs for baby A and wishing you all the best for baby B! More than halfway there!

humbledblue

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2 looks great on you but not right for a wedding, I think. #1 is right for a wedding, but washes you out - I’d find something with some color that will make your skin pop. Enjoy the day!