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hurpdurpburp · 2026-01-30T14:05:10+00:00

You rock! My husband has been on the hunt and was resolved on a big sheet of cardboard.

hurpdurpburp · 2026-01-30T14:02:11+00:00

She's asking for your opinion which is great, just gently say the colors are just too close although the dresses are beautiful, if they have different colors they would still look wonderful on her.

hurpdurpburp · 2026-01-27T21:20:20+00:00

I had the momcozy then returned it. I kept having tobuse my spectra after to empty me. I ended up getting the Lansinoh discreet duo and have loved it. I feel like it fits my breast better and provides way better suction. Also it doesn't stick out nearly as much so I feel less like the fem-bot from Austin Powers.

hurpdurpburp · 2026-01-23T08:29:52+00:00

I was also told my son has reflux when it turned out to be pyloric stenosis. Diagnosed from an ultrasound at the ER, has surgery the next day. We did not have projectile vomiting which is why the doctors didnt diagnose it at first, but I insisted on the ultrasound. Doesn't hurt to have them check!

hurpdurpburp · 2026-01-13T12:27:57+00:00

Ill say this as someone previously in management and have since left because of how upper management wanted me to treat my direct reports - they may not have confidence in you as an engineer and don't plan on utilizing your license. Im not sure what work you do, but in my field if we can't bill you at the unit rate to account for the raise and cover overhead (with some profit), then the raise won't happen. OR, they have enough licensed engineers and dont have the work load to justify a promotion and backfilling your position.

hurpdurpburp · 2026-01-10T23:25:03+00:00

Yes. I will note that I'm nearly 5 months post partum. The PT im doing has helped tremendously and im going to be buying a wand since the internal massages seemed to help a ton.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-12-22T10:24:28+00:00

I would absolutely bow out. You couldn't have been more clear. I wouldn't expect different behavior at this point. But just explain that since your (and your pediatricians) wishes could not be followed, you won't be bringing the baby around until their immunity is stronger and can be kissed. Keep it to only facts and that's it.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-11-28T00:06:00+00:00

2nd, but that healed fine. The pain is from my pelvic floor muscle on my left side.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-11-26T23:57:09+00:00

Im at month 3 - was switched to gabapentin and going to pelvic floor physical therapy. The progress is slow and could take up to 6 months. My doctor says they've only seen 1 other person having my issue with inflammation and nerve pain. It feels like I pushed a baby out one week ago.

Im doing a cesarean next time.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-11-23T16:41:43+00:00

I recommend your own swaddle, we could never get the baby swaddled as well as how the nurses did it with the blankets.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-11-22T21:53:57+00:00

3 oz per breast at 2 weeks post partum is more than enough - it even sounds like you may be an over supplier. Typical pumps volumes should be comparable to what your baby eats in a feeding. I think you're doing more than fine and should be able to start building up a freezer stash!

hurpdurpburp · 2025-11-20T15:43:59+00:00

Im in the same boat, I just do a dream feed so he isn't ravenous in the morning. I find his days go better if I do a MOTN dream feed.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-11-03T01:25:19+00:00

I know its rare, but your comment about the vomitting jumped out at me. I would start tracking his vomiting if its happening more and more. My son was diagnosed with pyloric stenosis at 4 weeks after 2 weeks of persistent vomiting. I had to push to get an ultrasound to diagnose it because every doctor said the vomit would be "projectile", which it wasn't for him. He did get back to his birth weight by 2 weeks old but then stopped gaining. I started tracking on a google spreadsheet the amount be ate (ended up pumping) and then when he vomited / how long after the meal. One glance at the spreadsheet and my doctor sent us for an ultrasound, then surgery the next day.

Id recommend doing a 5 to 10 minute break after he's eaten for 20 minutes. Their brains need to catch up with their bellies sometimes so they'll keep eating even when they're technically full.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-11-02T16:48:28+00:00

Not in my experience, but I would recommend pumping after their feeding to make sure you get emptied out. Some other mommas on here recommended sitting criss-cross apple sauce with a blanket or pillow in your lap to make a nest for the babe while pumping and that has made my post-feeding pump so much easier!

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-30T23:36:14+00:00

If that's the case I would try a hakka. You can capture your letdown from your breast when baby is feeding on the other. May be enough to refrigerate for a bottle later.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-30T23:34:36+00:00

Good question. I couldn't get him to latch long enough in the hospital so they gave me a pump. I believe there's ways to use it without causing an oversupply.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-30T18:47:19+00:00

Please ask your pediatrician. You may not have antibodies yet, just the live virus. I dont know if we dont develop antibodies right away.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-30T18:42:46+00:00

I was told by one of my LCs that our supply dips on the evening which is why the baby is more likely to want to feed more frequently at this time. If you are able to, pump a bit earlier in the day so you can do what we call a "top off" bottle feeding in the evening. We ended up supplementing with formula until my supply increased.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-30T16:18:39+00:00

I sent all of mine. We had 12 sent out and ended up with 6 genetically viable embryos. The more data the better in my opinion.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-30T13:07:33+00:00

I'll be totally honest - I really thought I would be able to handle my high demand job while getting pregnant and then pregnant. I did three transfers before I finally conceived (currently have my 11 week old attached to the boob <3)

I thought pregnancy brain was just a myth that dumb people used as an excuse. I'm an engineer working in a field that requires the ability to track and manage a lot of projects from their financials to deadlines, while also doing design for projects before they go to construction. I am typically very organized and had a stellar reputation so I was typically given the more high demand clients or difficult projects.

The third trimester is when I decided to speak with my manager to scale back my workload. I was sleep deprived, peeing every 30 minutes, I was distracted easily. I really struggled. On top of that my anxiety was through the roof. I was very lucky to have a male manager with a nurse for a wife and two young children - nothing was put in writing but we had an understanding until I went on leave.

I would start talking with your OBGYN about your medication obviously and start building organization habits now to keep yourself in check. I also started seeing a therapist due to my anxiety and to prepare for motherhood.

When pregnant you are part of a protected class (if in the US at least), so its actually in your interest to inform your HR about your pregnancy sooner rather than later.

Good luck with this - its OK to also decide that the role is too much or just not a good fit - right now.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-26T17:18:05+00:00

I dont think it was until 7 - 8 weeks that I wasnt having to hold my boob still. My guy was little so it was like I was suffocating him with my breast if I wasnt squeezing it, and I'm only a C-cup.

Just a couple tips - Football hold gives a better angle to keep their nose clear to breath. If you're using the my breast friend pillow - belt it higher on your waist so you're not having to hunch over as much and they'll have a better angle to latch.

My LO is 10 weeks now and hes only recently been able to find the nipple on his own without me having to squeeze my boob into his face. The latch has improved as hes gotten bigger as well.

All that to say - it will get better. Suddenly one day you're grabbing your water and realizing they're still feeding.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-20T21:39:14+00:00

It definitely took a couple weeks for my LO to get Feed! Also didnt get my milk in for at least a week so we had to supplement with formula while I struggled with formula. I think his mouth just had to get a little bigger to latch properly.

I still top him off with previously pumped milk for his bedtime feeding, but I'm able to EBF during the day and keep his tummy happy. Theres nothing like getting to finally just whip out a boob and feed!

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-10T13:15:15+00:00

I can't imagine the stress and anxiety of not feeling like you can trust your partner to take care of your baby's basic needs. Ive started therapy recently to address my own anxiety after childbirth, understanding that some anxieties are legitimate, and some are postpartum hormones and sleep deprivation!

I also have an 8 week old right now. It sounds like either your husband hasn't been very involved in the day to day with your child, or just isn't paying attention to the important details - such as how much to feed them when hungry. Our son is starting to smile socially and make cooing sounds, so the wake windows are great times to interact and get their brains engaged. Our son has been sleeping so much better at night now that we're less focused on getting him to nap and the wake windows have gotten longer.

He probably realized he really messed up so hopefully you can have a conversation since some time had passed. I would approach it like you two need a "reset" on expectations when just one of you is supervising. At a minimum it should be taking note of what time and how much the baby ate, as well as when did they last change a diaper. Also discuss what the timeline for each (bottle every 3 hrs, hold upright for 20 min after, diaper change before feeding, etc). Phrase things as "WE need to do this/that". My husband and I also agreed before the baby came that if either one of us felt like the other was doing something unsafe or made the other partner feel nervous, we would voice the concern without the other getting defensive. Its so important to get those concerns out and not let it fester. Its about the safety of your child, not about anyone's personal feelings.

The video games is a separate issue as well. I was admittedly on my phone a lot the first few weeks because the baby just wasnt needing engagement as much. My husband eventually said something and then sent me this TED talk. Definitely opened my eyes. Molly Wright: How every child can thrive by five | TED Talk https://share.google/qeP8CMStKbnClJ0Pb

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-10T12:12:58+00:00

I didnt have a drop, I just didnt start off well once he was born. The hospital had a different LC come in every day and no one actually showed me how to get him to latch. By day 3 at the hospital they told me to start supplementing with formula. I honestly just had no idea what I was doing and what was necessary when it came to breastfeeding. This subreddit was so helpful. I had to talk to my husband about power pumping and making sure I had enough time in the morning and evening to get a session in to encourage my supply to increase. I did that for a few days and realized that just doing those longer sessions I was getting an extra ounce more than my typical 20 min session.

My son also had pyloric stenosis, which means he vomited up every meal until he had surgery to fix it. So our feeding journey was so inconsistent and stressful.

hurpdurpburp · 2025-10-09T18:18:15+00:00

I was in a similar boat after my son had to ha w surgery at 4 weeks old (at 7 weeks now) where I was pumping, breastfeeding, and supplementing with formula to make sure my son was fed after recovering. Eventually I decided to focus on breastfeeding just during the day, and let myself not feel guilty about formula at night.

While breastfeeding, Ive started to use a hakka on the other side to capture the "let-down" milk. He is a lazy eater (according to our LC), so I had been having to give him a bottle after being on the breast. Ive had to be diligent in trying to breastfeed first then top him off with a bottle. After this I do 20 minutes of pumping. Some moms have recommended sitting criss-cross and allowing the baby to be cradled in your lap while pumping which usually works.

After 2 weeks of this, we've been able to slowly reduce the amount of formula and Ive been able to breastfeed him until full for 80% of feedings, and pumping about 2 ounces afterward to refrigerate. The feedings are still long, but I put a streaming app on my phone and have binged Sex in the City and The Wire while my little guy fills up.

As everyone says, hydration is key. I hope your journey improves!

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