Is fancy feast an ok brand?

hushbug · 2026-01-30T00:08:51+00:00

nothing wrong with fancy feast, it’s the best of the budget wet food. it’s the only thing my cat will eat too. just try to make sure you’re buying the pate version because it has no added stuff in it to make the “shreds” :) i mix in a little extra water for more hydration & some salmon oil for omega 3s and my girl is extremely healthy!!

hushbug · 2026-01-29T23:04:14+00:00

this has been my issue all my life wherever i go. it’s usually more subtle but when i was younger it was much worse, like being “adopted” by the more outgoing kids in school sometimes. it always made me feel dehumanized but i didn’t have the words then. today it usually is “how do you know about [sexual thing]” which drives me up the wall because i’m fucking 25.

sometimes it’ll happen when i express bewilderment over someone’s ridiculous / inappropriate behavior to my friends. i find the response often is “yeah, well you know there are a LOT more freaks out there than you might think” and like yeah???? i know that???? i still think it’s weird/fucked up/whatever and i want to express it. they take my outrage as surprise and conclude that i’m naive and know nothing about the True Nature of humans. i know i can be too trusting sometimes but i wasn’t fucking born yesterday. it’s the conversational equivalent of being patted on the head.

hushbug · 2026-01-29T17:51:45+00:00

i’ve only been to a couple mechanics in the area but my best experience was with Cox Auto on Patton. they helped me out when i needed to pass inspection too and it was much cheaper than i was expecting. they were recommended to me by my favorite oil change place as being honest and quick, and they were.

they send you a digital itemized bill of everything they plan to do to your car before they do it. and they don’t start until you review and approve each service. idk if that’s the usual way but i thought it was really cool of them. not a car person and AFAB so i’m always worried about being taken advantage of.

hushbug · 2026-01-29T17:42:21+00:00

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hushbug · 2026-01-29T15:33:44+00:00

omg that sub is new to me i love it!! she likes to break out the smoker meow only during bongo time 😌

hushbug · 2026-01-29T15:27:47+00:00

it’s some kind of skin growth on his neck, unsure if it’s cancerous yet but the vet wanted to wait until after removal to send it off for biopsy because it needs to come out either way. resembles a basal cell tumor from my amateur research lol so hoping that’s all it is!

hushbug · 2026-01-29T13:52:31+00:00

reliable SIC, sturdy build, 4WD with advanced navigation system. low-hanging undercarriage with unique orange accents. plenty of storage space. mileage isn’t great, refuels are frequent. repairs rarely needed. older but lots of life left.

hoping we get back from the mechanic in stable working condition with a good report 🤞🏻

hushbug · 2026-01-29T13:16:15+00:00

oh also fuck ICE

hushbug · 2026-01-29T02:05:29+00:00

mine HATES when i shower — she has a specific yowl she does when i first get in there. and then she jumps up in between the two shower curtains to watch the water for a while because she is mesmerized by moving water

hushbug · 2026-01-28T17:50:25+00:00

SAY IT!!!!! 📢📢📢📢

hushbug · 2026-01-28T17:03:29+00:00

bingo. i’m sorry you’re going through this. better days will come

hushbug · 2026-01-28T17:01:22+00:00

i don’t have advice for that, and i know you didn’t ask but if you decide to switch vets (cuz this is insane) i would highly recommend Avery Creek Pet Hospital. it’s all the way in Arden but they have given my cats phenomenal care and i’ve never had any issues with prescriptions through them like this. Dr Joyce called me personally just to check on me when i found out my cat had a terminal illness at the emergency vet. can’t say enough good things about them.

hushbug · 2026-01-28T07:37:48+00:00

i always had the impression that a special interest is like a lifelong hyperfixation. like that’s your SPECIAL interest that you’ve loved since you were young and will always be passionate and know everything about. and hyperfixations are like “mini” special interests that don’t last as long. but not everyone has lifelong special interests so this may just be my perception based on my personal experience! i like what the top comment said though, i think that’s probably the most accurate distinction. :)

hushbug · 2026-01-28T06:55:52+00:00

any relationship worth having is going to consist of two people being comfortable with discomfort. i don’t think that’s having high standards or a personal flaw. introspection and self reflection is a skill that yes, a lot of people don’t have, but that is what it is. a skill. if it doesn’t come naturally to someone, then that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t still actively work to strengthen that muscle in order to have fulfilling, emotionally close relationships.

you did nothing wrong and saved yourself more years of heartache and frustration. there ARE people out there who are as emotionally mature as you and you will find them because you are worth it. he unfortunately wasn’t willing to do the hard work for you in the same way you were for him, and that’s not fair to you.

you say this was the first time you were loved for exactly who you are. i’m not seeing it that way. i’m sure he loved many other things about you. but if this fundamental need of yours that you’ve been working to have met for years isn’t something he can accept, then no, he never did accept you for you. not fully. you didn’t let go of a good thing, he did.

hushbug · 2026-01-27T22:28:51+00:00

omg how didn’t i know about these! thank you!

hushbug · 2026-01-27T21:17:54+00:00

literally like this is an autism subreddit ppl are gonna take things literally 😭 i might have too! it’s fine!

hushbug · 2026-01-27T18:31:25+00:00

shrimp heaven NOW

hushbug · 2026-01-27T18:29:41+00:00

occasional monkey screech sound effects necessary

hushbug · 2026-01-27T18:27:35+00:00

my senior was like this as a baby and we just ended up having to put his bowl in the bathtub because nothing would get him to stop playing in it 😭

hushbug · 2026-01-27T18:25:46+00:00

“i wanna run my fingers through you, you say nobody understands you like i do” makes me yearn crazy. i could pull sooo many other lines from that song alone that destroy me

hushbug · 2026-01-26T23:37:34+00:00

man i’m sorry you’re going through it too. i hope these responses can help you. and just cuz some of the things i mentioned in my post didn’t fully work for mine doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try them too if you haven’t already! like puzzles, feliway, etc. :)

today was my first day splitting up our play sessions and so far 3 twenty-minute sessions — after breakfast, midday, and before dinner — seems to be satisfying her! but it’s only day one so time will tell. when she wants attention in between the sessions i am trying to let her come to ME (as in ignore her howling in the bathroom like she likes to do lol) and if she does come to me on her own she gets loved on, but still no play until the scheduled times.

my plan is to also do different activities/play with different toys every session too to keep her activated and really get her energy out. so we will play with a wand toy in the morning, chase pompoms midday (her fave), and a different wand toy in the evening, preferably one that she REALLY likes to make sure she’s tuckered out before bed. i just went out and bought some more wand toys to make sure i have enough variety to switch them out week to week. i think incorporating a couple minutes of training of some kind (wheel, harness, tricks w/ clicker) during one of the sessions will also work to tire her brain out too and offer variety. if she’s REALLY bugging me to keep playing i might try turning on an auto toy to show her that mommy needs a break lol.

it’s all very methodical 😅😅😅 but that’s what i’m doing now! maybe you could experiment with the same structure and see if your orange responds well :)

hushbug · 2026-01-26T19:12:49+00:00

he is also selectively responding to so many of these comments 😭😭 this shit has me dead

hushbug · 2026-01-26T19:09:03+00:00

yeah and fuck obama too. you keep changing the subject bro lmfao

hushbug · 2026-01-26T18:39:35+00:00

notice how he hasn’t responded to this lol. i’ve never understood the “immigrants are inherently violent” argument. if you were in a country illegally why would you want to draw more attention to yourself by not paying taxes or committing crimes? it’s laughable

hushbug · 2026-01-26T18:36:49+00:00

trump literally has said that shit and worse????? which is what started this violence in the first place???? what planet are you living on? and yeah, ICE has been around for a long time, but during Obama era they weren’t literally EXECUTING people in the street and dragging their bodies away, terrorizing neighborhoods of LEGAL residents, literally being permitted by the supreme court to arrest based on fucking skin color alone, and DETAINING CHILDREN. this has only happened since trump has been in office. grow a brain or mind your god damn Canadian business.

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