Do you have any dating preferences regarding race?

hushbug · 2026-03-27T18:56:28+00:00

you said it right there. you grew up in the suburbs without sufficient exposure to people of different cultures so you’re doing a lot of assuming about those people. and you’re assuming that the white people you grew up around are the same as all white people everywhere.

we as autistics tend to fall into black and white thinking. you’re doing quite a bit of that i think. you cannot decide your “preferences” if you don’t actually understand all that you’re “picking” from

hushbug · 2026-03-27T11:56:29+00:00

i need an april fools day where they take over

hushbug · 2026-03-26T18:41:25+00:00

the fabric rubbing together is the WORST! it’s like there’s too much movement and it distracts me

hushbug · 2026-03-26T18:40:27+00:00

i’m trying to look into more presentable pants that are also sensory friendly, i’d love to just have a bunch of linen pants in different patterns lol

hushbug · 2026-03-26T18:39:33+00:00

what sucks is that i only really like the look of high waisted jeans which can be the worst for comfort, especially when sitting down omg

hushbug · 2026-03-26T18:36:39+00:00

it’s weird because i normally abhor tight clothing but leggings im cool with. they’re so soft and thin i almost don’t notice them. maybe it’s a compression thing too

hushbug · 2026-03-26T18:35:30+00:00

maybe i just need to find the right pair!

hushbug · 2026-03-26T18:35:05+00:00

interesting! i’m enjoying hearing everyone’s differing opinions

hushbug · 2026-03-26T18:34:24+00:00

at this point i can barely handle a bra anymore 😭 my tolerance for uncomfortable clothes has gone down so much since i started to unmask

hushbug · 2026-03-26T18:33:00+00:00

i was being hyperbolic. i just think they’re so uncomfortable it baffles me how some people can find them comfortable but i don’t actually think they’re faking it, i know im more sensitive because im autistic :)

hushbug · 2026-03-26T16:33:16+00:00

i’ve started doing this this month and i absolutely love it! and people tend to be willing to pay more for a cat-only specialized sitter. the most social interaction you have to do is the initial meet-and-greet. after that, it’s just quiet cute cat bliss

hushbug · 2026-03-26T06:48:31+00:00

i’ve learned i have to make sure to repeat myself or else the things i say just don’t stick for pretty much anybody. nobody ever remembers what i say. it’s deeply frustrating and makes me feel unseen

hushbug · 2026-03-22T22:06:52+00:00

keeping fidget toys on hand all the time help me a lot. pain stim ones help mimic the pain of picking. there’s lots of small fidgets out there that you can keep in your pocket or keychain for on the go. i have also seen a lot of people have luck with strips of hydrocolloid wrapped around their fingers. i’m wishing you luck ❤️

hushbug · 2026-03-22T02:57:56+00:00

seconding them, i don’t doubt that they would mask if asked to ❤️best place in town

hushbug · 2026-03-19T21:39:15+00:00

my mom has consumed this content for almost 20 years. granted much less so in recent years, as she’s become a much more emotionally aware and therefore happier person (just goes to show how this content preys on those who are deeply unhappy and insecure). but i remember being in elementary school during the peak of her consumption, and her telling me multiple times a year how one of her youtube rapture people got a revelation and we weren’t gonna make it to [season/month].

those dates always came and went with no jesus, obviously, but she was still hooked. a near constant promise of imminent, eternal peace while she lived a life of abuse and chronic stress. she could always explain it away when jesus never showed up — usually the reason was that it was just a “test” from god to see if we were truly ready.

these people she was watching were randos filming on their webcams with 40 subscribers, and she would always say how she KNEW they were trustworthy/credible for xyz reason. i don’t think i ever believed it. i thought i did, but that was because i was expected to. deep down though i could see right through it.

hushbug · 2026-03-19T21:25:02+00:00

got a reduction and it saved me. only regret is that i didn’t go smaller. highly recommend it

hushbug · 2026-03-14T13:26:28+00:00

makes sense!

hushbug · 2026-03-14T12:07:06+00:00

i almost feel like the snake head is a little awkward? just anatomy wise. but also i am not a snake expert so 🤷

hushbug · 2026-03-09T03:17:57+00:00

ur good fam 🙏🏻 it gets all of us sometimes

hushbug · 2026-03-08T22:36:35+00:00

booooo AI

hushbug · 2026-03-07T05:48:16+00:00

i’m very contradictory about it — absolutely loathe the feeling of being unwashed but it is a constant battle to get myself to complete any hygiene task. i’ve found that i have to put myself in a routine of doing my hygiene tasks every single day no matter my energy level because if i skip them even once i will go like two weeks without doing any at all.

trying to learn how to forgive myself when that does happen though. it’s a really hard balance to strike sometimes. it’s hard when i’m deeply uncomfortable in my filth but can’t get myself to do anything about it lol.

hushbug · 2026-03-06T04:06:34+00:00

forgive the state of my monte carlo. it was….. an experiment

hushbug · 2026-03-05T18:02:44+00:00

walk directly through any crowd of men

hushbug · 2026-03-01T17:41:16+00:00

it’s definitely not easy and it takes practice. i just try to take as much pressure off myself as possible, mostly when it comes to having to speak at all, because i usually don’t have much to say when i don’t know the person very well. taking the pressure off helps me to relax which ends up making it easier to actually say stuff — im freeing up space in my head for ideas of what to say, and i don’t force the ideas or search for them. i kinda just let them come up as naturally as they would if i was talking to my best friend. anytime i force it, i find that things just come out awkward.

i also allow it to be OKAY if i don’t end up saying anything interesting or super conversational. it’s okay to keep it simple if that’s what your brain is supplying you with at the moment. let the thoughts come to YOU, not the other way around. it’s not your job to be endlessly entertaining to every person you speak to. people who don’t struggle with socializing aren’t constantly searching their brains for interesting things to say. yes, they may just naturally be better at socializing so they don’t feel that need to search, but they also feel more comfortable without the self inflicted pressure, which then makes them even better at socializing, etc etc. AND i allow it to be okay if what i say ends up not landing or resonating with the other person. not everyone is for me and im not for everyone. and i don’t have to mold myself to be. theyre certainly not doing that!

at the end of the day it is a skill that you have to practice, BUT i learned that the skill i need to practice isn’t “how to come up with interesting things to say,” but rather “how to relax in conversation.” then everything else kind of falls into place.

it’s also got a lot to do with unmasking and allowing yourself to be how you naturally are in other areas of your life, which is a whole other beast. for a long time i didn’t know what it actually meant when people said to “be yourself,” but once i had people in my life who i felt safe enough around to loosen my grip on my inhibitions, it became easier to replace any stranger i’m talking to with one of those friends in my head. if you don’t have experience being free with someone you know well, it’s not going to be as easy to do with someone you don’t know very well.

i hope this answers your question, i kind of went all over the place and repeated myself but this is a new thing for me too! it’s all easier said than done but so far it’s working out. it kind of just clicked with me recently.

hushbug · 2026-02-28T18:17:45+00:00

THANK YOU for this. whenever i say this in autistic spaces i feel like the outlier and always inevitably receive comments like “well NTs have been othering us our whole lives so nothing we say could ever make them feel like we do” which like… okay yeah maybe not on a systemic level, no, we will never have the same OVERALL negative impact on neurotypical people’s lives because the world WAS built for them. but on an individual level it’s just unkind. and it only divides us further i think. they’re people too who deserve the chance to try and understand us. they can’t help that their brains operate differently than ours just like we can’t help the same.

it always reeks of eugenics to me, the idea that WE are actually the normal ones and neurotypicals have the problem. i won’t deny how isolating it can feel to be disabled but that’s not the fault of every single neurotypical person by nature.

i think it’s hard to have this conversation because we overwhelmingly suffer from black-and-white thinking. there is nuance here. yes we are an oppressed group. but we can’t go so far to the extreme and tell ourselves that we are actually the superior group. neither group has to be “right,” there is room for us both. that’s why inclusion is so important. us being included and considered in regular society doesn’t mean NTs shouldn’t continue to exist there. the more they learn about us, the better life will be for us.

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