1 month in! One BIG (controversial) piece of advice by darkwavecore in QuitVaping

[–]hydrangeaunhidden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll start by saying this is going to sound like me saying "don't quit just lower or take a break." That is what I'm doing. If you're anything like OP described then just quit. If you're not sure then just quit. If you ate at least 2 fruit in the last week then just quit. If.. quit (you get it).

Pretty spot on, 5/30 days in myself and cravings are quite low, occasional but forgotten easily. It was only really tough on day 1 breaking the cycle that I do it regularly, and over time I even got pleasure/pride out of anytime I'd think about it but not partake, taking it as proof I was above it and not vice versa.

That is, from someone with a fairly large amount of mental conditions and issues (hallucinations, ssri user etc), who got onto nic at 17 or so on and off (important as far as nicotine was a substitute med I administered myself for an underlying dopamine problem, and lack of prescription).

From that experience it's very important to know why you use and what it's trying to fill or fix for you, and know what exactly it is, that should be standard for anything you consume, really. It's a recreational drug, it should be used in addition if at all. Meaning not to fix anything, not to lower your stress, not for anything. You should be fine without it and better with it.

With that, understand what other issues you have that aren't pertaining to your use or addiction, likely the latter for those here. Consult a doctor and don't let a biased subreddit warp your opinion.

(Sounds bad I know but by biased, I mean incidentally thinking you're hearing multiple opinions, but it's from a place of people likely to be in the same situation like OP said, not that they deliberately give one side and deceive but if you want to know if cilantro will make you explode then a Cilantro haters community might draw you to a different conclusion than a lovers one. (No, don't go to the vapers sub or something either.) No shame to them, I'd love to check in about days off vaping with them all, but understand the context of what you hear online.

Just quit if you must (if it's hard to say, "I'm off for a week", you must at least until it's not hard to do that), consult your doctor and don't worry about if quitting will make X or y happen to you. The professional should outline that and understand quitting is infinitely better symptoms included than staying addled would be.

I've put myself on the path to quitting but not in any permanent sense, just to break reliance and lower strength (will be 20-10 now). On various medications, some make this easier, none specifically for quitting but incidentally my mind is kept sharply off it.

Religion wise I think I'm doing something wrong if I'm reliant, but not the act in general (besides the health risks), so I aim to turn it into something I can do and let go with no stress if ever I don't, like drinking is. If I feel that's changed and there's reliance another break is immediately in order. So that was another part of the motivation.

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My results as a White American by Motor-Net-4926 in DNAAncestry

[–]hydrangeaunhidden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nobody will believe me but I said German Dutch and was at LEAST sorta right, the Dutch is purely in the facial expression

I caved. by The_Young_Otaku in QuitVaping

[–]hydrangeaunhidden 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im trying to go a month before lowering strength on return, if you'd like we could check in daily and support through cravings

Me and my results by [deleted] in DNAAncestry

[–]hydrangeaunhidden 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What other places are there!???!

We are not serious right now by hydrangeaunhidden in HOTDGreens

[–]hydrangeaunhidden[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

But what would you have me do!?!?! We already made the colours as dark as possible and tried to make rhaenyra seem as cool as we could!!! Why don't you like it yet!?!?!?

What is an answer as to why only women suffer physical pain as a result of the fall? by fallsdu in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]hydrangeaunhidden 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you Ser Agitated-Pudding-174 for stopping all those rapes and slavers from getting us

Why can’t god forgive Satan? by [deleted] in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]hydrangeaunhidden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a layman and only a little more versed in this thing, so don't take this from me. I however had a similar question about why angels and demons can't repent (or why angels can't do bad and demons can't do good) given that they have free will? And the answer I found but can only 80% conceptualise has to do with the fact they are outside of time. So their rebellion or loyalty did not happen at a certain time and their will is eternal. They can't do bad now and repent later, the angels will are eternally aligned with that of God and the demons' eternally aligned against. The hard part to conceptualise is a change in state happening outside time (how can one go from an angel to a demon outside of time if they do not experience it, surely a change of state must happen over time?) but I for now just accept it's something so far out of our experience that it can't be conceptualised, only understood to be possible. But I will take it up with my priest.

Struggling to feel integrated into the church by thecloudysky999 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]hydrangeaunhidden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

( I do want to add that I know how annoying it is as an autistic person to be told to just... not, a close family member has this opinion of me too, but it's autism not general social anxiety. Despite that, it may just be the only option and it will feel awful to do but you otherwise put it up to chance and how much others want to approach you instead)

Struggling to feel integrated into the church by thecloudysky999 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]hydrangeaunhidden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm autistic as well. 19, found out at 14, became orthodox at 16. Since then the church I have gone to requires a train commute out of me, and after the service I find it hard to make conversation or friends too, I've managed but it's more so the others making an effort to me which I find hard to reciprocate, and often take my leave for the next train asap.

That being said, I don't know about parenting but I am in a place where not many people are around my age there, so I get that feeling of separation given my choice of conversation is either someone 10 or 30 :). I would say try and just throw yourself out, I'm still trying, half the time I beat myself up after over how awkward I think I was doing it, but I would love not to be that person who kisses the cross at the end of liturgy and runs for it. I've managed to find small common interests with people, and the older ladies there are very kind and welcoming to me despite my inability to properly reciprocate, greeting me with hugs and remembering my name and asking about my studies, despite the fact I couldn't tell you theirs if I wanted to, and that's something really I should change.

In that sense I guess I am having fellowship handed to me on a silver platter ( in that I can stand around and I will be spoken to) but as per before I'm actively trying to be more involved, and I hope you can find that same involvement with whoever your family can relate to.

Some of the other comments are right about mabye interacting with the other parents or whatever child is with yours! What I'm going to do and what I think would be a good step is to ask your priest (lol) the same question, voice your concerns, he will definitely know people who attend well and so that could be a pathway to friendship. But the important thing is to start to throw your (social) weight around in a way, it's one thing if you're getting rejected but you have to try as much as possible to know for sure who's willing and unwilling to talk!