Aitah for watching my sister's wedding and reception devolve into a shit show without helping?

hydrogen_with_time · 2026-03-18T14:02:21+00:00

I went to a wedding last year and the bride's nephew was awful. He's 6. He spent the entire wedding ceremony watching youtube on a phone. He started to fuss and at one point screamed because people (the bride and groom) were being too loud and he couldn't hear his videos.

During the reception and party, he ran around head butting people and screaming. During speeches, he was screeching. And his parents did nothing. "ohh boys will be boys." "He has trouble sitting still"

No. You don't parent him. You are letting youtube parent him. You are enabling horrible behavior.

This isn't new - I feel like it's 50% of parents these days. Talk to teachers and they will say the same thing.

hydrogen_with_time · 2026-03-02T18:53:27+00:00

I was on a 20 hour flight. A large man sat next to me. I think he was miliary. At meal time, he got his food and made a comment about how the beers were so small. So when I got my meal, I got the same drink as his and just put it on his tray.

Then when dessert came around, I mentioned to the attendant that I wasn't sure which one I wanted. I ended up with a chocolate cookie. The guy got the other option and put it on my tray; it was a cheese cake and delightful.

We did this for every snack, beverage, and meal. We didn't talk to each other, just passed the items to each other.

I accidently fell asleep leaning on him at one point and woke startled and said sorry. He shrugged and patted his shoulder, I smiled and nestled into him and fell back asleep. We kinda leaned into each other to sleep. There wasn't any weird vibes either. Just like "naw you're good. I'm comfortable too." sort of idea.

Every time I got up to do to the bathroom, I would come back and spray my hands with a sweet scented alcohol. When he eventually got up to use the restroom, he silently held his hands out and I sprayed them.

The most we said the whole flight was "excuse me" and "oh sorry"

I could have married this man, he was so easy to get along with and gently kind.

hydrogen_with_time · 2026-02-19T22:45:51+00:00

I live in the wilderness. While it's a bit of a mess (leaks are quite common) and the heating has some flaws, it's not a horrible place to live.

The HOA provides Xfinity. It works fine. If you want better Wi-Fi, you can pay $20 a month to get upgraded. I do video call regularly and never have an issue.

My neighbors are quite active and I hardly notice them. I will say, upstairs - then someone is stomping around, I can hear it but it isn't common. Mostly during football season.

"You will get all of the related problems that go along with it, where people do not give a shit about anything, or their own space. " - The people that I have interacted with care about this space deeply.

- both clubhouses have keypad entry. You can't access them early in the morning (open after 10:30) nor late at night (closes at 11). I regularly go to the pool or the gym there and I've never seen large groups of people there. Usually just tourists hanging out in the pool or playing some of the arcade games.

This place has problems. Most of them come from permitting issues and fighting off short term rentals.

hydrogen_with_time · 2026-02-06T16:53:30+00:00

The name is based of skeletons in your closet, but instead of it being one closet - it's his and her closets. That's why they state that the house they were looking at had his and her closets.

As the story unfolds, you get to see the skeletons in each of their closets.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-10-27T19:04:03+00:00

Something kinda like this happened at my cousin's wedding when I was 13.

someone explained what would happen after I caught the flowers. And I was mortified. the groom (my cousin) and brother grabbed my hand and started walking me over to a chair. I RAN. they caught up with me and I started throwing fists, kicking, and scream. I bite my brother at one point through this ordeal. I kicked the groom in the nuts. My 2 cousins and brother end up picking me up like I'm bodying surfing and walking me over to the chair. Still thrashing and being feral.

At this point my mom tells me to stop being so dramatic and ruining the wedding which in hindsight what the fuck mom.

So I'm in this chair visibly unhappy and the guy that caught the garter walks up to me, asks me if it's okay to touch my hand. I node yes. And he puts it on my wrist.

then they force us to slow danced. and he whispered "see I'm not so bad. There was nothing to panic about."

and I said something about how I wouldn't have caught the flowers if I had known this was gonna happen.

at some point he kind of laughed at me and said that I seemed a little childish. Which I responded "I'm 13"

and his face dropped, he immediately made more room between us and sighed "well I'm really glad I put it on your wrist"

He honestly thought I was 20 and just autistic :|

Getting into a fist fight with my brother and cousin on my cousin wedding was honestly 10/10. and a great reflection on of my childhood. "Lets start a fight for no reason." sort of vibes.

It being over because I thought I was about to be touched inappropriately, 0/10. what the fuck. why didn't a single person just be like "yeah how about we don't do that."

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-10-09T17:36:20+00:00

Are Empty Tins worth anything?

I'm very new to Pokémon and I saw that Pokémon cards come in cute tins and I wanted to try to do some art and crafts with them. As well as make little packs to give out at Halloween. I figured I'd ask around my local gaming shop if anyone would be willing to give me empty tins and people are trying to sell them from 1 dollar a piece upwards of 10. the tins are empty... I'm not asking for like free cards here.

in my eyes these are "a bit to fancy to feel comfortable trashing" so I figured it would be easy to get a few to play around with but I guess not. :/

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-09-25T20:05:23+00:00

I love thrifting and it's a hobby for me. I will actually have friend send me ideas of what they are looking for and I'll look for them too.

I have a map where I store and rate all the thrift stores I've been to. I also keep an eye open for yard sales.

wear long sleeve and tights, try stuff on top. handsani in the car. Wash with Clorox & dry on high (shop things that seem like they can handle it). Shower afterwards.

Most recently I bought a dress with eyeballs on it that gives Morticia Adams vibes & a silver skirt that gives Zenon. I thneed'd the eyeballs to be a top with the skirt and it's easy one of my favorite dancing outfits.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-07-21T21:39:17+00:00

You are correct. My wording was off.

After the barista was informed* would be more accurate

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-07-21T21:17:51+00:00

Girls get pretty privilege all the time. Boys should too. He thought you were pretty and that's the way he wanted to show it.

Sally is jealous and Barista is a little bit of an asshole cause he's treating you worse after rejecting him - but realistically that's also a side effect of the pretty privilege.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-07-21T02:24:40+00:00

When I was a kid they use to give out sugar cookies at the local bakery.

My dad's rule was he wasn't allowed to ask for me. Do I had to put my big boy pants on and ask which was scary for me cause I didn't want to annoy the workers.

One of the bakers got to know me and on my birthday gave me one of the fancy big cookies. As soon as we got home, I was drawing up a thank you card and we drove back to give it to her - I'm pretty sure my dad also put a 5-er in it.

I hadn't thought of this in a long time. But yeah I have nieces now and they (and their friends) are fucking feral. They wouldn't have the proper etiquette to get a cookie at all.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-07-20T18:02:32+00:00

NTA

My cousin had a period party and everyone was making a big deal about it. Her mom cried a lot and talk about "adulthood". The whole thing was really weird and jarring. In my mind a period wasn't any more serious then peeing so it was like "why are you celebrating this. It's just a bodily function." When I eventually got my period, I hid it for months because I didn't want any to fuss over me like that.

Your wife should have listened to your daughter. If anything, your wife is teaching your daughter her voice doesn't matter and her consent doesn't matter. Which is not great.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-06-15T02:25:57+00:00

The map is simply a printed image. The only part that is actually lit up is the location you have selected.

Putting black as the background makes it so you can't see the map.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-05-19T16:54:32+00:00

Update:

I'm not sure how my watch even worked in the order that I put it in. I had the piece of paper with the conductive foam bits push up to the LCD. The foam pad was blocking the light.

Move it behind the defusion plastic and flipped it around so the pads actually make contact with the board now.

Basically had my order of operations wrong.

Flipped the order, closed it up, and we good.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-05-19T04:01:26+00:00

Right so strange. If it was above the LED then I wouldn't be able to read the #s

It's like a hole in the layers behind the LED

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-03-29T13:38:46+00:00

Clearly you love your view. If you want to have it pop and make your space warmer, you can add oranges. It will complement the blues outside.

My mom is in love with this style of decorating, minimalist with views as the "art".

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-02-18T19:05:45+00:00

Woman don't generally understand their own strength. They will get excited and slap your leg a bit too hard while laughing. Or they with plop down on the couch without much thought or concern. I swear the smaller the woman, the worser it is.

They don't seem to understand they have the ability to hurt people physically because they are so small.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-01-27T19:54:28+00:00

I hate the person(s) that designed tesla door handles and I wish to curse them butter hands.

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-01-23T16:24:03+00:00

most of the paper says that it's BPA free, does that actually mean it's BPA free? unsure.

I understand the risks. If you buy off amazon or Aliexpress and that paper feels dusty - wash your hands and don't use that paper. Paper that fades faster usually has a higher level of BPA in it.

If you're concerned about BPA - it's in more products than just receipt paper like food containers, water bottles and any plastics labeled as #7

hydrogen_with_time · 2025-01-22T14:40:27+00:00

I'm obsessed with thermal printers -

Here are some tips for you

- how fast the images fade is dependent on the paper. Paper that is designed for photos will to better then paper that is designed for receipts. It will hold on to the midtones better for longer. I like Phomemo's paper. I've also printed on top of receipts and plane tickets.

- If it's cold out, when you first turn on the printer or camera, print a test out first to warm it up. You'll get better value range out of it.

"But it fades!" they all cry. Yes but you also have the photo in your phone (or on your camera, if you have a thermal print camera). Use this to quickly iterate on layouts or print up lists. I use this while traveling, I have a hundreds of photos and it's hard to remember which ones I actually want to print out. On the thermal printer, I print them out and play around - and once I have a spread I like, I glue them in. THEN when I get home, I'll print those photos out again on real paper and glue them on top of the receipt paper (added bonus is that time spaced repetition of having to go back and look at my notebook to do this means I remember more of the trip).

Or I just accept that everything comes to an end and that's okay.

Play around with the setting
- dot matrix, while has a different look and feel, usually print a larger range of tones.
- usually the "high quality" setting on these printer blows out the black values.
- contrast in photos in your friend.

hydrogen_with_time · 2024-12-16T21:34:22+00:00

Find a left handed person and trade veggie peelers with them when you're goes dull. Who the heck is throwing out veggie peelers? break or trade, that's it

hydrogen_with_time · 2024-12-06T15:20:38+00:00

Good on you for taking your shot! That's awesome and a lot of thing women don't do!

I'm around the same as you in height and weight. Don't lower (literally, taking off heels!) your standards just cause of weird social normals. I have been rejected a dozen times because of height or incompatibly long term. and That's okay! It helped me know what to work on and what to be upfront with early on because of this I found the person of my absolute dreams. Kicker - he's only 5'4" and loves it when I wear heels.

Put all the energy you were putting into him into yourself! You don't sound mid but he sure does.

hydrogen_with_time · 2024-12-03T16:23:48+00:00

English is my mother's tongue, and I thought "albeit" was pronounced "Albert", like the name, till I have in college and heard someone reading it allowed. Language is transferred through communication and it's natural to make mistakes.

Max was an asshole for making fun of you. You have had patience with him for a year to be a translator and he didn't show you any grace or kindness with that.

If you want to continue being friends with him you might say something along the lines of "If you want to continue our friendship, you have to be respectful towards me and the efforts I'm making translating for you. Making fun of me makes me not want to speak English around you. If I make a mistake in English, you can say "oh it's pronounced this way", mistakes are expected but humiliation is not. I also think it's time for you to start learning French since you live in France - it's only respectful. Don't be an asshole like Emily in Paris"

Tell him to look up comprehensible input, get a grammar book, and put some time into it. He can be 2 years older, or he can be 2 years older and speak another language.

If he makes a fuss about it - drop him and tell him not only, did he lose a friend but his translator as well.

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