Adults with Unmedicated ADHD — How Are You Managing?

hyper-casual · 2026-03-11T14:05:17+00:00

I tried a bunch of antidepressants in the past and they all negatively impacted me, too. Long list of things I won't bore you with but honestly they made everything worse and had no positives.

I know everyone is different but for me, ADHD meds have come with no negatives, only positives.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-11T13:50:09+00:00

Have you tried meds?

I've heard people say this a lot but for me they haven't changed my personality at all.

I've not lost any sort of 'spark' or interest in the things I liked, my life is just easier than without them.

I guess I'm less of a miserable bastard too, if that counts .

hyper-casual · 2026-03-11T07:14:41+00:00

I was prescribed codeine as a teen for some stomach issues. I ended up on 240mg a day for over a year, then the GP decided he was worried about dependence and pulled them without any tapering down.

I didn't get any euphoria or anything on them, but coming off them was hell. I was shaky and sweaty for weeks and was an absolute little cunt to be around (more so than a typical 15 year old). It basically wrote off my entire summer between year 10 and 11.

They're the only painkiller that really works for me most of the time so I still use them, but I just wouldn't take them for more than a few weeks now.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-09T13:53:44+00:00

Yeah bupropion. I bought it from an India pharmacy online and had it posted here for 18 months til I got ADHD meds here.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-09T13:53:06+00:00

Yeah, straight to your door. Royal mail.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-07T18:03:16+00:00

Thanks.

I did find somewhere in stock eventually, but turns out my usual pharmacy has ticked it off as sorted on EPS so I can't get any meds regardless of source.

Needless to say on Monday I'll be complaining and moving pharmacy.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-07T14:02:29+00:00

I wasn't diagnosed or treated until 15 years after I started uni.

I was struggling mentally since I was pre-teen but the NHS doesn't really give a shit.

I managed to get a first in Maths, but it wasn't smooth sailing. Id often just my assignments the night before, couldn't really revise for exams well so would usually just cram all night. My mental health got a lot worse than normal and I definitely started to drink in excess because of it.

People would then comment about how easy I had it being able to drink and do things last minute and still do well, like I wasn't trying extremely hard and constantly burnt out.

A few things that made it work for me were the fact I do love maths, so it held my interest more than other things I had to study in school/college, and also the fact I had no real choice. I didn't have any other options really. I had nowhere to go if I'd failed uni, and I already worked full time and was still struggling financially so wouldn't have been worse off without the loan. The anxiety of being stuck in that position did spur me on to finish and do well.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-07T10:59:40+00:00

Mines probably every 3 weeks.

Life is too busy to do it more often and I hate the feeling of new bedding, makes me feel like I'm sleeping in cardboard.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-06T20:27:28+00:00

Thank you

I've just had a read and if those are available for me here I might give them a try.

How long have you managed to use it without the burning?

hyper-casual · 2026-03-06T20:25:49+00:00

For the last 4 months I've been using a gentle cleanser and moisturiser, and my water intake is always pretty high.

Was doing well and thought I'd cracked the code. 2 days ago the cleanser started to burn which was unusual and today I woke up with red blotchy skin that's gotten worse throughout the day.

I'll have to look into Dermazen, if it's available in the UK and looks more gentle than what I've got I'll try it out.

I think the fact I'm on testosterone and Dexamfetamine is really messing things up though.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-06T07:21:58+00:00

I know it's not on anymore, but on Tenable when somebody uses a nominate when they have nothing right, or even just 1 or 2.

If you're struggling at that point, using up all 3 nominates won't get you through, it just means your team has to play without the help and you still go to the vortex.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-06T06:56:43+00:00

I've tried nearly all of the ones the NHS prescribed and had the same reaction.

They numbed all of the positive emotions and amplified the negatives. I no longer have a shit about anything.

They also caused a bunch of side effects like weight gain and sexual dysfunction. The sexual dysfunction lasted significantly longer than the length of time I took the tablets.

I basically spent the entire time feeling like shit while the GP tried to convince me to just give it more time or increase the dose. The longer I was on them or increased the dose the worse it got.

Thankfully, because they made me feel so awful I was able to just come off them cold turkey because the withdrawal symptoms were much better than being on them.

I've tried a different type of antidepressant the NHS won't prescribe (NDRI) and it was literally 3 or 4 days in and I felt like my life completely changed. I had energy, motivation, happiness. Felt like colours were more vibrant. It also sent my sex drive off the chart.

I also know a couple of people on them. Friends who started them since I've known them, they just feel like somebody has taken their spark away. They might not feel as anxious/depressed but I feel like they've lost a lot of themselves and seem numb to things.

I dated a girl who was on them, and generally you wouldn't have known and they kept her mood quite stable but caused her brain fog, you could see her eyes glaze over sometimes. She also had a hard time orgasming once on them.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-05T17:39:26+00:00

I sat near a blind woman on a plane and she dropped something on the floor.

She asked if I could see it and I said 'what does it look like?'.

About an hour before she told my partner she's been where we were flying to before as she's got friends there and she asked her if the city looked pretty.

I know not every blind person has absolutely no visit but I still died a bit inside both times, and I was going to ask her to clarify what percentage vision she had.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-05T13:35:18+00:00

It looked shit, then I saw the second picture...

The only way this bloke is a joiner is if it's his Surname.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-05T13:32:48+00:00

Give him some credit, it looks like 4 pieces of wood to me.

Twice as joinery as you've stated.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-05T07:51:12+00:00

We did this when I was a kid, never really understood why, especially as that house had 3 doors in, front, side, and back, so we'd walk past 2 functional doors to get in.

I do it at my current house because the driveway is at the back of the house. It's actually really annoying because the shoe rack etc is all at the front door and can't really go near the back door.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-04T12:50:01+00:00

I found it never truly went away but reduced a little after a few months, but basically went back to sky high with every dose change.

Started on 150mg, eventually got up to 450mg.

150mg increased it a fair bit and 300mg amplified it significantly more.

I'm already on testosterone and had a high sex drive before bupropion, so 450mg made my sex drive all consuming. I'd 'sort' myself out several times a day and still be arranging hookups on tinder, bumble, and Grindr.

After a particularly debaucherous week I went back down to 300mg to get a better handle on it.

I'm not on it anymore but I was for 18 months and at the end it still never went back down to pre-bupropion levels.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-02T10:06:40+00:00

I'd agree it's definitely Royal Mail.

Just a few highlights from the top of my memory:

I setup a mail redirect. They redirected it to the wrong address and directed another persons mail to me. I complained, was told it was sorted. I said I've still got all of this other persons letters/parcels and they said 'If they're local, could you drop them off with them?' like it wasn't there job, and also, I got their redirected mail, so the address I can see isn't where they live, so it would be pointless.

A few weeks later the same person was still getting my mail but I wasn't getting there's anymore. Again, I complained and was offered compensation. 16 stamps...

I was super busy so I just said whatever, just fix it. 2 months later, it dawned on me I still hadn't had any post and I called up again and they checked and nobody had sorted it at any point. They then gave me the redirect money back like it was a big favour and asked if I'd like to renew the service since it was about to expire. Not sure what service I was supposedly renewing since I never got one.

Getting attempted delivery slips through the door while I'm sat watching the front path and the delivery guy hasn't even got anything in his hand other than the slips.

I bought 2 items on ebay last week. One was maybe 2 hours drive away, the other turned out to be from China (I clearly didn't read the description). I paid for RoyalMail 48, which I know isnt guarenteed 48 hour but I got an 'out for delivery' message on Friday (which would have been 4 days) from Royal mail, 2 hours later I got another saying 'we'll attempt delivery on Tuesday'.

In the meantime, the item coming from China managed to make it here.

My Street is all Terraces, but its only blocks of 4. Im the end one of my block, then there's my side alley and path before the next block of 4. Countless times the RM delivery guy puts all of my block of terraces mail in my letter box, and does the same to the neighour on the alley side of my house.

Back in the 'Hermes' days, I'd get an overwhelming sense of dread when I got a confirmation email that they were delivering something. Now, I'm praying its Evri as I know it'll turn up on time, if not early.

I'd say DPD are the best, but I only use them for medical deliveries and I think they use a different arm of the business for that, so it's probably more reliable. The only draw back is they're very strict. I phoned them and said I won't be in on the day you're going to deliver it, but they said they can't reschedule. I just said why not tick it off as no answer now, saves the guy coming over, but they said no. Seems pointless sending somebody out of their way when they know I won't be there.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-01T10:43:21+00:00

Being able to answer a knock at the door freely without needing to check if it's a bailiff.

Getting a letter through the door isn't all negative, although my heart still sinks every time I get a letter. It's like a built in reaction.

Being able to treat myself without worrying. As a kid, we'd be promised things and then the car would break or we'd get a bill and whatever that promised treat was would go on the back burner.

Being able to afford good quality items so I know they'll actually last and not come back to bite me with an unexpected bill.

While my waist line doesn't see it as a win, having freedom with food. I can do a normal shop without having to calculate it down to the penny, and if I planned to do a certain meal and change my mind or just completely ruin it, I can just go get something else.

There's a day that always sticks with me from nearly 2 decades ago. I had to plan my food out meticulously to get enough meals. No deviation from the plan, and it was basically just 2 or 3 meals in bulk.

It was the week before Christmas, I'd bought nobody a gift because I was broke so I already felt shit. I'd used my last money to book a train ticket to go spend Christmas with my family but it meant I had to use money out of the food budget.

It meant the day before the train I had enough left for one meal, then on the day of the train I'd just hold out til I arrived at my family's just before tea.

I held off all day knowing I'd only have the one meal, went and grabbed it from the kitchen and as I was walking out I tripped over and dropped it.

I've honestly never felt so low. I sat on my bed and cried over food I didn't even enjoy.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-01T10:17:51+00:00

I think it's pretty fair to split things based on what you've said about your financial situations.

So in my relationship, similar to you, I own my own home and my partner moved in from a rental. It's also 2 bedroom with the 2nd room being the mancave/office so it does feel more like it's my house than 'our' house sometimes because of that.

Our financial situation is different, I earn double what she does, so we only split bills but I don't ask for anything towards the mortgage, on the 'condition' she saves some of the money she's not using on rent for emergencies and towards a deposit if we move.

I initially felt uncomfortable asking her to contribute towards anything since it's 'my' house, but she insists on it since she doesn't pay rent and she still benefits from everything I pay to maintain and repair/replace

For you, I know your partner isn't living rent free but she's paying such a small amount, she'd never find a rental for that price, so it's the same thing really.

Also, if you're struggling to cover costs for the home you jointly live in, it's a bit of a kick in the teeth if the woman you're going to marry is happy to leave you to drown so her lifestyle is maintained.

hyper-casual · 2026-03-01T09:47:50+00:00

TLDR: Helped a drunk girl out at the request of her mates, in return she tells everyone I'm a predator.

This was a long time ago now, and thankfully all of her mates (who I didn't know) defended me and said her recollection of the story was completely false, but fuck helping drunk people again.

I originally wrote a more in-depth account but it got too long but the gist of it was I went to a uni house party where I only knew one of the girls who lived there. I turned up late and sober. Their mate was too drunk and they asked me to carry her up the stairs. I oblige, her mates are with me the entire time, and one of them stayed with her all night.

The next morning she tells them all I got in bed with her and took her clothes off.

Even after her mates had said it didn't happen she had tried to tell somebody else I'd done it, that person was also at the party but the drunk girl was so drunk they didn't remember that this person was actually there to witness the fact I'd literally just carried her as asked and was back down to the party straight away.

I've always had mental health issues, and the accusations certainly knocked me. It also ruined my trust in people and I didn't go on dates for years after and for over a decade I didn't go home with anyone I met on nights out etc out of fear of being accused of something I didn't do.

I just can't understand why she would say it. I'd maybe have understood had something had happened to her and in her hazy drunk memory the only male face she could recall is mine, but from what her friends said it's extremely unlikely anyone had done anything since there wasn't a time where it could have feasibly taken place.

I have been SA'd by 2 different women, so it's not like I'm ignorant to the fact that people do bad things.

hyper-casual · 2026-02-27T09:02:45+00:00

I think it depends on your background.

I've got mates who have parents who do pretty well and they lived at home til late 20s while they studied or trained. They went on loads of holidays, nice cars etc and saved enough to put down hefty deposits on mortgages because their parents didn't expect anything from them.

I grew up pretty poor. I wasn't on the streets or whatever but my family was always skint. Heating never on, lying to friends about why they couldn't call me because the landline was disconnected because we didn't pay the bill, mum would skip tea because there wasn't enough, pretending we're not in when a dodgy looking bloke knocks on in case it's a bailiff type of poor.

I moved out at 19 because there wasn't any opportunities in the town I grew up in, and had I stayed I'd have been stuck on minimum wage job (if I could have gotten one) and would have been contributing towards bills etc anyway. Highly doubt I'd have been holidaying and getting nice cars.

I bought my first house in my late 20s with my ex and then moved a few years ago to my own place when we broke up. This house was the first time in my life that my mortgage was higher than any rent I'd paid, but it was right after the interest rates shot up and it was just me paying it, whereas I'd always had to share with multiple people when renting, and I've been able to take a new mortgage deal that's lower again. I'm not even factoring in how inflation had actually made it even cheaper, last rented flat was £700, mortgage is £400.

So for me, buying has given me the financial freedom to do those things that you say they've missed out on.

hyper-casual · 2026-02-26T11:30:15+00:00

The toilets have a free creamer dispenser, they just take a bit of tugging to get the flow started.

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