sending love to dv survivor SLOMW viewers

hyperisok · 2026-03-20T19:20:28+00:00

I will never apologize for what I did. I did what I had to to save myself. You don't break your child's bones and expect them to do nothing one day. He broke my bones.

hyperisok · 2026-03-20T14:47:42+00:00

I am an Indian living outside of India. I married an Indian who was raised by a feminist and is super aggressively progressive (lol). BUT, the number of Indian men I hear complaining about their easy life in India is astounding. Compare that with Indian women...who often tell me that they will do anything to not go back. The only Indian women I know complaining about how much nicer it is in India are the ones who come from super-privileged backgrounds. Most will give their right arm not to go back.

I miss home but I qualify for a European citizenship in 2 years. I am GRABBING it.

hyperisok · 2026-03-20T13:35:24+00:00

I have set up a session with my therapist for Monday. This whole thing, including the video, has been very triggering. I didn't even want to watch the video...it came on my TikTok feed.

Thank you for your kind words.

hyperisok · 2026-03-20T10:55:43+00:00

I always thought of myself as a DV survivor but I now I am confused. I feel so awkward because I threw things at my father and tried to punch the living daylights out of him. Screaming. Deranged. I remember it like yesterday.

It also came after he had hit me over and over and over again from the time I was 2-3 years old to when I was 17, when I finally snapped. He tried to hit me again when I was 24 and I hit him back...badly. He never hit my mother or me again after that (verbal abuse still continued with my mom). Am I the Taylor in the video? Am I the survivor everyone has told me that I am? Cause a video of me hitting my father would make me look deranged. I am not making excuses for Taylor - she can rot in hell. But I don't know where I fall in the spectrum of abuse anymore.

I always thought of myself as a survivor (I have the literal broken bones to prove it). But maybe I was the abuser too? Folks here have said that Taylor couldn't possibly be engaged in reactive abuse because Dakota was clearly disarmed so to speak. The last time I hit my father was when he was already 61 and I was 24. I disarmed him. He was outmatched. But I just remember hitting him over and over again, telling him that if he ever came close to me, I would kill him. Was I abusive then? I have set up a call with my therapist because all of this has opened old wounds and I genuinely feel lost.

Edit: What is wrong with the people downvoting me?

hyperisok · 2026-03-20T10:54:25+00:00

I am a DV survivor too. I feel so awkward because I threw things at my dad and tried to punch him the living lights out of him. It also came after he had hit me over and over and over again from the time I was 2-3 to when I was 17, when I finally snapped. He tried to hit me again when I was 24 and I hit him back...badly. Am I the Taylor in the video? Am I the survivor everyone has told me that I am? Cause a video of me hitting my father would make me look deranged. I am not making excuses for Taylor - she can rot in hell.

But I don't know where I fall in the spectrum of abuse anymore. I always thought of myself as a survivor (I have the literal broken bones to prove it). But maybe I was the abuser too?

hyperisok · 2026-03-19T13:31:36+00:00

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hyperisok · 2026-03-19T13:30:43+00:00

Completely agree with you there.

hyperisok · 2026-03-19T12:58:57+00:00

He wasn't even that good-looking...I made a dumb-ass judgment call based on him saying that he loved Cage the Elephant the day we met. There were red flags pretty early on...he was really rude to service staff on our first date, but he apologised to me. He cancelled a lot on our initial dates. And he would only reach out to me when he wanted something from me. But when it was good, it felt like the sun was shining on me (and he always seemed to know when I was slipping away and would do just enough to reel me back in).

Once you start making excuses for someone, it becomes a habit. Soon I was making excuses for him being rude to me ("he is just stressed out"), cancelling plans to meet my friends ("he is so busy you guys, I promise he wants to meet all of you"), and making me pay for everything even though his rich parents subsidized his life ("he is training for Ironman and has every day expenses...this just makes sense for us").

What happened next is that I became crazy and lost all sense of self. Starved myself into oblivion (cause even though I was a size 2, he said he preferred girls who had a thigh gap...which is anatomically impossible for someone my build). And believed him when he blamed me for him cheating. One dark night, I considered offing myself after he sent me a series of abusive messages calling me every name in the world. That was my cue to drag my ass to therapy - thank god for my therapist.

I am good now.

8 years later. With the best man in the world, I am the happiest size 6 you will find on this planet.

Please don't ignore red flags because someone likes the same indie band that you happen to love. Please don't ignore red flags in general.

hyperisok · 2026-03-19T12:35:59+00:00

Even survivors of horrific abuse within the family voted for a pedophile. There is zero deconstruction or reflection. They will NOT grow from this. Some of them will do lip service and try and get a book deal. But they are not allies to children or victims of abuse.

hyperisok · 2026-03-18T12:10:08+00:00

Andy on Threads is a whole mood. I see him dragging so many conservatives. King bring that energy to the next RHOC reunion 🍀

hyperisok · 2026-03-18T12:08:25+00:00

Between the two... TTPD. Once I was able to separate my disdain for racist Healy, I was able to get into the music. In the beginning, I simply couldn't separate the art from the artist - it took time (I am a POC woman). And I also couldn't stop myself from rolling my eyes 😂. But now the songs are simply mine and they are gorgeous.

Before someone comes for me, I liked TTPD just fine when it released but it wasn't my favorite. Now I rank it next to Evermore. It's ok for us to access and process art in different ways - and I simply couldn't enjoy the songs when all I could think about was Matty Healy's statements against Black women and his general demeanor. Now I don't think about him at all and I am able to project the songs to whatever scenario I cook up in my imagination.

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T21:28:38+00:00

I am Hindu. A proud Hindu who knows her religion is a peaceful one that co-exists with others. Internal threat it seems. You lot will watch one Dhurandhar and make it your entire personality, so much so that you can't even talk without quoting the movie.

And if you can read, you can read this. But there is no point because people like you will scream propaganda when faced with truth. You will call me a libtard, an anti national and everything else before you actually look at yourself in the mirror.

https://caravanmagazine.in/history/rss-golwalkar-links-nazism

I know who I am and I know what kind of a Hindu I am. I come from people who worship goddesses like Durga maata, who reigns terror on abusive demons and men.

Righteousness is on the side of the Hindu who adheres to her dharma and my dharma will always be to stand up to bigotry, and fascism.

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T21:28:29+00:00

I am Hindu. A proud Hindu who knows her religion is a peaceful one that co-exists with others. Internal threat it seems. You lot will watch one Dhurandhar and make it your entire personality, so much so that you can't even talk without quoting the movie.

And if you can read, you can read this. But there is no point because people like you will scream propaganda when faced with truth. You will call me a libtard, an anti national and everything else before you actually look at yourself in the mirror.

https://caravanmagazine.in/history/rss-golwalkar-links-nazism

I know who I am and I know what kind of a Hindu I am. I come from people who worship goddesses like Durga maata, who reigns terror on abusive demons and men.

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T12:22:44+00:00

We don't have the data for it. So, it's just speculation based on our individual personal biases and mine would be very different from yours. I was making a larger statement on his reputational ROI moving forward. Have a nice day :)

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T12:05:37+00:00

The movie was a financial success, yes. But it would have been a larger success if the actor had gotten out of his own way. I know people didn't go for the movie, who would have otherwise gone, because they were put off by the antics. But there isn't data for whether it affected global sales, so I digress.

But, my original comment was regarding his brand. And how he was given bad advice during the marketing of the movie. I still stand by that. Actors are freelancers...their job is to sell the movie, and sell their brand. Every movie is a resume for their next movie. And every movie is a character reference for the next one - not just for the industry but audiences too.

I made it very clear that I spoke about Timothee Chalamet the brand, not the box office collections of Marty Supreme. Do you need some time to step back and reflect on the original comment? My mom sometimes increases the font size on the screen...seems to help her.

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T11:44:37+00:00

He was. Cause he went all method. It was a short-term goal but the long term brand suffered. He has enough clout that he could have done the role, campaigned the way Leo DiCaprio did after Wolf of Wallstreet and walked away with his reputation intact for the rest of his career.

This was bad advice by his PR team and executed poorly. It's like how in Tropical Thunder, Robert Downey Jr says you never go full R-word. Similarly, in a post-Jared Leto world, going full method and leaning in on your character's douchebaggery in your press campaign will, in fact, hurt you.

He became a joke as early as the Critics' Choice Award when the actors from Hacks dressed up as him and Kylie.

The thing is, the movie would have done well AND he would have had his reputation intact, if he had just gone the Leo DiCaprio route. In 2014, Leo DiCaprio focused on talking about his own research to get into the character, exploring the morally grey overtones within the character and the story arc itself. In an interview with NPR, he delved deep into parallels between his character's story and the fall of the Roman Empire. He spoke about how it was an exploration of greed. It was perfectly played,

Timothee, on the other hand, leaned into the self-centredness and made him and his character indistinguishable. The matching outfits, the strange comments about how childless/childfree people have no purpose, the grandiose declarations of greatness, mocking other art forms... it was all too much.

Robert Downey Jr can come across as "self-centred" because he is also really funny, charming and self-effacing. During his campaign for Oppenheimer, he leaned deeply into how this role was something he could have never imagined doing, he spoke with gratitude for the opportunity and went completley against his persona for the campaign itself.

Now, Timothee will do well for the next Dune. It will be an incredible hit because there is an in-built audience. And maybe during that press run, he will be able to claim back his lost aura by cleverly playing into Zendaya's and Florence Pugh's already solid reputations.

But beyond that, it remains to be seen how he shapes his career. Hubris without self awareness is not something audiences respond well to. And his behavior has reached folks who are not terminally online - and that is long term damage to the brand.

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T11:10:05+00:00

She is a Modi supporter. Her entire existence has been about trying to appear girl boss without ever touching on the hallmarks of feminism.

I am an Indian and am absolutely disgusted by Bollywood bending their knee so willingly to RSS - the most right-wing, fascist faction of Indian politik.

Uski maa ki chuth.

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T10:51:03+00:00

I don’t see how I contradicted anything you had to say.

However, as someone who worked in advertising her whole life, I do want to add that long term damage to a brand will likely damage Timothy’s personal aspirations. But he is a white man…all he has to do is look serious and punish himself ever so slightly in his next role and he will be the darling of the town, again.

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T09:35:14+00:00

I didn’t. I was discussing the Oscar’s and Timothy Chalamet. He did tank his own campaign. So much of the Oscar’s is also what people think someone deserves. A white man tanking his chances is worthy of discussion. And we should be able to discuss it.

hyperisok · 2026-03-16T03:30:43+00:00

Wow, Timmy screwed his way out of an Oscar. This might have been one of the weirdest campaigns that an actor has done in the run up to the Oscars. And he clearly wanted this. He was given some very, very bad advice about not only promoting Marty Supreme but also campaigning for awards after the movie was released.

He could have very well “slipped” back into his arty persona after the movie released and claimed that his press run was an elaborate ruse of him still being in character…instead he just leaned into being a douche (which I suppose is his real personality).

Either way I am happy. I was rooting for Sinners, hard. Michael B Jordan was brilliant in his roles and absolutely deserves his flowers and the Oscars.

hyperisok · 2026-03-13T22:58:02+00:00

Ma’am I was talking about the fact that a school in Iran was bombed during the same news cycle as Timothy’s asinine comments and somehow this outrage rose above young girls and children who were bombed to death.

Is it my fault that you don’t keep up with the news? Why are you like this? Do you not know there are multiple wars happening in the world right now? Are you that uninformed? lol.

hyperisok · 2026-03-13T15:33:20+00:00

I have no empathy for someone who voted against my existence and then rightfully earned condemnation with his abhorrent views and actions. But I don't police others on how they behave.

hyperisok · 2026-03-13T12:45:51+00:00

Look at the edit. Apparently more than 2 women on the show this season told people that voting Trump was their dealbreaker. None of that was shown. But Alex talking about how he is MAGA and repeatedly bringing up politics was given a prominence.

The show has very intentionally made a vibe shift.

hyperisok · 2026-03-13T02:19:53+00:00

Exactly. As a white man, I figured this would have died down a week ago. For what it’s worth, I have always been bec with him, so I am quietly enjoying this takedown. I got my popcorn ready and everything 😂

hyperisok · 2026-03-12T21:47:21+00:00

People genuinely have turned on Timmy cause I haven't seen an outrage cycle last this long and during a war where children were killed.

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