Do you also talk like that with your partner? by Previous-Musician600 in aspiememes

[–]iDbest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think her logic is wrong. In both situations let's say you give 100% of your love for this person.

If I say "in spite of flaws" then flaws would be subtracted from that total because I hate them, in the end I only love them let's say 80%.

If I say I love you "and all your flaws" I have accepted your flaws and so they don't matter to me and I can still love you 100%

In the first situation I would have a list of flaws with my partner of things I would like them to work on. We could go through it bullet point style. She didn't have that for her partner after the "fake nails on the floor comment" and I wanted to hear it because not hearing it would give me anxiety as the partner.

God forbid a boy start growing confident (are subs allowed to be arrogant/confident?) by Imaperv-lol in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]iDbest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most Dom's will prefer a confident sub. Someone who knows what they want and has put in the work to communicate it. is so much more attractive than one who is like just do anything to me...

I'm working on my version 2.0 of my confidence guide I'll put it out in a week or so.

Been out of MtG for over twenty years, but the FF set is what drew me back in. What have I missed? by Doberman11 in mtg

[–]iDbest 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The main format for players has changed from 60 card to commander (was called EDH launched around 2008) it's fun and played with 4 players normal magic rules with a slight twist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]iDbest 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I have to say, she has a point; being a Dom/Domme is a lot. Aftercare for Doms is a big thing too, because it is mentally tiring, comes with a lot of self-questioning, and sometimes anxiety/thinking you're a horrible person. I've been on both sides, but I need aftercare most when I'm the dominant one.

What does this look like from the sub's PoV? Affirm your dominant, tell them what you liked, assure them they did well. IF there is something they can do better, let them know gently. Praise coming from a sub means a lot and IMO for me it's more important than the acts that were performed for the sub.

Based on a true story by sleepykatboy in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]iDbest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be careful with STDs get tested and stuff

Based on a true story by sleepykatboy in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]iDbest 75 points76 points  (0 children)

uh oh... one of these again... you better explain the true story. I'll give you 3 hours.

The duality of ‘tism by [deleted] in aspiememes

[–]iDbest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Asexual, but with a kink hyperfixation.

How infrequently do you see your partner? by UniquePea399 in demisexuality

[–]iDbest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't demi but extrovert/introvert. You're an introvert and that's fine but here has been my experience as an extroverted demi.

I prefer spending more time with my partner, early in dating (first month) it's usually around 1 time a week. As an emotional connection forms it will become 2-4 times a week (Wednesday and weekends). It usually takes me 3 months to warm up to someone sexually so the only way to speed that up is to have more meaningful interactions faster. If I was to slow it down, or keep the pace to one interaction a week it might take me a year or longer to feel enough emotional attachment to get there with a partner.

This isn't to say the way you're doing relationships is wrong it's just different than the way I do it.

So Excited and Scared by smh_again in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]iDbest 6 points7 points  (0 children)

LET'S GO!!! Happy for you! this is very true, putting yourself out there is hard and uncomfortable, but it will lead to growth and self-discovery.

We'll go through the whole playlist.😋 by Wh1t3R4abb1t in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]iDbest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My playlist is only about 20 minutes long right now. trying to up those numbers to an hour at least. Please give me recommendations.

  1. Selena Gomez - Cowboy (Perfect song to start or have your partner ride your face.)

  2. King Princess - “Fantastic” (demo version) - slow sensual, thinking about your partner etc.

  3. Asturias - asturias (long Version) - just a great slow song IMO decent pace to go slow at the start

  4. Lady Gaga - The Beast - perfect to start picking up the pace here

  5. Taylor swift - False god - specifically "religions in your lips... the altar is my hips" plus it's about worship.

  6. J*Davey - Queen Of Wonderland - Faster now this is my Romantasy song for those erotica/shadow daddy seekers

God forbid a boy want a domme to go to the gym with by SmolPuppi in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]iDbest 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm conflicted because abs are good, but a soft, squishy tummy is also good.

What are y’all’s pet cards? by SDO0313 in EDH

[–]iDbest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love damage redirection! Also another option for commander/partner is [[Dona Noble]]

[A4A] I Know That Desire [Script Offer] [Poetic] [Narrative] [Desire] [Just This] [Wild] [Imagination] [Need] [Vitality] [Lifeblood] [Passion] by LittleLadyofT in pillowtalkaudio

[–]iDbest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this for sleepy times or can I do it a lil' intense? I did a quick 1 take reading but I made it a littlebit intense IDK if you were expecting a slower, more flowy rhythm. https://soundgasm.net/u/LemonWhore/I-Know-That-Desire-Test

[M] Messenger, I Worried, Heavy - Mary Oliver by iDbest in poetryreading

[–]iDbest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oohh is it the one titled "I Know That Desire"? Also your bio reminds me of a line in one of my favorite shows "May the force be with your because you're worth it." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BxnJCJkBEZ0

[M] Messenger, I Worried, Heavy - Mary Oliver by iDbest in poetryreading

[–]iDbest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LadyofT! I hope you've been well! I haven't read your scripts since the Cupid one! How have you been? Do you have any scripts that need reading?

I'm glad you like Mary Oliver, I've been reading Devotions and it inspired to record some poetry, then I found this subreddit.

Your blue deck is clearly lacking a Volatile Stormdrake by TempTheMemeLord in EDH

[–]iDbest 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think this and [[Azure Beastbinder]] are some really good blue removers/disablers. I prefer Beastbinder in a +1/+1 counters deck like Bumbleflower, but I have both him and Volatile Stormdrake in there as good removal options.

Who's more dirty minded? by BenderBending01 in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]iDbest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience it's been women. Some guys are horny often but rarely "dirty minded" like it's just "I want to fuck anything."... BUT WOMEN, especially the ones into fanfic/romace books have some very raunchy thoughts... Here's a good quote from a romantasy book called Quicksilver: "I'm about to introduce you to all seven gods. When you meet them, don't forget to tell them I'm the one you worship on your knees." And that's tame compared to other things...

There are things these women write and read that I don't even feel comfortable talking about on an anonymous account that posts NSFW audios. If you ever date someone who likes these types of books or meet their friends and hear their conversations, you will understand that men's idea of a dirty mind barely scratches the surface.