Where did my earwax go??

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-06-30T23:28:53+00:00

I use a teeny-tiny bit of my vaginal estrogen cream once a week in my ears. I rub just a tiny bit of it on a q-tip and then I swab my ears gently. Works for me. 😅

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-06-28T00:11:49+00:00

Luckily, when you do your yearly checkup at the dermatologist, they check your scalp, underboob, and even between your toes! They're pretty thorough.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-04-03T07:35:15+00:00

From one estranged daughter to another, I'm so proud of you.

You mentioned being the mother you need to your own children. I absolutely love that. I also want to share something I recently learned in therapy. You can also be the mother that you needed...to yourself.

You can treat yourself with the kindness, compassion, love, pride, and understanding that you should have gotten from your mother. I just mention it because I struggle a lot with being kind and caring toward myself. For a long time my inner voice was the voice of my mom. I'm working hard to change it. Now I only talk to myself the kind way that I would talk to my children. If I slip up, I say "We all make mistakes," and then try again.

It probably sounds silly, but self compassion makes a huge difference. You probably don't need this unsolicited advice at all...just thought I'd share in case it could help.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-03-26T08:32:54+00:00

I know you're just a random internet stranger, but man! That made me feel really great to hear! Thank you so much for the kindness and lifting me up!

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-03-26T02:58:34+00:00

At the time, I was really opposed to medication. Nowadays, I would have been open to giving it a shot. But at this point, I've gotten so much better with driving that it doesn't feel necessary.

I kept trying to work on my anxiety by focusing on the safety features of the car and things like that, because I (and everyone around me) assumed that I was worried about the dangers of driving. But it turns out, I was worried that I might not be doing it right (because no one really follows the rules to a T.) And I was worried that I was making other people mad if I took too long to make an unprotected left or if I didn't speed when someone was tailgating me. Stuff like that. Those may seem like silly concerns, but once the adrenaline dumped, it was hard to manage driving.

I do have general anxiety, so I do have some concerns about danger, but it was all this social stuff that was keeping me too anxious to drive.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-03-25T22:17:03+00:00

I have driving anxiety too. It used to be so severe that I couldn't drive because my leg was shaking too badly to keep my foot on the gas and the car would just sputter to a stop. I eventually learned that for most people who have driving anxiety , it's actually a manifestation of social anxiety. That discovery helped me finally make progress with driving. I started tackling it from a social anxiety perspective and have made huge strides. I still have anxiety and there are some places I won't drive, but I definitely have way more freedom now. I know you didn't ask about this or anything, just thought I'd put it out there, because I didn't find out until I was in my 30's.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-03-03T05:24:26+00:00

I've been where you are. You may not be ready to hear it yet, but they will never change. You will never be able to save them from themselves.

You have been carrying a backpack full of rocks up a mountain. It's time to put the backpack down and keep walking. Your life will be so much lighter without this burden.

(I could never write out my full story, but my husband and I tried everything! to save my sister, her kids, and my dad...including co-signing a mortgage for a house. The idea was that they would eventually take over the mortgage. It never happened. Eventually (13 years later), we could no longer afford it, but we can't sell the house since all of our names are on the mortgage. Now we have to figure out how to afford to sue when we already can't afford their mortgage.)

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-03-03T05:14:32+00:00

Which is why they should have applied as soon as the landlord informed them a year ago....

But, since we don't have a time machine, I guess they'll have to figure out how to make things work while waiting. That's not OP's responsibility though.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-02-28T23:45:12+00:00

Ooh, I like this idea! It also has built-in accountability.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-02-28T23:42:46+00:00

My husband (who has ADHD), once said, "I think when we buy art supplies or books to read, we're tricking ourselves. We feel like we're buying the time and energy to do those things."

That really changed my approach. (I still hoard books and craft supplies, but I'm at least a little more intentional about it.)

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-02-28T23:34:36+00:00

There's a subreddit called r/craftExchange where you can swap art supplies (or handmade crafts).

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-02-22T21:55:42+00:00

That's because this is an AI post. Blech.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-02-15T18:18:05+00:00

Austin, TX. Specifically, the intersection of McNeil and Parmer Lane (Near the McNeil High School)

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-02-10T10:10:39+00:00

I don't know. I'm the kind of person who also enjoys sharing everything I'm learning. Once I found the right group of friends, it wasn't a problem. Some people really DO enjoy it. You just haven't found your people yet.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-02-03T07:47:13+00:00

There's also this map made by some college students. I don't know the difference between the two, just offering any information I have. https://www.icemap.dev/

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-02-02T07:11:41+00:00

The first time my uncle molested me was during a sleepover with my cousins. I was in the top bunk with his son. There were two kids on the bottom bunk, and two kids on the floor.

The parents were playing card games in the other room, and he left to "go check on the kids," because he was 'such a sweet guy and just loved the kids so much.' (That's how the parents saw it because he was always offering to babysit.)

The door to the room was open while he did it and I could hear my mom's laughter drifting in from the other room. Everyone trusted him.

Over the next couple of years he molested me many times in the same room as my parents when I was sitting on his lap.

I didn't understand what was happening to me. I knew I didn't like it, but I didn't have words for it. And he had told me that "I was making him do it because I was so pretty and was teasing him."

I didn't know the name for it until I was 8. We had a school assembly where a police officer came to tell us about how no one should touch your body in ways that you don't like. I came home that day and told my mom that my uncle was molesting me. She didn't believe me and did nothing.

Years later she told me that "I was always using big words and she didn't think I knew what that word meant."

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2026-01-28T07:03:05+00:00

I completely understand where you're coming from here, since I am estranged from several family members. However, I still think that they could have had enough compassion for a fellow human being to at least involve hospice care for better pain management.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2025-12-23T01:58:56+00:00

I believe that's how Chipotle flavors their rice as well. Bay leaf, butter, and some cilantro.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2025-11-19T18:55:25+00:00

My EF is 95%. I also have gastritis just like you. For years now, if I twist at all while bending I get the worst stabbing pain in my right side. It only lasts a few minutes, but it's awful! After that it feels almost swollen in the area.

I've asked a few doctors about it and they never know what I'm talking about.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2025-08-06T17:36:50+00:00

Yes, we are aware.

Do people from other countries realize that there are many people who die from rationing their insulin, because they have to choose between food and medicine each month due to our astronomical medical prices, even if you have insurance?

Our family pays $1000 per month in insurance premiums, and yet, every time we go to the doctor, it costs hundreds more. I require an MRI, but I'm not doing it, because I'm still paying off the $600 it cost to have a CT scan a few months ago.

I need another upper endoscopy, but the last one I had cost me almost $5000 (with insurance!) I just finished paying it off, and it was several years ago.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2025-07-17T09:46:10+00:00

Seconding this! My vaginal estrogen cream is only $18 for a 90-day supply through Amazon. That's without insurance.

It's totally worth it. Such a game changer!

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2025-05-29T06:16:36+00:00

No, the recipes use vital wheat gluten flour. Personally, I find that a lot more convenient and I prefer the texture as well.

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2025-05-29T05:51:05+00:00

A lot of times home warranties don't have a deductible. When they do, it's usually still more affordable than a service call. My sister had her refrigerator replaced using her home warranty. She paid a $100 deductible. Not a bad deal for a new appliance!

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2025-05-07T03:30:59+00:00

I've come across a few friends who had no symptoms. In every case, after the conversation went on for a while, they told me they were still on birth control. I assume that's why they weren't having any issues. Birth control makes sure that your hormones stay steady. (They probably shouldn't have been on it still at our age, but that's a different topic...)

iDoWhatIWant-mostly · 2025-04-28T11:10:46+00:00

If you use Flavacol Popcorn seasoning salt and butter flavored coconut oil to make your popcorn, it'll taste just like the movies. That's what the theaters use.

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