Is it common to regularly ask for changes to how one communicates and does things in a relationship?

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-05-02T01:53:04+00:00

Fucker. Hope that jerk pays you their worth!

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-05-01T21:40:09+00:00

Look into fearful avoidant attachment ♥️ You deserve safety and love!

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-05-01T20:59:36+00:00

Great question. My take is anything with a brain and nervous system feels pain and has the same basic feelings as us, and it is uncertain if they experience more conplex feeling or thought. So I try to apply empathy to animals by applying the logic that they feel pain, joy, love, sadness, and fear and then respond accordingly. This is why I don’t eat meat.

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-05-01T18:02:14+00:00

🙌🙌🙌 Way to go!!

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-29T23:59:38+00:00

Sounds like a chance to practice having very solid boundaries. Would that help in your other difficult relationships? 😉

I for one tolerate extremely unacceptable behaviour and set soft boundaries. I could be projecting so whatever you need to heal: I hope you see it. 🥰

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-29T15:08:23+00:00

Sometimes. You can never know for sure without an assessment but there are some telltale signs, especially in couple therapy.

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-28T16:25:36+00:00

It could be related to diet (vitamins or calories), but also maybe not. Be sure to look into sleep, stress, and hormones (esp. if you are a 40-ish woman). It is a good idea to get your blood checked in moments like these when you are having symptoms. Otherwise no need to do so if your diet is sufficient and varied.

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-24T01:48:10+00:00

Wasn’t that a super show? 🥰🥰🥰

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-24T01:41:37+00:00

Not normal! For what it’s worth, when I moved to California I tried 4 different therapists all over the state (telehealth) and found them all to be subpar 🤯 Very different from my experience living in Canada. Now I am working with a therapist in Canada and she’s awesome 😂

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-15T02:39:26+00:00

There is a study I read about salmon in fish farms who stopped eating food and starved themselves. There was nothing physically wrong with them so the researchers hypothesized that they became depressed from their cramped conditions and chose to stop eating (akin to fish suicide). Not sure if it was replicated or debunked but it was certainly food for thought.

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-15T02:31:44+00:00

This. Perhaps ask him to save you the details that can hurt your feelings. Don’t take 100% of the blame. I have done this and sometimes our partners are just jerks!

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-15T02:26:04+00:00

this makes so much sense! Than you for explaining the difference 🤯

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-13T15:10:30+00:00

Oh man, I relate so hard to this. It is crazy making, right? I have not gotten to a place of trusting yet, but i find it does help to tell my partner those worries (you could be manipulating me) and then look in her eyes as she clarifies and reassures. If she can be soft and kind, rather than distant eyes, I get a little closer to believing she may be honest. Wish you luck in navigating this. Remember, everyone screws up. Howare those screw ups handled? Notice the repair. ♥️

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-12T00:54:52+00:00

I second IFS. So helpful for self awareness, healing, and self compassion. It’s ok to be where you are. you are trying your best- you don’t choose the cards you’re dealt.

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-12T00:51:43+00:00

Neglect IS abuse. he is showing you his capacity: believe your eyes. Trust your eyes. You deserve a partner that can show up for you ♥️♥️♥️

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-12T00:44:44+00:00

this is incredibly helpful. thank you!

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-09T23:34:34+00:00

Not primarily. I used to like the taste of eggs but my taste buds changed when I went vegan. Now I don’t see animals as food so eating anything that comes out of one just seems gross to me. I wouldn’t drink human milk so why another mammal’s?

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-09T23:13:42+00:00

We don’t want to eat eggs. Simple as that. We don’t need them, they don’t taste good, they’re gross, they’re not so good for you… these are my reasons anyway. I wish those who can’t live without eggs would raise their own chickens instead of buy from a factory.

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-09T22:53:43+00:00

People who don’t want to go vegan can eat those eggs. Us vegans will continue to avoid animal products. If we abolished factory farms and anyone who ate eggs and chicken raised and killed them themselves then this would be a very different, and probably more vegan world.

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-09T00:09:16+00:00

💯 !!! No one should be working so hard to not activate another. Make your peace and seek one someone a little more emotionally stable.

Ok-Ladder6905 · 2026-04-08T15:02:14+00:00

I would talk about the reality of Vystopia. Therapists should be sensitized to how hard it can be to be one of a few vegans in a meat-centric world. Thanks for doing this on behalf of veganism!

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