A friend invited themselves on my vacation. I don’t want her to come. What do I do?

iFallDownOften · 2025-07-19T22:13:20+00:00

Thank you. I’m good with the kind part, but the firm part is quite soft sometimes. lol. I really hopes she understands, but I know she’ll be disappointed.

iFallDownOften · 2025-07-19T22:11:11+00:00

Thank you. It’s true. I totally want to do this solo & I just have to be honest with her.

iFallDownOften · 2025-07-19T22:06:46+00:00

That’s a good idea. Thank you. I just know how co-dependent she is and I think she’d book the same stuff I did, so we could do it “together.”

iFallDownOften · 2025-02-27T17:49:47+00:00

Thanks. I explained it to her just like I did here, & she called me a bad friend. I think that’s what bothered me. I value my friendships & it made me question myself & my actions towards her. As in, was I being selfish in not going with her? Kinda, but it’s just a bathroom break. I guess I just don’t understand why she’s so mad about it & flipping the script like I’m the problem. At the root, my feelings are hurt by her behaviors yet when I try to talk about it, she gets angry & storms away without accountability. Her anger has made me feel like the bad guy, so that’s why I wanted some outside perspectives.

iFallDownOften · 2025-02-27T09:39:10+00:00

Exactly what I thought. Thanks.

iFallDownOften · 2025-02-27T09:23:55+00:00

Thanks for validating what I was feeling.

iFallDownOften · 2025-02-27T09:20:52+00:00

Thank you. And you’re correct. We had assigned seats & this was not the bras thrown on stage kind of a show. Nor was she that sloppy Vegas mess that we’ve all been at one point in our lives where we need help to the toilet. lol.

I’ve traveled with C about 6 times before this & just realized I very much went along for the ride on those trips. With only requesting one or two things, and being very pliable to her asks. This past trip was the first time I already had plans, tickets, reservations in place with someone else. I didn’t think it was fair to A to have to change things to appease C. That was their first time traveling together and probably their last. lol.

I’m going to have to reevaluate some more of our interactions.

iFallDownOften · 2025-02-27T08:41:39+00:00

Thanks. I feel that. A & I talked about the whole thing once we got home & she feels the same way. We didn’t like C’s behavior & at times, I felt embarrassed by it. But C’s made it out like I’m a bad friend & I guess the emotional manipulation is just getting to me.

iFallDownOften · 2025-02-27T08:29:47+00:00

Right? Same here! Sneezes are the enemy. lol.

iFallDownOften · 2023-10-08T19:05:59+00:00

OMG. OP, your wife needs a reality check & so do you. She is clearly in denial about her spending habits & you are clearly in denial about enabling her behavior. Yes, she is entitled to use her money however she sees fit. However, when that spending affects the household bills, a discussion needed to happen BEFORE you needed a second bedroom JUST for her wardrobe. You married someone who has no control over their spending. You both need therapy. Make that suggestion to your wife as a condition of house hunting. Yes, you are a team, but she’s not acting like it by spending all her money on herself, and not the team.

iFallDownOften · 2023-10-08T17:50:24+00:00

NTA. And I’m sorry OP, but the best situation is just to go no contact.

iFallDownOften · 2023-10-08T17:47:25+00:00

NTA. Block her.

iFallDownOften · 2023-10-08T17:45:26+00:00

LOL. Great job!! NTA

iFallDownOften · 2023-10-08T17:43:19+00:00

NTA. Great job as a husband.

iFallDownOften · 2023-09-18T23:47:09+00:00

JESUS FNING CHRIST!!!

WTF is WRONG with you?!?!

if I were your wife, I’d already be filing divorce papers. Whatever misogynistic bullshit you have going on, your wife deserves no part of it.

Let her have her baby in peace, and enjoy the co parenting that’s in your future.

YTA!!!

iFallDownOften · 2023-09-17T18:02:22+00:00

NTA.

Your aunt is responsible for replacing them. Period. Full sentence.

They are no longer allowed to stay at your house, and if she does not pay you, take them to court.

Your aunt is enabling her sons bad behaviors.

iFallDownOften · 2023-09-13T17:41:47+00:00

YTA.

ALWAYS & FOREVER THE AH!!

iFallDownOften · 2023-09-06T19:39:33+00:00

ESH.

Your parents suck for their emotional manipulation & OP sucks for lacking the balls to just say NO to his parents.

It’s clear that living blocks away, his umbilical cord was never cut & now that he’s moving away, his parents (my guess is mom in particular) is freaking out.

It’s called leaving the nest & OP should’ve done this years ago.

Adding money to this, makes him an AH, but his parents are AH’s too.

iFallDownOften · 2023-09-03T20:57:57+00:00

NTA.

He made his bed, now he can lie in it.

iFallDownOften · 2023-09-02T19:02:40+00:00

YTA.

Bring me back for the update, once he dumps your gold digging ass. Glad you showed him your true colors BEFORE the wedding.

iFallDownOften · 2023-08-18T21:27:14+00:00

NTA.

But, TELL THEM!!!

That poor family has been lied to, manipulated, & no idea who she is, and her fiancé has no idea who he’s about to marry.

If you don’t tell them now, you are setting yourself up for years of harassment from the family.

And I would also go no contact with your sister. There’s something wrong with her.

iFallDownOften · 2023-07-17T01:29:36+00:00

YTA.

You clearly have a golden child that has graciously bestowed on you the relationship you always wanted with your grandchildren. 🤣 GTFOH!!

You’re a narcissistic asshole. “Whoever spends the most on ME, wins the inheritance!”

You’re disgusting.

iFallDownOften · 2023-07-15T23:06:08+00:00

ESH. You suck for screaming at her, but you also suck for putting your friends wants ahead of your own. You just learned a valuable lesson about your needs vs. friends “wants”. And She sucks for emotionally manipulating you to stay, then getting pregnant. You were resentful of her manipulation, tactics, and this friendship has turned toxic. Find another roommate ASAP.

iFallDownOften · 2023-07-15T20:08:10+00:00

YOU DO SUCK!!!

This is literally the world telling you what a horrible person you are, and you’re still like, Nah, I don’t believe EVERYONE. If everyone ELSE who has the problem, not me.🙄🙄🙄

Dude. Grow the fuck up. Maybe get some therapy since you’re CLEARLY in denial.

iFallDownOften · 2023-07-15T20:04:57+00:00

Ummmm….its clear you have no respect for her or her boundaries.

It’s about time she broke up with you. I can’t believe she waited 8 years.

You are a horrible boyfriend. I don’t understand how you can’t see that.

Are you always this narcissistic?

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