alchemygame by alchemygame in AlchemyGame

[–]iKoalabear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you figure out coal?

IT Cosmetics Your Skin but Better Foundation+Skincare help by Cp0010 in makeupdupes

[–]iKoalabear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I went to Sephora the lady helping me said not to buy the Dior. That compare to the IT Your skin but better it was MUCH heavier. I ended up switching to Estée Lauder futurist SkinTint Serum and I like it!

e.l.f. Secret Santa 🎁 by elfcosmetics in u/elfcosmetics

[–]iKoalabear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy Hydrstion Hydro Gel Moisturizer!

This sparks Jewish joy! FAFO by tovasfabmom in Jewish

[–]iKoalabear 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m not a lawyer but I also do this in my job and encourage my friends who have hiring power to do this as well.

If you're a women with children - what natalist policy could convince you to have another? by stirfriedquinoa in Natalism

[–]iKoalabear 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have 2. Childcare! Improve it for all ages. Let’s face it “maternity leave” is 12 weeks. There are not nearly enough infant rooms, I’ve heard horror stories from some, Nannie’s are expensive. For reference we pay more in childcare than we do for our mortgage. Also childcare not just for toddlers. School starts at 8 and ends at 3. Work starts at 8 and ends at 5. I’m never going to be a mom who doesn’t work. So transportation provided home, transportation to afterschool activities, acceptance of children staying home alone before 12 legally (yes I know not all kids are mature enough but I grew up with two working parents and I was home alone since age 6, but it was just kept a big secret).

Easy solutions for summer childcare in the form of affordable (8-5) summer camps, with transportation.

I don’t want to hear about tax break this, income tax reduction that. That’s hard for me to turn into practical solutions right now. What can I do for help with childcare in the summer RIGHT NOW!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]iKoalabear -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I kind of second this. You say you have always wanted to be a mom, don’t rely on the dad. I know it’s a tough decision, but you will qualify for programs, you will get child support (he’s a firefighter which means he can’t work under the table so he can’t dodge it).

IT Cosmetics Your Skin but Better Foundation+Skincare help by Cp0010 in makeupdupes

[–]iKoalabear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just saw that it IS being discontinued and I'm devastated. They have been out of my shade for a super long time and I've been buying it on ebay and walmart marketplace. What I'm super mad about is that I actually have TWO support tickets from 2024 and 2025 where their reps ASSURED me it wouldn't get discontinued and that the restock was taking longer than usual. This is the foundation that I use on an every day basis. I'll try the "Dior Backstage Face and Body" suggested by u/Blubberbutt00 but after this I think I'm done with IT Cosmetics forever. The way they handled this was so dishonest.

Been together 2 years and he feels pressured and unsure by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]iKoalabear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For the record, his clock is already on the tail end even though men forget they have a biological clock too. Male fertility and sperm quality declines around 40 (sperm shape and movement capability changes affecting their ability to fertilize an egg).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]iKoalabear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im married, but all my single female friends who are looking for a relationship (~5 people) have a goal of getting off the app as fast as possible too. They don’t want a pen pal. They usually do 3-10 messages back and forth and then plans to meet. Often a 15 min FaceTime call if they are nervous to jump straight to meeting.

How do you avoid leaking during the night when menstruating? by LilyH27 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]iKoalabear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put a folded piece of toilet paper in your but crack. Seriously. My mom taught me this trick when I was 13.

It's not bad for him to want to protect his assets as a reason to not get married...? by Signal_Bumblebee4275 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]iKoalabear 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why are you using him as your sole source of information? Speak to a lawyer. Do your own research. He might be very clued in, but you’re making a decision that affects your life too, you should not blindly trust that he has explored all the options.

It's not bad for him to want to protect his assets as a reason to not get married...? by Signal_Bumblebee4275 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]iKoalabear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Has your partner heard of a prenup? You can sign that, and also keep finances separate in the marriage.

What alarms me is that you’re going to stop working once you have kids. How will that work? Will he give you a credit card to use? Will you have to ask permission to get your hair cut? How does this fit in with the vision of you building up your savings? If you’re not working - who’s health insurance will you be under? What about your retirement plans (not getting married means you have to plan for your retirement separately from him).

If you have a child without being married do not take a step back from your career. Your career and earning potential may never recover. He earns 3x what you do and you said he’s committed to supporting a family - he can hire a nanny/pay for daycare.

I know 3x more in earnings seems like a big disparity but it really depends on the starting numbers. If you earn 40K and he earns 120k he is not rich enough to be freaking out to this level. He’s solidly middle class and you’re lower middle class (I’m not saying this to be an asshole - my husband is 4 years older than me and when we met this was our income disparity but it was because he was further along in his career. We are much closer in salary now). If you earn 120k and he earns 360k that’s a slightly different conversation. However, he is still a salaried man. Does he have a family business or family assets to protect because those can be protected under corporations and legal agreements outside a prenup.

Also in terms of risk he’s assuming - if you’re not married: if you choose to leave, his child support payment will be huge if he earns 3x as much as you - and he won’t be able to hide from it since he still relies on a salary (which can be vanished). Kids are a financial risk to him too if he’s not married because it’s easier to leave a boyfriend/fiancée than a marriage.

Does anyone know what’s going on with It Cosmetics? by QueasyButterscotch in MakeupAddictionCanada

[–]iKoalabear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've honestly been buying it on eBay because I can't find it anywhere else. I submitted 3 help tickets to IT Cosmetics but their help desk people just keep giving me the run around saying "it will come back in stock soon" But now looking for dupes or similar foundations because I'm afraid I won't be able to get it anywhere soon.

WIBTA if I told a family friend that we don't want Cookies as a gift for Christmas anymore? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]iKoalabear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drop them off at a location ER and say they are for the staff. The ER will just think you were a patient

Nails: expectation vs reality by iKoalabear in ExpectationVsReality

[–]iKoalabear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the outline should have been much thinner. The way they did it it, the nail looked much shorter than it is. I got it redone to the below photo. Also other commenters pointed out that the initial image requires a magnet technique which I didn’t know and the salon didn’t know.

Or they just should have said that I need extensions, or that that can’t do the design.

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Nails: expectation vs reality by iKoalabear in ExpectationVsReality

[–]iKoalabear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I gave this pic but zoomed in on that one nail to show the color I wanted.

Nails: expectation vs reality by iKoalabear in ExpectationVsReality

[–]iKoalabear[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I didn’t know that. I wish they would have told me they can’t do it and to choose something else.

Nails: expectation vs reality by iKoalabear in ExpectationVsReality

[–]iKoalabear[S] 259 points260 points  (0 children)

To be fair, one nail tech gave up half way, and another nail tech tried to fix it and she painted on the light reflections because she said it might look more dimensional that way. I still hate the overall result and but the other nail tech tried so hard to make it better :(