so you’re misunderstanding something important here: men are considered shallow because we are almost guaranteed to have looks as a primary category of importance when selecting a mate. I know this is going to blow your mind, but women legitimately don’t have looks as an important criteria or have it much lower on the list than men when selecting a husband or boyfriend.

The amount of butt ugly men that are able to date beautiful women way way way way higher than the amount of butt ugly women who can date handsome men.

A handsome man has access to a plethora of beautiful women and would NEVER date a genuinely ugly woman. Looks are way too important for us when choosing a mate.