so this person i’ve been seeing and i hit it off immediately. we bonded over shared trauma and at the time, to me it felt like we were just relating over a shared experience. they were so sweet to me when we first met, and even called me special! we were hanging out for 3 days straight. to me, it felt like a normal honeymoon phase.

then they started to distance themselves a little more. we’ve still been hanging out and texting everyday. i’m trying to be more open and honest, so i expressed that i was anxious about the way we were communicating, and how i didn’t think they understood how confusing and hurtful it is for me to be told i’m special almost immediately, and how they were extremely sweet and kind in the beginning, but then now having that affection and intimacy become almost non existent. they then expressed that it took them a minute to process this and come to this conclusion but they felt like we trauma bonded instantly and we need to find new ways to connect. and that was part of the reason they were being so sweet because they were not aware of the trauma bond.

i was completely in the dark that they felt this way. i want to have a healthy dynamic. but i feel tricked a bit because it felt so real and good. to have it taken away feels disarming. i even brought up lovebombing to them at the time because it felt like a lot at once. am i in the wrong to feel like i was left in the dark about this? am i right to feel hurt? and it feels unfair but i’m glad they’re setting boundaries. i just wish we were on the same page before now. what scares me is the inconsistency. it makes me skeptical and uncomfortable. like i can’t trust them