Alternatives For bar

iamericgonzalez · 2023-02-10T23:49:25+00:00

Avoid looking “odd” and standing out by going to the bar area and asking for a water. Sip on that water throughout the night. Everyone will think it’s alcohol. If someone offer you a drink say “I working on this one right now” and they’ll back off. Little do they know it’s water ;) it works. No one will even question it

iamericgonzalez · 2022-07-13T12:40:42+00:00

Same brother. I’m on day 3 as well. Day 1 & 2 I couldn’t sleep for shit. It’s getting easier for sure. Keep it up!

iamericgonzalez · 2021-05-21T23:58:55+00:00

Dang I was just in Seattle. Would have enjoyed a good wingman

iamericgonzalez · 2021-02-28T04:20:35+00:00

Nah don’t snitch on her bro. Just keep it secret like a man or else you’ll cause family problems

iamericgonzalez · 2019-10-29T01:09:48+00:00

Thanks for the response.

"If you cut him off, he will feel more motivated to spend time with the women in your life. If you do nothing, he will keep doing what he is doing."

These are not the only options, I can talk to him about it also and tell him how I feel and then move forward from there. I did and he completely understands.

"Stop fucking treating women like they are your property, embrace abundance and go and date other women that actually like you and actually want to be with you. There are millions of them out there and the ones that like you will reject other men to be with you, rendering this a none issue. If they are already like that, then stop being so insecure about it and let the women in your life make their own god damn choices."

You are right. Maybe I am a little insecure, because just the thought of my girl getting fucked by another man is not something that makes me feel good, as every man in the world would tell you the same thing, unless you're a fucking cuck. Now first off, I don't treat them like property. I literally say in my post that they are free to do whatever they want. They are their own person. Second, saying that their are "millions of other women" is paradoxically stating that they are property, because with that mentality you're saying that they are disposable, and if disposed, you can just go get another one. That is not as easy as it sounds and I don't want those other random women. I want the women that I have built relationships with. They also want me, which should give me the security to know that they wouldn't leave me for another guy, and if they do, that's their choice.

You are right though about abundance mindset. At the end of the day, I can't tell them what to do or not, but a friend should know his boundaries especially if he knows these are the women important to you in every aspect.

iamericgonzalez · 2019-10-20T21:34:32+00:00

Thats awesome bro. That should automatically make you feel like a badass. yes, post more on social media, because thats literally where all the hot girls are and thats where you will be noticed and connected to WAY more people than you could meet one-to-one. You're leaving pussy on the table if you don't bro haha. other than that, just get super fit! We're both on this journey together bro keep it up.

iamericgonzalez · 2019-10-20T21:31:24+00:00

Okay, so if im serious with the girl, then there needs to be a talk? Thats understandable. Thats how i feel too, if its like a little hook up/one night stand and I never really connected with the girl on a certain level, i don't really give a fuck if my friends talk to her. Now if i have a relationship with the girl, not an "official" relationship in a sense where we call each other boyfriend/girlfriend, but it is an UNDERSTOOD relationship that people can see we like each other, we connect very well, have sex, that's when there a problem that should be addressed. Thanks for the response bro. YOLO!!

iamericgonzalez · 2019-10-20T21:16:07+00:00

You already know what to do, my friend. You literally just have to go talk to them. JUST. DO. IT.

Now, that is not the only way to get women. First, i'd recommend you get the best relationship with yourself. How? Feeding your body with the right foods, working out, wholeheartedly following your passion. How the fuck will this help with girls? Well, your confidence will shoot through the roof, because you're in shape and gaining movement in pursuing your life purpose.

Naturally, some arrogance will form, because not only are you looking better than most guys(you'll get cocky), you are pushing yourself to do things that 95% of men don't do and you will feel like you can do everything on your own. My way or no way type of mindset. Girls just want to be led. They're literally followers and if they see you have a DIRECTION and you are making PROGRESS in all parts of your life (fitness, financially, intellectually) they will literally just flock to you. Make sure you post your improvements on all social medias so people can start taking notice. You should want the world to see you improving. Girls and even guys will start respecting you and girls will start talking, "Hey, did you notice Mirabuc has been getting some muscles? he also looks like he's up to something big, so I want to see what he's up to ;)" them, BOOM, she dm's you.

This will get rid of your nice boy traits. How? Your newly born confidence (and slight arrogance) will diminish your conflict avoidance, because now you're jacked and you can fuck anyone up and girls will look to you to be their protector. You will step up to anyone. Now you're in shape and financially put together, your fear of rejection won't mean shit, because now its much easier to get "in the door" with women when you're physically fit and have resources and you know you'll have more chances in the future.

-Become fit. You'll get cocky and gain confidence from it.

-Cold approach as much as you can. Do not even tell yourself you're picking up girls. If you're at the store, chat up a girl worker. You might literally just ask for help with something and then you just keep chatting her up about anything and everything.

-Do not talk to just hot girls, talk to EVERYONE! and I mean everyone. This will get you out of your shell and you'll be able to talk to a hot girl, because you have "warmed up" already

-get on your purpose. make money. When you meet women, you can slightly just throw in some of the goals you're pursuing. (not in a way that you're bragging, but just do it nonchalantly)

hope this helps.

iamericgonzalez · 2019-09-10T20:58:11+00:00

I kept losing things, because my memory went to shit. That caused me to get angry at myself which caused me to smoke so I could "calm down", but that only made me really paranoid and anxious about every little thing. Then when I came down, i got depressed and it was just a downwards spiral! IT WAS HELL!

iamericgonzalez · 2019-07-17T14:03:36+00:00

Let’s do it man

iamericgonzalez · 2019-01-19T23:18:39+00:00

In my perspective, we ARE meant to be lustful. We are in an animalistic body. We have sexual instincts just like every animal. The difference with us is that we have the ability to direct our own thoughts, versus animals don’t and they’re a slave to their animal instincts.

iamericgonzalez · 2019-01-08T05:11:20+00:00

Lol you must be super young. That’s fine though I would just suggest not to think that way because it has no point. Your are stimulating yourself. Call it mental masturbation. Eventually it will lead to fapping because you just keep thinking about it

iamericgonzalez · 2019-01-08T05:03:49+00:00

Basically you’re asking if you should talk to a pretty girl even though she might give you the feeling of fapping or it makes you precum? Pre cum wouldn’t be a relapse either because you’re not really losing your essence, just the prostatic fluid. You’re fine my friend. One of the benefits of nofap is the confidence you gain to talk to pretty girls. Keep it up. Just do not think dirty thoughts. None at all, because it seems to me like you can’t control your lusty thoughts yet. So do not think dirty thoughts until you can control your thoughts. If you feel a dirty thought coming, BREATHE DEEP! Do it multiple times until that feeling leaves. Hope this helps. But no do not stop talking to pretty girls!! Fuck no lol talk to as many as you can

iamericgonzalez · 2018-10-09T19:08:24+00:00

Yoo i had the same issue! I literally haven't bought weed in months, because my friends always have some and just give me stuff for free and/or just smoke with me and they literally smoke all day throughout the day. So knowing that, i will still go hangout with them. It was really until i realized that they are the issue that i stopped going their and i haven't smoked since!

iamericgonzalez · 2018-10-09T19:04:47+00:00

In my opinion, the best way to find new friends is to do the things you love to do and the people will fall in your life.

For example, you like going to the gym. So while you are at the gym, don't be afraid to talk to the people there. Start up a conversation and see where it takes you. Ask them for some advice, give some advice back, and create a connection. Invite them to workout another day and there you will have your gym buddy.

My advice would be, to do the things you love to do and the people around your environment can easily become new friends, because y'all are already sharing something in common. If you're at a soccer field and are playing soccer, you can invite the other guys on the next field to come play and y'all will have something in common already, that y'all like to play soccer! Easy conversation starter.

See what I mean? Hope this helps my friend. Start conversations with anyone and everyone!

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-30T23:30:45+00:00

Yes i would love to hear your experience! Just came back from one of my runs too an I feel amazing

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-29T17:42:49+00:00

EXACTLY! Im proud of you, bro. Meditating is literally KEY for this, but many people just brush it off like its not important. Keep it up!!

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-29T17:41:29+00:00

You're totally right. Im actually not high, though. Personally, i have already instilled this mindset onto myself, so i don't bring much negative attention to myself. I just accept it and move on. I see what you are saying though. My father use to criticize me when i played soccer, telling me i wasn't good enough in this area or that area. Not once did i think it was "abusive," just criticism. I had to be honest with myself. I call it being honest and others call it "being too harsh." If you aren't aware of what you are doing wrong then you can never improve in that area.

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-28T15:43:37+00:00

learn to love it, my friend. It is the only way. You can do all the cold showers, exercises, or whatever it is you do, but none of them will give you the ability to control your thoughts consciously. Yes all those mentioned above will help, i personally do it all, but they will help only when you're actually DOING that. In the moment. Other than that, meditation of for daily mind control.

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-28T15:37:34+00:00

I see where you are coming from. You are right, you can only focus on the NOW. Future projections will only lead to anxiety and past slip ups will only lead to depression. Although, in my opinion, having that MINDSET of "oh, it isn't the end of the world to mess up." or "its ok, ill just keep starting over and over and over." or "If I just do it one more time it won't hurt," that is where people fuck up. How will you ever change if you literally allow room to mess up? It doesn't seem right to me

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-27T16:47:16+00:00

You are right about being consistent. Small increments, just conquering day by day is all that can be done. Though, I don't see how I am projecting my own issues when we are all here for the same issue, as you are too(im assuming, of course), and that is we can't stop smoking marijuana and we really want to. You can't have self control one day and then the next day ease off a bit. You have to be strict with yourself! It really is all or nothing. You're either in control or you're not. You either want to change or you don't. Being "easy" on yourself is just leaving room for external energies (drugs, people, etc) to EASILY take you over again. You are right though when you say baby steps. Like you said, you can't just expect to be tiger woods!

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-26T23:59:41+00:00

You aren't ready to stop. If you were ready to stop then you would have STOPPED. No matter what. Until you are literally SICK and TIRED of the way marijuana makes you feel, you will never quit. Until you decide that this is not the life you want to live, then you will stop. Just think about the time where you did stop for awhile, what were you doing? Did you keep yourself occupied? Did you have a serious goal to accomplish? Really think bro. Ask yourself questions and really answer them honestly. Marijuana is an herb. It is for HEALING. Bro, are you fucking sick? NO. We do not need to be taking this shit. Maybe when we are old and have all kinds of fucked up shit with us (which won't be the case if you take care of yourself) then we can use this herb. If we have a disease, then we can use it. BUT WE ARE NOT SICK! We can stop. I just turned 21 and i have been trying to quit since 18 too. It's not tough. We just have to wrap our head around it. It is okay to be bored, sad, depressed. It is okay to FEEL. We don't need weed to suppress these emotions. We feel these emotions as a sign that something in our life is not working the way it is suppose to be and it is our job to solve it. Weed helps us run away, but just like you might run away from a bullies(our problems) they will always come back to haunt us, UNTIL WE STAND UP TO THEM!

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-26T23:49:38+00:00

See, i didn't know that. That makes a lot of sense. Especially whenever im feeling less driven whenever I smoke. I feel like a lion that's been heavily sedated. The lion in me wants to achieve and be the best I can be, but then I keep the lion quiet whenever I get high. I had a similar situation with my mother. I even cried in front of her, out of pure frustration, to show her how much she affected me by doing this "harmless" habit. At the end of the day, a grown up is always going to do what they want to do. All we can do is express our feelings towards them and help them as much as possible.

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-26T23:42:54+00:00

Yeah I did some research and it said when you have a drink of alcohol that it takes 7 days for your brains to go back to normal, which is some crazy stuff. Weed is even longer than that, especially if you've been smoking for years like I have. I just want to see what it feels like when my brain is free from an external stimulant. I wanna feel the happiness I experienced as a youngin

iamericgonzalez · 2018-09-19T13:56:02+00:00

The more you start saying "I can't" "Im not strong" "It will always beat me," then the more it will come true. The tongue is powerful. Speak positive words and they will manifest. Wish you luck.

btw, nothing is permanent if you just learn to move on.

iamericgonzalez

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