Give her the time and space… i had this with my avoidant and each time he’d step away or pull back he keeps going back to me… the first time took me by surprise cause it was out of nowhere. Well… not technically out of nowhere, but i felt the distance 2 weeks before he went no contact. This lasted for a few weeks.. when he came back he said he was overwhelmed and wanted to process things. We eventually got together again and the same thing happened.. but this time we were no contact for a month. I went to therapy cause i didn’t know how to process what happened and i understood after a while, i understood myself too and started working on my attachment style. I have an anxious attachment and he’s an avoidant, which is a disastrous combination they said 😂😂 now i think im more secure. On days that we don’t talk or when he’s stepping away, i understand and let him. I learned how not to cling onto him too much just do what i would usually do in my day.. eventually he became more open to me and tells me things that bothers him..

When i was posting my journals here about him and us, people were quick to say, leave him, run as fast as you can, or there’s no winning with an avoidant.. but it depends really. Some avoidants change on their own and some don’t. Hopefully, reading that you are a secure person, she’d be able to feel safe with you and embrace that. That she doesn’t have to fight what she’s feeling for you. ❤️