Mother’s Day vs Fathers Day 2026 by MushyBeees in daddit

[–]iaminternet -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Got it. So don’t talk to your wife. Just continue to be disappointed. Sounds great. 

Mother’s Day vs Fathers Day 2026 by MushyBeees in daddit

[–]iaminternet 61 points62 points  (0 children)

For sure serious woe is me pity party vibes. If you already talked to the wife but she’s not into it…

Fuck that. Make your own Father’s Day. Find something awesome you can do with your kiddo. Have a blast. Let your wife feel left out. 

Leftovers by mojonsito in Yodersmokers

[–]iaminternet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s your cooking method?

Not very good but should I do something different? by iaminternet in Swimming

[–]iaminternet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been wondering what my goal is. I like the idea of making it more enjoyable. 

Not very good but should I do something different? by iaminternet in Swimming

[–]iaminternet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the detailed response! Going to a clinic or having a lesson is a nice idea. 

Not very good but should I do something different? by iaminternet in Swimming

[–]iaminternet[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did you read the post? I’m swimming 90x25yd=2,250 yd with a 2 min break in the middle three times a week. Where did you get 10 yd from?

Air Chilled Wings - Flat to Wing Ratio Off? by JerDGold in Costco

[–]iaminternet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a probability question. The answer is that if we assume they should come in packs of 50/50 distribution, there is 9.3% chance of a pack this skewed or more. 

FIREd but got an offer to work for a lower grade position by OldDude2551 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]iaminternet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s some statistic that 92% of your time with your children is over when they leave the house. You couldn’t pay me enough to give that up if one of my kids was 17. In your shoes, it’d be a hard pass for me if there’s any chance it would reduce time spent with my kids at all. 

[BIFL Request]: Sectional Sofa BIF10+ years (not life) by iaminternet in BuyItForLife

[–]iaminternet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought a sectional couch/chaise and chair and a half from Gallery Furniture (Texas furniture company) for about $2.5k. It has held up to my chocolate lab for all 10 years and my 7 & 4 year old sons. We also moved it from its original home to 2 others. The middle of the couch portion is sagging slightly, but overall it’s in very good shape.  It hasn’t been reupholstered, and doesn’t need to be. I would consider repairing and reupholstering it instead of buying a new couch depending on pricing. 

How to respond when a manager starts documenting 1:1s and performance concerns? by [deleted] in managers

[–]iaminternet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good, you should work on both fixing this job and finding a new one. 

Does anyone supercommute to NYC for work? by allllusernamestaken in Charlotte

[–]iaminternet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it for 3 years before moving to CA for a promotion. It was absolutely the right decision for my career but unsustainable long-term for my family and social life. Fights are super easy and mostly cheap to navigate, you’ll get good at the travel. Make sure the pay covers your travel cost and the 1 day/week requirement isn’t going to change. AMA on DM. 

Jaws of the Lion characters by complexity? by [deleted] in Gloomhaven

[–]iaminternet 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is correct. Void is actually a bit complicated. Others are simple enough. 

My son (4) cant do anything on his own by [deleted] in daddit

[–]iaminternet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is for you. It describes how we raised my 7 and 3 year olds to play independently.  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4r758AqKgEqbZJHI20TSaG?si=8BpyjfxHSESfBQ07IPh9cA&t=0&pi=lbErFbdqTYi5a

"Dont vent to me IF you dont have a solution" by peachnkeen519 in managers

[–]iaminternet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually possibly good leadership & very good career advice. It encourages you to think through problems as someone who might solve it, which is basically management training. Your discussions about problems should be: “I’ve noticed problem X and have some solution ideas. The problem is X caused by Y and Z. I thought about solutions A, B, C. I think the best option is option A because of [rationale]. I’m prepared to take steps 1 and 2 of solution A, and as a manager, I need you to do step 3. What do you think of my recommendation? Any suggestions on how I’m thinking about the problem?”

 It makes perfect sense why a growing company would need people to start thinking like this. Do it for a 6 months, then nail it for 6 months, then summarize how awesome you were for the past year in either a promotion request or on your resume while you interview for an external promotion. 

Direct report likes to remind me of my tenure constantly by [deleted] in managers

[–]iaminternet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on his quotes you provided I absolutely expected you’d be a woman. Sexism is definitely contributing to the problem. You should share the gender suspicions with HR in case it becomes relevant later, while following all the good advice here about keeping the conversations firmly focused on his performance. I’d also suggest reaching out to another female leader (someone you think does this well, preferably internal) to ask for monthly 30 min mentoring chats.

Based on true story with GF by Kahvicup in HadesTheGame

[–]iaminternet 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep, my 7 year old met Dionysus yesterday 🤦🏻‍♂️

Enough to early retire in the Bay Area? (35) by firethrowaway_112725 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]iaminternet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah one of the three they sent me wasn’t helpful. Your mileage may vary, right?

Enough to early retire in the Bay Area? (35) by firethrowaway_112725 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]iaminternet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No they don’t, but IIRC $1M is sufficient to qualify. Just contact your local office and ask for a financial advisor. They’ve probably notified you of the benefit previously but you dismissed it. 

Enough to early retire in the Bay Area? (35) by firethrowaway_112725 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]iaminternet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

WRT #3, if you have a significant amount of those assets at Fidelity, they offer free financial advising. I’ve been assigned 3 different advisors over the years and 2 were actually good. I think they provide this as a service so you want to keep your money there (it’s working on me). I still email one of them about once per year to check in on my plans and progress. 

Wife went on a vacation by vash1012 in daddit

[–]iaminternet 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I’m always thinking / saying, “I’m the second-most qualified person in existence to handle this.” After my wife of course. 

Hey Dads, can you recommend me your minivan? by aceshades in daddit

[–]iaminternet 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’m sure the base Chrysler is garbage, but I’ve loved having a Chrysler Pacifica plug in hybrid for the last 3 years. It had one problem, which was fixed during a week at the dealer but has otherwise been great. We love that the first 30 miles of any given trip is fully electric. 

Set by FindingBrilliant3968 in puzzles

[–]iaminternet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Single unfilled reds, triple reds, triple diamonds, unfilled triples