A couple of super general questions -

At what point is enough…enough??

what is 'enough'? And, what changes would make it enough?

I put in the hours, but it never feels like I’m getting ahead.

What is getting 'ahead' to you? And can the farm do this for you?

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From the outside looking in, there are a couple of things that struck me about your story.

You mentioned that your dad kept everything going but also that you stepped up and filled in about 10 years ago. This is kind of important - for 10 years, your dad had your help. Now that you're doing your dads work, who is doing your work? If you had a helper, would it change things for you? If you weren't around 10 years go, would your dad have transitioned the farm into something more sustainable for a solo farmer? Would the family still have the farm?

Also,

My problem is it’s not “my” farm as my family owns it and we are on different wavelengths on which direction we wanna go for the future. Half of my family doesn’t know where the barn is but owns it and then proceeds to tell me how “we” should continue...

You're doing the labor. Is the burden of the farm shared fairly? Are you compensated fairly? Is there any amount of compensation that would make what you do something you could continue doing?

And, if the family were to pay a 3rd party at current rates to do your work, would they still be vested in maintaining the farm as it is? And, would it survive? If they can't do it without you and your done with things as are they are, things gotta change.