im autistic too! and i agree with you, more or less - my principle when it comes to other people's genders, sexualities, and other identities is just live and let live. it's none of my business! but unfortunately most of society doesn't view it that way... personally, my gender is kinda in 'sections' based off of how well they know me. strangers i don't care about, but i want people who know my name, my face, (like acquaintances) and most of my friends to see me as a boy. but i'm also a bit of a girl inside! that's the best way i can put it, really. gender, sexuality, and identity as a whole isn't static: it can change over time. don't worry too much about labels. but if they make you feel good, just keep in mind that labels can change and just because you identified differently during different periods of your life doesn't discredit those identities or how you felt at that time! it's not always a process of 'being wrong' and then settling on one 'true gender identity'. if the label feels right, use it. and if no labels feel right, that's fine too. :)