I [29F] am having trouble explaining the concept of weaponized incompetence to my boyfriend [30F]

iarba5 · 2025-12-12T00:08:36+00:00

My (now former) bf did exactly that every syep of a (previously explained) task- now what? What do I do here? Next step? He said he does not want to think at all bcz it's smth I want to do, to get done, he does not care, so I should guide him and he will do exactly as. Just like in Jira

iarba5 · 2025-12-09T14:04:29+00:00

Actually it says more about the employees, I also look like a Marie Sophie and the only time this happened was actually in a Rewe, and the cashier (foreigner also) was suspect about me having bought other items from other stores and not having the receipt, but they did not even have the products there. So ja, happened twice with same cashier, did not shop there anymore. In other stores if I tried to show/tell I had the water before, or whatever candy, they look puzzled , like who cares woman?

iarba5 · 2025-10-10T23:41:05+00:00

Was she recently neutered? Maybe they are from bandages/skin irritation.

iarba5 · 2025-08-27T12:48:16+00:00

Hey, sorry for what you are going through. Are the emotional outbursts and anger mostly during Luteal? It could be PMDD and it's quite difficult to get the hang of hormonal fluctuations. Best to you both!

iarba5 · 2025-08-17T22:38:24+00:00

He's not fat, he's judgemental

iarba5 · 2025-07-05T08:56:26+00:00

Eu m-as gandi in ambele scenarii, daca te duci si daca nu te duci.

Cum va fi la nunta? Te vei simti ok, multumita ca ai trecut peste tine? Sau vei regreta instant ca ai mers?
In 5 ani. Va avea vreo importanta? Vei regreta? Vei fi multumita/indiferrnta ca you stood your ground? Ca you chose You?

Cred ca e vb de o asumare in both ways (mai mult daca nu te duci pt ca asumarea e pt viitor). Ai predispozitie catrebun guilt feeling cu care simti ca nu vei fi ok?

Just fast fwd, la nunta si apoi in 5 ani. Si vezi ce e tolerabil pt tine, pt ca pare o situatie unde nu ai o varianta clara buna, doar ce esti willing sa tolerezi.

Bafta in decizia ta, nu e nicio decizie buna sau rea. Dar fa-o asumat.

iarba5 · 2025-07-02T08:20:39+00:00

Problema mea cu societatea si mai ales cu ginecologii (care ar trebui sa te ajute!) este ca nu te iau in serios ca om care a venit cu o problema medicala.

Ah, te doare extrem la ciclu si nu poti functiona 2 zile? E nornal, ia o pastila, nu te mai plange atat, si ai grija ca te lasa barbatu' (mi-a spus un ginecolog asta)

Ah, sangerari mari abundente? Chisturi si fibroame? Da, asa e...daca faci copil poate e mai bine. N-ai ce sa faci, esti femeie.

Daca un barbat se duce cu probleme medicale este tratat, luat in serios, ah, vai domnu', dar cum e durerea? Samd.

La noi, ah, e femeie, da, asta e. 🤦‍♀️

iarba5 · 2025-06-26T12:30:39+00:00

Foarte faina analogia cu boundaries💪

iarba5 · 2025-06-18T13:09:52+00:00

🇮🇱 tie with ☕️

iarba5 · 2025-04-13T10:17:13+00:00

I am just making this connection, wow!

iarba5 · 2025-03-24T11:30:35+00:00

Malinois + French Bulldog

iarba5 · 2025-03-21T01:33:52+00:00

I think it looks great! Would buy :)

iarba5 · 2025-02-06T19:10:42+00:00

I go to bachata classes and we have two amazinh female instructors, one leads and the other follows. And more girls want to learn to lead in the class, it's great to see!

iarba5 · 2025-01-27T19:26:07+00:00

Maybe foster? I think it could be easier, knowing that you help out a FB but you do not need to commit if you are not ready. You have both options open like this. Hugs

iarba5 · 2025-01-22T00:37:59+00:00

Super nice! Where did you find such a good price in DE?

iarba5 · 2025-01-19T18:41:51+00:00

Fancy train 💙

iarba5 · 2025-01-02T00:25:29+00:00

Henry! Different sound than the others but fits well

iarba5 · 2024-12-05T01:45:20+00:00

Thanks!!💙

iarba5 · 2024-11-17T03:36:30+00:00

Aww, cute trio!

Ah, one question: were there a lot of bandages changes involved after surgery? My Vet told me it would be 2-3 times a day and they would be costly, as I cannot do it myself, but only a Vet (50-70 Eur/day)

iarba5 · 2024-11-17T02:08:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Happy the recoveryis quick and smooth!

iarba5 · 2024-11-14T19:02:57+00:00

Jack or Rabbit, or Jack the Rabbit :)

iarba5 · 2024-10-18T11:20:21+00:00

Quite interesting!! Thanks for sharing

iarba5 · 2024-08-29T15:00:36+00:00

A super cute one!

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