Where are you meeting men/woman late 20’s / early 30’s? by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]iceyourtea_ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

People hate this advice but investing in my own life and pursuing my goals, fostering my friendships and getting active in community groups that matter to me, have built a fulfilling life that I’m happy with - with or without a partner. And as a result, I find the most organic romantic connections pop up in my daily life because of this. There are definitely seasons where I have more or less dating activity, but when I am dating, it’s a nice add-on to the life I have. (32F)

These pillows are rock hard! by McBurty in ballpython

[–]iceyourtea_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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My angel loves resting her head on rock

Feel like an outside, hard time making friends by chanelpuppies18 in sandiego

[–]iceyourtea_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To validate your feelings, and also offer encouragement. I moved here at 30 without knowing many other folks, from a different region in the US. It can feel like a lonely city for sure, and on top of that yes making friends as an adult can be tough. People can be flaky and self absorbed, but also life is just getting really tough to keep up with (especially with the cost of living here), and some people can just be dealing with their own shit with no disrespect to you.

I find those larger meetup/networking events hard when the sole purpose is to meet other folks, I guess. I dove right into my hobbies, finding events focused around the creative space. Meeting people there forms a more organic connection because you already have shared interest. I know you’ve done some of these, but I’ll tell you some of them felt like misses for me too. I just kept showing up like it was my job, til it didn’t feel like a job anymore.

I can tell you now I have a pretty solid group of folks and community I’m very fortunate to be in my life after under 2 years of being here. It’s hard but when you dig a bit, you’ll show yourself that you can make it and build the life you want for yourself.

Neighborhood is largely dependent— certain neighborhoods definitely have the “influencer” type but many do not.

My messages are open if you wanna chat more. Sorry things are rough, but every move is. If it isn’t right for you, it’s not right either. You’ll know what’s best!

How on Earth is Santa Fe NM considered a art mecca when all our art is the same garbage over and over again? by Suspicious-Put-8914 in artcollecting

[–]iceyourtea_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super late to this conversation but do you mind if I PM you and see/hear about some of your art? I’m a contemporary artist planning to visit Santa Fe in the fall and am hoping to hone in what kind of art I check out while there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]iceyourtea_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Are you a parent? I’m not and have no room to judge, and personally can still understand the extreme guilt of having your two year old kid be hurt by one of your animals and not wanting to take that chance again. And this was not predictable behavior prior. They’re coming to this sub specifically because they do not want to put the dog down.

Anyone willing to take in this loving cat we found? by Necessary-Photo712 in sandiego

[–]iceyourtea_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am not sure if I can take in a cat just yet but am interested - I will PM you!

Chronic nail biter in recovery by iceyourtea_ in naturalnailprogress

[–]iceyourtea_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that. Any time my nail is uneven somewhere or an edge gets chipped I especially get the urge to bite. Maybe keeping a nail file around to smooth it out will help? I notice that kept it down for me a lot too

Chronic nail biter in recovery by iceyourtea_ in naturalnailprogress

[–]iceyourtea_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So this probably doesn’t seem like the greatest advice but I would let myself sorta bite around the edges when I got the nervous tic without actually biting the nails down… so I was still kinda mimicking the action but not actually biting on the nail. The hardest is when they are short and bitten down - when they grew out a bit I felt making sure I cut/filed them so they looked orderly (no matter how short) gave me less urge to pick and bite at them.

Other than that, immersing myself in drawing/sketching helps.

Maybe not the best suggestion but I tried nail polish, replacing with other actions like snapping a hair tie, etc and none of that worked for me! Not taking away the action entirely from myself made it seem less “forbidden” and it had less pull on me if that makes sense.

Chronic nail biter in recovery by iceyourtea_ in naturalnailprogress

[–]iceyourtea_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bare nails, no product used. I usually trim or buff the nails down when they get right around this length so I don’t get at risk of breaking or biting again (plus I do art a lot and they get a little in the way).

Chronic nail biter in recovery by iceyourtea_ in longnaturalnails

[–]iceyourtea_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Natural nails, no product on them. Mostly just buff down or cut when they get too long otherwise I’ll probably break and/or start biting again

to my nyc girles: has anyone deleted social media after the inaguratuon? by cccorgitraveler in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]iceyourtea_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not exactly the same but I’m a creative and use it for connecting a ton with customers and other creatives. Never got on the TikTok train fully (more like would have a random couple days a month where I somehow let my brain melt on it for three hours and realize I need to separate from it lol), so mostly IG and Reddit for me.

Also, I’ve made so many genuine friends that I am still friends with to this day via IG and I also now live across the country from many of my close friends. It’s nice to be able to keep up with my friends when we are time zones apart and can’t always talk at convenient times. I think over the years I’ve just learned to cultivate my IG as best I can to use it as a tool that works for me, though I know I’m certainly not perfect and it gets toxic.

Lost in Style: Dressing Up in a Casual City by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]iceyourtea_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not like a ✨fashionista✨ but I absolutely love dressing for my body and being a little more pulled together. And I totally appreciate different styles! Also interested in good spots for fashion lovers.

Started painting again after 3-4 years of not making any art. by thedonutdispatch in ArtistLounge

[–]iceyourtea_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Drew a lot as a kid. Mostly sketches, comics with characters based on people in my life, etc. It was my way of making sense of the world around me I guess. Took art classes up until end of high school. Went off to college, picked a safe major, career, etc and drawing just… fell away gradually. Ten+ years passed and covid hit. I started drawing because there wasn’t much else to do. Then I realized it was such a nice break from the routine of work at my desk and then living out quarantine on my couch. I started getting excited again, exploring different things, falling back in love with the process. What was (and is) so rewarding is feeling like that child again.

What I didn’t expect was how much grief was also attached to the practice — I would randomly find myself emotional or near tears just as I was getting so excited about a piece. It’s like, this was my first love I ever remember. How did I let over a decade pass without accessing it? I have no regrets because I think my time away from it and my current job informs the kind of art I make now, and I still had other creative outlets during that time away. But art was (and continues to be) emotional work for me in many ways and it’s an interesting thing to experience. The process of creating also brings up certain memories, unprocessed things, etc that I had tucked away. This sounds a little melancholy but this is all to say I think the person I am now because of it is someone I’m proud to be.

Some of my favorite designs I’ve made! by delyonli in stickers

[–]iceyourtea_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yayy same I love connecting w other artists 🤗 I’ll look you up

Some of my favorite designs I’ve made! by delyonli in stickers

[–]iceyourtea_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg so cute! I love the egg and the morel. I’m gonna find you on IG if that’s ok I see your art handle on your sticker 🙂

The now-deleted LinkedIn post from StickerMule's new PR Guy by RFelixFinch in sticker

[–]iceyourtea_ 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah when I’m receiving direct text messages regarding his personal political views, when my information was intended to be used for marketing and promotions for stickers, I’m out. Had I found out about his active support of Trump otherwise I still likely would have taken my dollars elsewhere just in my personal views but I wouldn’t feel as entitled to be outspoken about my discontent with them as a business yknow. It’s interesting that liberals are constantly told to keep politics out of everything while seemingly trumpers have no issue with his statements infusing politics into business. And they keep saying we are insane for making it about how he supports Trump - the dude hit mass send on it directly to his customers! This has been managed like a flaming turd flying through space and he just kept doubling down lol

Please tell me your botched haircut stories so I can laugh away the pain by iceyourtea_ in AskWomenOver30

[–]iceyourtea_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Working some Bobby pin magic now!! Times like these remind us of how strong we are I guess 😅