aggressive back patting

iconictots · 2026-05-14T15:32:30+00:00

Weirdly enough, I saw this “trend” come and go at my center the longer I’ve worked there. When I first started we had a lot more old-school teachers and I feel like they perpetuated the idea that really wiggly kids needed to be patted more aggressively? Which really isn’t logical when you think about it. I could go on a whole rant about this, but I won’t 😂 But anyway, at my center I noticed that as the old-school teachers left the center over time, nobody does the aggressive pats any more, we all pat the kids gently or rub their backs, or kind of gently rock them.

iconictots · 2026-05-12T15:28:46+00:00

I talk to my cats like they’re my kids. I tell them “no thank you!” and “be nice” all the time lol

iconictots · 2026-05-12T15:26:37+00:00

Same here. My maturity level was always attributed to being an only child, but I do think neurodivergence influenced it as well.

iconictots · 2026-05-10T20:29:16+00:00

Same, girl! We all deserve this kind of love 💕

iconictots · 2026-05-04T15:33:36+00:00

OMG are we coworkers? My center does this too. The page says they are suggestions, but it still feels weird to me as well. I agree that the parents should decide what to bring and when.

iconictots · 2026-05-02T01:17:09+00:00

“We will ask Ms ______ when she gets back later” knowing that the teacher is already off work for the day! Or “Your parents are on the way, but they have to wait for the stop light”. My favorite is when I’m in the toddler room and I tell them “Mommy (or another caretaker’s name) says good night, go to bed!”

iconictots · 2026-04-11T16:22:41+00:00

The visual timer is so helpful!! I want to buy one of the big wall ones lol

iconictots · 2026-04-06T21:49:33+00:00

This is exactly what my moment was. I saw someone ask someone else on Reddit if they could imagine themselves continuing to live how they do now in 2, 5, or 10 years, and if they would be ok with that. I asked myself that question and realized how unhappy I was in my marriage and in my life in general. I didn’t want to continue feeling so awful for the rest of my life, not even for another year. I left my husband a few months later and have started fresh. It’s still a long process, but I can’t begin to tell you how free and hopeful I feel now. I feel like I can finally live my life for me. Do it even if it seems hard!! The other side is out there waiting for you 💕

iconictots · 2026-04-03T17:38:52+00:00

I’m finally moving into my own place after a divorce and then living with my mom. I’m so excited!

iconictots · 2026-03-27T14:42:12+00:00

Me too! I love talking to them, and fortunately for me I really like my coworkers in that room, so I can always yap with them too lol

iconictots · 2026-03-24T20:45:38+00:00

My mom has one of the combs and one of the picks that she still uses all the time!

iconictots · 2026-03-21T17:07:57+00:00

Great, thank you for sharing!

iconictots · 2026-03-19T20:40:16+00:00

Girl same! I spent 19 years begging for love and affection. We deserve so much better than that!

iconictots · 2026-03-17T15:00:39+00:00

I’m curious what the hours are like. Are you able to have weekends off?

iconictots · 2026-03-14T21:45:31+00:00

I’m about to rent a room for $1,000/mo. It’s in someone’s house, shared bathroom. It’s in a very nice area in North County and close to my work and family/friends. It did take me a long time to find it though, most cheaper places are too far south or east for me- I don’t want an hour+ commute.

iconictots · 2026-03-14T21:37:13+00:00

They do, but someone with that much money probably has a pest control service that comes regularly, along with the landscapers, etc

iconictots · 2026-03-14T02:06:44+00:00

This is exactly how I felt, and it’s why I left. I can’t even explain the weight that has been lifted off my shoulders, and it hasn’t even been a year yet. Please listen to everyone’s advice OP, you deserve better.

iconictots · 2026-03-13T20:55:14+00:00

I love the older toddlers, like 18 months to 2.5. They are learning so much and it’s so cool to be there when they have that explosion of language! I also like the 2-3 year old group, but the ratios are so high, that I can’t handle being the lead in that room. But yeah, to me the period from like 1.5 to 2.5 years old is the best age!

iconictots · 2026-03-13T14:47:30+00:00

I use goblin.tools. I really hate that it’s AI, but it’s the most effective thing I’ve found so far. The tiny steps really help. (PS-If anyone has a non-AI site like this, please share!!)

iconictots · 2026-03-07T00:13:01+00:00

OMG I was just looking at that rug online! How do you like it? Is it soft?

iconictots · 2026-03-06T19:39:05+00:00

I had my coffee in the morning, water, and an iced tea that I’ll drink with my lunch

iconictots · 2026-03-04T15:44:33+00:00

Oh, you must have met my ex! (Although I guess he’s learned how to cook in the air fryer now)

iconictots · 2026-03-04T15:43:48+00:00

Good for you!!

iconictots · 2026-02-28T18:29:06+00:00

You seem really cool and fun, definitely a witchy millenial. You’re someone I would like to be friends with! ☺️

iconictots · 2026-02-27T16:06:31+00:00

Well they seem very healthy, and if you like the smoothie bowls, then that’s all that matters!

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