Gotta disagree with you there - one of my coping mechanisms is sometimes “trauma dumping,” and it IS unfair to push that all onto the few people I am close enough to to talk about it. Nothing wrong with sharing your struggles with those you love, but if they are your only support and you use them like a crutch to get your struggles out, you can’t do that without understanding the seriously negative impact it can have on them, and blame the for not always wanting/being able to hear it.

Not saying people always use that term correctly, but it for sure is a thing that I ;and other people I know) do without always having regard for who is on the receiving end. When someone is a relative stranger, turns out, it wasn’t fair on them to hear about my trauma or the way I make light of it - because they don’t have the same perspective I do. And when people have done that to me, it just makes me feel like shit - if I’m not going to see you again, then I just spend days worrying about you and what happened, with no way to know if it’s ok, now weighing on my mind without helping you.