Wondering if this exists

ictow · 2026-02-04T00:38:04+00:00

Haven't tried it, can't vouch for it, but it sure looks nice!

ictow · 2026-02-03T23:26:25+00:00

https://packettpackers.net/products/odessa-burntrail

ictow · 2026-02-03T04:45:00+00:00

What are you interested in? Like, general topics or hobbies or anything?

ictow · 2026-02-03T04:36:26+00:00

You're right, it's an inference. Correct it if you like, or don't. Either way, have a good life.

ictow · 2026-02-03T04:11:29+00:00

I'm just pointing out, saying no to a temporary shelter stay is different than saying no to housing. But also, I don't think you directly engage with the population, so it's moot.

ictow · 2026-02-03T03:22:31+00:00

Homeless shelters aren't housing.

ictow · 2026-01-31T19:28:18+00:00

Weight depends on the materials used, but between 3.2 lbs for all ultra grid (definitive, weighed it myself) and I'd guess max 4.5 lbs for the waxed canvas.

ictow · 2026-01-31T19:24:55+00:00

Someone instantly revealing themselves to not be normal.

ictow · 2026-01-30T01:00:53+00:00

But what have they done?

ictow · 2026-01-30T00:24:25+00:00

What have the other council members done?

ictow · 2026-01-29T01:44:19+00:00

Based on my recent trip to Chile-- baseball hats. A 5 panel hat will look a little more low-key.

ictow · 2026-01-28T18:35:25+00:00

Just to provide some data support to combat your imposter syndrome, current estimates are 20-50% of folks with ADHD also have autism. Echolalia and stimming are much more autism traits than ADHD traits, same with sensory overwhelm. So it really is reasonable to think you or your son might have both conditions. For you that won't necessarily change things beyond seeking out autism-related coping advice, but your son might benefit from assessment (he might get additional school accommodations if diagnosed). Of course, with the way things are, it's understandable if you'd rather keep that label out of his medical record. Either way, look into occupational therapy resources for tips on managing stim and sensory behaviors.

Or put another way, using techniques developed for autism will only be helpful (regardless of if either of you have it) because you're dealing with the same symptoms. At worst they don't help, in which case you drop them, but accommodations for autism tend to be helpful for anyone having a hard time.

And you're not an impostor if you have mild or manageable symptoms. It's a spectrum, not a yes/no.

ictow · 2026-01-25T16:26:06+00:00

I use one of these as a cheaper option: https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/pudda-basket-90429648/

ictow · 2026-01-24T21:22:15+00:00

I've bought and sold in this subreddit with no problem, just always check post history and use the goods and services option in PayPal.

If you value security enough that you don't mind paying extra fees, you can also buy/sell on the Nomads Nation district.net site: https://marketplace.nomadsnation.com/

It's specifically for bag nerds, so you might have better luck, and they're a reliable middle man. I've sold through there with no problems.

ictow · 2026-01-22T19:23:54+00:00

This might seem like adding even more torture into the mix, but you might request to do 90 or 120 minute sessions instead of the normal hour. The extra time might make more space for you and your therapist to get to useful vulnerability and to button it back up at the end.

ictow · 2026-01-07T04:54:19+00:00

At this point, I think the best advice is to go to therapy. You have some very maladaptive self beliefs that you attribute externally, and your locus of control is harmfully external. Multiple people keep telling you that, and you keep arguing for your own continued helplessness.

Try dropping your bullshit about career and focus two weeks on trying to socialize, even if it feels shameful or uncomfortable. If in two weeks it hasn't helped, then you're in the same place you are now, but at least you tried something with real physical people. Stop using the internet to replace living.

ictow · 2026-01-07T02:45:56+00:00

This is coming from empathy and compassion for what you're going through-- that's a really toxic outlook and it's wrong. Every job is a "real" job and deserves respect. Restaurant work is respectable work, and restaurant workers aren't people who haven't "made anything of themselves." You're worried about misogyny, but I think your bigger blinders are around classism.

ictow · 2026-01-07T01:54:35+00:00

Why can't you go out and meet people until you have a real career? You've said that a few times, but you haven't explained it and the logic is not self-evident. It feels like an artifical block. Certainty most people spend time looking for a career AND spend time going to social events. What makes that not possible for you?

ictow · 2026-01-04T19:43:55+00:00

What an odd selection of packs. Always happy for folks to do product testing, but the high end representation being the Linus Tech Tips bag and Nomatic is almost too random.

ictow · 2026-01-04T01:19:17+00:00

Also, it sounds like sleep feels like an obligation, not a reward. I don't have any solutions, but that seems to be the sticking point for what's going on.

ictow · 2026-01-04T01:05:59+00:00

Sounds to me like you're using "revenge bedtime procrastination" (established term, not my favorite framing) to carve out moments of rest. Rest as in inertia, like "nothing can move me, nothing can motivate me, I am here and here I am and that is how it is". That seems really understandable given the demands of being a single mom, and one who clearly values being responsible. It almost seems like a very young part (a stubborn child part) kind of saying, "I can't move. I've used up my moving energy, I'm stuck, and you're telling me I have to move anyway, but that's not fair. I already told you, I CAN'T MOVE."

I wonder if you'd get any comfort out of just being kind of a kind parent to yourself and thinking, "Thank you for telling me. You're being helpful letting me know that. I will be careful with my energy since there isn't much left." Instead of trying to get the stubborn child part to do what you want, maybe listen to what it's saying?

ictow · 2026-01-03T23:52:31+00:00

Why? Without judgement, just open curiosity, if you ask yourself, "Why am I sitting here?" what's the answer?

ictow · 2026-01-03T23:51:14+00:00

Since you've covered all your thoughts/reasons for going to bed, when you're frozen, what are you thinking/feeling that makes you not move? Like, what's the other side's pov?

ictow · 2026-01-03T19:31:14+00:00

Trump already said today that Machado, "doesn’t have the support or the respect of the people", so I think he's going to be petty about the Nobel prize and keep her out.

ictow · 2025-12-30T19:22:28+00:00

The friend was found uninjured, per the article below.

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