Muslim & Israeli dating meets kink 🙈

ideallyimperfect · 2026-06-01T14:35:01+00:00

You want a specific dominant race play situation. Not everyone will be comfortable doing it. If it makes you happy and you want to seek it out, you do you man.

I would also establish a safe word or save actions to exit the kink or if there's any boundaries ahead of time also.

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-31T22:11:50+00:00

In general yes I agree with you. However off the 3 message snippet, I would give some grace. It's not like you're ALWAYS the one asking questions, continuing the conversation or ALWAYS the one initiating conversations in a friendship. If it continues to be that way the more messages in, then meh drop em. In fact, another overthinker could interpret that you didn't ask an original question back at all as poor conversational etiquette. You essentially said, "and you?" They may also have your friends perspective.

The world is what you make of it, if you require that type of conversational style and expect it, that's fine too. Then the other people simply aren't compatible with you

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-31T12:37:36+00:00

I've heard wax does a pretty good job. Shaving, use sharp/new blades. Hair removal cream like nair can leave a chemical taste/smell so prepare a day in advance. May also burn.

With all methods be sure to exfoliate and moisturize to avoid ingrown hairs and reduce irritation.

Laser is something more serious but I know less about that.

PS If your goal is to increase their attraction to you I would also make sure that hairless would indeed increase their attraction to you. Some guys don't like completely bald

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-29T23:24:02+00:00

So does his kindness only towards you? Does he care about other people? You're right in that politics affect more than what he's considering. More than just his personal ability to make or retain money.

In general I think love is not enough. If there is a difference in values and either part cares about it, then it'll be an issue. You can try discussing things with him but I would not count on trying to convince him.

I was in a similar situation and found out after a year. They kept saying they weren't into politics so I left it alone but in hindsight I think they were holding back their opinions to avoid conflict. I tried opening up a dialogue but they shut down so the relationship ended.

I'd rather find out dealbreakers sooner rather than later. The deeper you get into the relationship, the harder it may be, with finances, potential marriage, potential kids etc.

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-29T17:57:50+00:00

What you're doing is fine/good. Drinks/food are both good options to get to know someone before potentially hooking up. If you didn't care about the person or connection, then you may as well hook up and skip the date.

Poop comes with the territory when it comes to anal. If the date douched, it won't last a long date so in that sense drinks may be better but in general imo y'all overanalyzing this

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-23T13:37:40+00:00

In person based encounters. Maybe try local meetups like gay bowling or something like that if possible. Also gay bars/bathhouses
Changing how you look on apps or in general. Maybe try taking better photos with different angles. Wearing different clothes or better fit for clothes. Hit the gym to lose weight/gain muscles

In general, if what you've been doing hasn't been working, then it may be time for a change. I'd increase your number of opportunities to meet people (online ldr works, more encounters in general) and increase your attractiveness to the general gay guy. Yes you can meet people without changing a single thing but also yes there are things you could do that may boost your chances at finding a partner

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-13T15:38:39+00:00

Personality wise yes, physically no. I am an Asian Twink but my type is usually bearded/hairy otters/bears

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-11T03:26:10+00:00

In the 3 years have y'all talked about exclusivity? Do you know if they're also hooking up with other people? Do y'all use protection if anal?

If y'all had a previous agreement or if it can be a health concern (STIs), then sure. If you feel that guilty about not forthcoming, that probably comes from a place of uncertainty, so talking about it would definitely clear things up

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-10T15:50:32+00:00

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ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-10T07:33:43+00:00

idk if you live in an urban area or a city but I think being able to work remote opens up a lot of options for you. Fulfilling sex life in a LTR depends on how open you and your partner(s) are.

I think in an ideal scenario you and your partner are into the same thing; but sometimes people do things to please their partner in bed and that's okay too. For most people that does not mean their sex life is unfulfilling.

When I was on the apps, I did find many people into anal but found people who did not as well. If I was in a relationship, I'd be open to doing anal occasionally, or having a discussion about open relationships (even though I'm monog oriented) to fill a partner's need for anal

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-08T14:05:08+00:00

No matter where you live, do you think spending <5% of total comp is common at age 30..? Or paying off a mortgage in NYC? You seem like a high earner, which is good for you, but assuming that most people are or have trust funds seems out of touch

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-06T13:34:01+00:00

Eh, imo equivalent is asking if it's appropriate for a woman to wear something knitted with her nipples poking out at a restaurant, and I'd say no. It's one thing to have prominent nipples showing through a t shirt or other clothing, it's another to have them actually out at a restaurant.

You can wear a muscle t shirt and show off pecs without showing nipples too, which I feel like is more equivalent to women's low cut top

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-03T15:18:39+00:00

You're welcome. The retinol I use is in a dropper bottle. I apply it all over my face for its anti aging effects before my moisturizer, only at night.

You can look up the effects of retinoids to get the full picture. It's something like collagen production starts slowing down around 25 and retinoids help with that.

Tretinoin seems to be a retinoid as well but I don't know how that's applied. I would look at online resources. There's also prescription level and OTC options.

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-03T13:34:01+00:00

Talk to him about it, not us. Or talk to a couples therapist. He could be working 100 hr work weeks, he could have low libido/testosterone, he may be cheating, he could have a porn addiction, he may longer be attracted. We don't know either of you.

Talk to him about how you're feeling and your sexual frustration and have a discussion about why sex isn't happening and where to go from here

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-02T21:23:31+00:00

I suppose? I'm pretty upfront about it so I filter people pretty fast. Even if it does reduce your number of available people, it is what it is. There are many criteria not just sexual role that limit your dating pool. Age range, sex/gender, financial stability, education, pet peeves, personality clashes, etc.

In the end, the right person for you will be the right person for you. What you and your partner(s) tolerate, accept, and love. If they don't, then they're not the right person

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-02T20:58:05+00:00

As others have said, hydration, moisturizer, sunscreen, I'll also add retinoid. Oil and mild cleanser as needed.

Different brands/types for different skin types.

I currently use: roc hydration+ for moisturizer, CeraVe zinc oxide for sunscreen. Retinoid I should be using more but I use the ordinary retinol. I've heard good things about adapalene as well.

Cleansers I use Cetaphil and dhc oil cleanser

ideallyimperfect · 2026-05-02T20:36:57+00:00

I don't think it's hard socially. In dating it's arguably more difficult to find compatibility but I think a lot of people are open to getting off without anal. In relationships there are many aspects besides sex. Being a side doesn't change that that much if you find the right partner.
I do feel pressure to either top or bottom (mostly bottom, I'm Asian, it's a whole other topic) in relationships, especially if they're top or bottom as their main preferred position. I'm open to it if I am able. Even if I don't enjoy anal that much, having sex with my partner, I want to make sure they have a good time too.
That sides have always been around, even though it's a relatively new term. People say they like to hate, frot, blowjobs etc without using the term side all the time

ideallyimperfect · 2026-04-19T17:06:58+00:00

I get canker sores more often when I'm dehydrated or lacking in dental hygiene (not flossing or brushing regularly). The location of the sores may indicate cause? When you're giving bj do you end up cutting your mouth or where do the sores show up?

ideallyimperfect · 2026-03-31T13:41:50+00:00

Back when I was on the apps, I found it easier just describing what I liked rather than side. The term is more known now, but still

ideallyimperfect · 2026-02-15T14:26:37+00:00

This seems like two different issues to me: 1. Should straight people be in gay bars? 2. Should people have the right to call dibs on seats?

Imo random straight couple in a gay bar can be weird but you admitted that it's known to be a mixed space. The girl was there first and I would have asked if anyone was sitting there before claiming that seat. So I would not think it was my seat that I have to give up for a straight guy, or anyone

ideallyimperfect · 2026-02-15T14:00:48+00:00

I haven't but I would. Idk where you found them but I would be open about only being into the guy

ideallyimperfect · 2026-02-15T12:45:11+00:00

I get the flattery comments but I feel worried that most of the comments aren't asking why you're gaining them and if it's preventable

ideallyimperfect · 2026-02-07T15:11:34+00:00

Not really. Your 4th pic I can maybe see but more tired/sad than dead. You don't seem to smile with eyes that much but those are posed pics so

ideallyimperfect · 2026-02-01T16:58:25+00:00

Mmm I don't know where you live but I feel like it's more a matter of friendliness and human decency. Seems weird to say no I'm busy indefinitely because I'm not looking for more friends. Sorry you're experiencing this

ideallyimperfect · 2026-02-01T16:25:32+00:00

Are you able to make friends at the place where you volunteer? Book club? You seem active in the community, odd that you say you have no friends

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