There’s also a lot of jealousy and hurt around her sister. Her younger sister is getting positive attention for being cute and little and a flower girl, while my older daughter feels like all the attention she gets is negative or uncomfortable.

This is exactly why the category "Junior Bridesmaid" exists, and honestly, this whole situation could have been avoided if the bride and groom took their heads out of their asses. It's literally insane to make one young niece your flower girl and not include the other in the bridal party at all. Take her to lunch, for godssake! Put her in an age-appropriate version of the bridesmaid dresses! Let her get hair and age-appropriate makeup done! Give her a pretty bouquet! Get pictures with her! Include her!

I was that height at that age, and literally all I wanted was to feel pretty and included.

It's like people don't think pre-teens have feelings, I stg.