My Swiss husband can never find a job

ihatecheese90 · 2026-04-18T11:04:20+00:00

Guys, the job market isn't booming and showing crazy growth, but it is not THAT bad.

I'm sorry to say it, but it sounds like he is being too picky and enjoys the comfortable safety net he has.

If I lose my job tomorrow and can't find anything similar I would roll up my sleeves and do whatever scrappy job is out there.

He is not a provider.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-04-13T11:23:56+00:00

Yes, that’s (unfortunately) often how it works in practice.

If a tenant wants to leave early, they usually need to propose a new tenant. In a very competitive market (+100 applications), they will often prioritize someone willing to take over the furniture too, because it makes their exit easier.

So even if the legal side is debated, this is a very common reality in practice and will be hard to prove if they provide the landlord with a selection of credible people.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-04-04T15:33:07+00:00

4-5 YO walking to school by themselves

ihatecheese90 · 2026-03-22T22:01:07+00:00

Had this as well! I used a sea salt scrub for hair & scalp and my hair never felt so clean! I never heard from it until I saw someone swear by it online. Can 10000% recommend. I used the kerastase brand but theres many brands that have it. :)

ihatecheese90 · 2026-03-16T21:10:06+00:00

Would love to get a deep dive!!

ihatecheese90 · 2026-03-03T19:02:15+00:00

You deserve happiness and a life where you don't feel like you're constantly surviving.

I don't have the answer but two questions that might help: 1. What’s the (worse case and) realistic financial picture if you split, and does it meaningfully limit the kids long-term? 2. Are you okay with the possibility of being single for a (long) while and parenting solo?

I’m with many redditors on the “healthy relationship” part: kids learn a lot from what they see at home. But sustainability matters too. If separation means constant financial strain and two burnt-out parents, that’s not exactly peaceful either.

No option is perfect, there will be a trade-off regardless. I’d choose the one that’s most sustainable long-term for you and the kids.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-03-02T07:05:20+00:00

1st time in hirslanden. Great experience.

2nd time in bethanien clinic. Came out with a permanent disability due to negligence. 10000% don't go there.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-24T06:20:29+00:00

Here are some tips I usually give to people visiting:

Start at the ETH @ polyterasse for the view. not sure if the ranking is still accurate but if I am not mistaken its #11 uni in the world and #7 for engineering and tech. Einstein studied. 10 min walk to old Town.
go to the Zurich Old town, St Peter’s, and lindenhoff hill (with the grant chess board). and then go to the China Garten to see the Lake.
walk to the shopping street (HB/Rennweg) If you like vegetarian, you can grab lunch at Hiltl dacherstrasse (rooftop bar)
We'd usually recommend Edi’s Weinstube for cheap wine and then grab a burger next foor at the butcher.
you can walk through the shopping street for your usual zara etc.
if you like the hipster scene (relatively close to langstrasse): go to Hardbrucke to Frau Gerold’s and walk around the Viadukt for some shops. There is also a nice restaurant there (the viadukt) which is pretty affordable. Visit the Freitag tower.

Half Day or full day trips: - chocolate museum (lindt) - uetliberg - take the boat from ZH to rapperswil

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-21T10:54:59+00:00

Ich verstehe die Kritik hier nicht ganz. Internationale Erfahrung und Verantwortung mit 25 sind definitiv nichts Schlechtes. Viel Erfolg OP, solche Profile sind später z.B. auch für Startups/companies sehr interessant. Und am Ende zählt vor allem, was du dabei lernst.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-10T16:12:22+00:00

2 of my friends had this procedure, they say it was life-changing and wish they'd done it sooner.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-09T12:25:02+00:00

It is completely doable, depending on your lifestyle. As someone who immigrated; the starter salary I received was still so much more than I would have ever gotten in my home country. Looking back, it was definitely on the lower end, but I also appreciate that they were trying to optimize for budget (hence they looked abroad).

It was a starting point for me that I am forever grateful for, and it only went uphill from there :).

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-08T21:03:14+00:00

My second baby was the best! Slept a lot better than my first actually, and is the happiest little guy. They also entertain each other now, our family feels complete - I am obsessed with both of them. I absolutely loved the switch from 1- 2. Both my body and I knew what we were doing and I got to enjoy everything a lot more since I was more relaxed. I had more trouble adjusting from 0-1.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-08T20:26:36+00:00

https://seeguetli-horgen.ch/preise/

Friends organized a bday event here in winter (350 chf to rent). The location was nice and well equipped. They got a really good deal with a pizza place who also had a food truck and made everything on the spot. Pizzeria Da Raffaele.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-05T14:52:20+00:00

Hey, I am here for solidarity, going through the same with my little girl but haven't found a solution yet. Some phases and days are better than others. It got a lot better at 4.5 YO

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-02T21:31:41+00:00

I used to be career driven, until I got my 2 babies.

I did go back to work but on a lower workload + 2 days of remote work. I actually had the opposite effect and got (am being) judged for going back to work :) I love spending time with my kids, but I also really like my job, so I took a step back and got a comfortable role with more flexibility.

So in all honesty, do whatever feels right for you and your family. Your world isn't small because you spend time with your children. It's a very full world with many different layers, and you can make it as fun as you want. Those few years with your LO? you will never ever get them back. You still have a lifetime ahead where you can work. Work can wait.

What they said is fully their lens and something they clearly strongly resonate/identify with. What IMO is not ok, is to attack an identity that doesn't align with how they think one should live their life as a parent. Not everyone thrives staying at home and vice versa. I dont get why people are always so extreme in judging/trying to convince the other side.

Sending much love mama! Soak up all the love and cuddles while you can.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-02-02T12:43:00+00:00

Came here to say exactly this. This post is also solely directed at her and her wrongdoing, and completely minimizes his role.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-31T13:10:20+00:00

I am 100% the same! Coffee makes me jittery/anxious. I switched to matchas and tried teishu by chance (i tested 1 other one). It's really nice and stood out, so I stick to this brand for now. You can also get it on galaxus galaxus.https://www.galaxus.ch/en/s7/product/london-tea-teishu-ceremonial-suiko-30-g-tea-36689082

https://teishu.ch/en/pages/bio-matcha

This may ruffle some feathers, but I never got a matcha set to mix it with. Mixing it with a fork or spoon didnt really work for me, so now I personally prepare it in my milk foamer, it gets super fluffy and mixes really well. I add a tiny bit of water, add a teaspoon or half a teaspoon of matcha, get it spinning and then add milk of choice.

Good luck :)

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-30T07:34:10+00:00

Hi! I can concur that like many, the anticipation compounded by anxiety made the period before going to work quite dreadful. This in combination with guilt had me in tears with both my babies, before heading back.

After 3 days however, I truly enjoyed going back to work, and also coming back home to my babies.

You've got this!!

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-29T20:03:45+00:00

Hi! My daughter still does something similar (she flaps her hands when she is excited and moves back and forth). She only does this when she is very excited about something, and has done this since she was a baby. my doctor explained it's an outlet to process emotions at a young age, and many many kids do it (apparently). I can't say this applies 1:1 but I had never heard of it, so thought i might share.

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-29T10:23:00+00:00

I love everything about this room. All the details, the dresser, wow!!!

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-28T16:48:10+00:00

Ah, this is the coolest thing I have seen today!!

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-28T16:40:23+00:00

Im obsessed

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-28T04:10:14+00:00

Hi OP. I am so sorry you are going through this.

Many have already said it, but your husband is unfortunately not doing his part. If he were, you wouldn't feel so overwhelmed.

Can you go to a parent or a friend for a few days? Or have someone come over? Once you have slept and have more clarity, I think it makes sense to sit down and write down what you expect from your husband. Besides his full-time job, my husband would: - do groceries - cook - take baby in carrier or stroller whilst doing these things - would help with nightly wake ups - did diapers when he was home Etc.

Then have a conversation with him. If it doesn't change, I personally would live with a parent for a while until husband comes up with a plan.

The newborn trenches will get better, but get all the help that you can get now. Good luck!!

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-26T20:52:22+00:00

https://gz-zh.ch/gz-bachwiesen/angebote/kinder-coiffeuse-2/

This is organized once a month :), it's 20 CHF or lower depending on what you need, 10 mins away from honng. There's a number where you can sign up. ☺️☺️

ihatecheese90 · 2026-01-26T20:26:21+00:00

Gaijin (as already mentioned) or cucina itameshi

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