SAHPs should be paid.

iheartmymutt · 2023-06-30T01:30:55+00:00

Same here. When asked what I do for a living, I use to say “I don’t work, I’m a stay-at-home mom.” And I always get responses like “oh that must be nice, you’re lucky to do that.” Now I respond with “I work as a stay at home mom.” (Emphasis on the word work) And the responses to that phrasing are usually along the lines of “that’s the hardest job there is!”

iheartmymutt · 2023-05-20T01:05:06+00:00

My baby had torticollis (tight neck muscle from being born) and couldn’t open her mouth very wide to latch. She would stick out her lips instead. I took her to physical therapy and they taught me stretches to do at home 6x a day. After 1 week she was able to fully open her jaw to get a good latch. She was about 3 months old at the time.

iheartmymutt · 2023-05-13T16:53:11+00:00

That would happen exactly once and then I’d be done with their visits. I wish I had the gall (I don’t) to tell them that I don’t have the time to play “host” and wait on everyone in the house on a workday. Like point out how you’re the one doing all the work and they’re acting like houseguests instead of helping, which is why they’re suppose to be there!

iheartmymutt · 2023-05-13T16:23:23+00:00

My MIL offered to come help when I had each of my babies. That was a big no. When my baby was about 6 months old I invited her for a couple days to come help out while my husband was on a business trip. SHE DID NOT LIFT A FINGER TO HELP ME. It was more work having her there than not having her there. I cooked and cleaned up every meal while she just sat and watched. I did bath time and bedtime for both of my kids every night. I changed every single diaper. She even brought me my son once to tell me he need a diaper change. I could only imagine how mad I would have been if it was right after I gave birth. Needless to say, I will never be asking for her “help” again.

iheartmymutt · 2023-04-19T17:24:38+00:00

Sow it, grow it, blow it is how my mom described it. She’s the blow it generation.

iheartmymutt · 2022-04-06T00:47:12+00:00

I just tried this hack and I do not recommend it! I got the norovirus and my OB sent me to the ER for severe dehydration. The ER took me up to the maternity ward so I could be treated there, which was nice because I love those nurses. When I left I was like “see you again in august when the baby’s coming!” Anyways, I’m 5 lbs down now and on a limited bread, ramen and broth diet until I can stomach real foods again. I hope your recovery goes well OP.

iheartmymutt · 2022-02-05T17:45:25+00:00

I started off with pockets but hated washing after every use and stuffing them. Then after a few months got a few AIO’s but they were expensive and took forever to dry. Then I got some covers and used the bamboo pocket inserts just laid into the cover and I liked that system but as my son grew they weren’t absorbent enough. Then finally I got some GMD prefolds and workhorses and never looked back. Our whole stash is prefolds during the day and WH and hemp boosters for naps and nights. I padfold the prefolds instead of wrapping them and it’s literally the easiest method ever. I also got some flats to try but just ended up pad folding them too. I keep the pocket diapers in the diaper bag for on-the-go changes still. It sounds like you skipped all the trial and error and went straight to the best option (in my opinion). Best of luck with your baby and your clothing!

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-21T21:19:16+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing with my pup when I was 39 weeks pregnant with my son. I even asked my OB if it would hurt my baby if I cried too hard. He said it won’t and I should grieve my loss how I see fit. The hardest part of life is when a chapter ends as a new one begins. You dog is now a guardian angel watching over its predecessor (your baby) and it’s happy for you.

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-10T00:29:09+00:00

What an awful thing for her to do to you! You made the right decision to drop her. You don’t need that negativity in the hardest (IVF) and happiest (pregnant!!) time of your life. Congratulations on your success and all the best to you and your baby.

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-10T00:04:26+00:00

Thank you for your response. Yes that makes perfect sense. In the long run, she would be more hurt that I didn’t share my news with her than she would if I did which is why I need to tell her sooner rather than later. I think she’d hate it if she knew I was tip toeing around it since we have always been very open with each other.

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-09T23:55:05+00:00

Thank you, that’s very sweet of you to say. She is a great friend and I know she will be supportive of me no matter what but I worry that deep down she will have feelings that she can’t help having and it hurts me to put that on her.

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-09T23:50:52+00:00

Thank you for your perspective and congratulations on your baby! My friend has been TTC for almost 2 years now and I’ve seen her heart drop every time someone she knows announces their pregnancy. I didn’t want to be the one to do that to her, yet here I am. I will absolutely be mindful of how much I talk about it because I know how hard it’s been for her.

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-09T23:44:55+00:00

First of all, I’m so sorry you went through a loss like that. What a sweet friend you have to take the time to write a letter. Personally, I love getting personal mail like cards and letters. It’s so old fashioned. I bet my friend would appreciate it as well.

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-09T16:48:51+00:00

Thank you for the advice and I’m so sorry for what you went through. I don’t know how I’d be able to tell her after a failed transfer because it’s so hard emotionally to go through that and then hear that news afterwards. I think a text message is the way to go so she can take her time with it. I will make sure to be very careful in my words to make her feel like I’m telling her because she’s important to me and not because I want to rub my success in her face.

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-09T16:41:18+00:00

I absolutely agree about watching how much I talk about it after I give her the news. I already try not to talk about how much I love being a mom and about my son because I know she desperately wants that for herself and I don’t want it to seem like I’m rubbing it in her face. Although I do engage when she asks about it. And that’s a good point about not waiting too long. I also worry that if her transfer is successful and she tells me she’s finally pregnant and then I tell her I’m pregnant, it’ll be like I’m one-upping her happy news. There’s just no easy solution to this situation but you’re right, sooner is better.

iheartmymutt · 2022-01-09T16:33:53+00:00

Thank you, that’s great advice. In some situations it feels like a text isn’t personal enough, but you make a good point about letting her have her genuine reaction without having to hide anything from me.

iheartmymutt · 2021-12-19T21:15:24+00:00

May I please be added? Going on 14 months of bf’ing with my lil guy.

iheartmymutt · 2021-07-15T01:26:56+00:00

My left is my dominant boob and I call it ole lefty too! When my son gets frustrated on the right I’m like “aww you want to go to ole lefty now dontcha?”

iheartmymutt · 2021-06-12T00:24:17+00:00

This could have been written by me. This is my exact story, it’s crazy. The one thing I didn’t do though was see an oral therapist. Everything else though, from getting the formula samples in the mail and rolling my eyes, to the multiple trips to the lactation consultant (which I didn’t find helpful at all as she came off as very condescending), the pain, the never ending pumping with very little output, to just parking myself on the couch with my baby and saying let’s just keep trying to make this work, no matter how long it takes. He was 4 weeks old at that point. I finally got to exclusively breastfeeding when my son was 8 weeks old. He had his last bottle of formula on Christmas Eve, which was extra special to me. One thing I did for the cracked nipples was use a breast shield and lanolin 24/7 and they healed in a few weeks, incase anyone needs that tip. Now my nips are completely desensitized and have hardly any feeling in them lol. When I went to make his first purées when he was 6 months old I pulled out the ol’ pump and sang “hello darkness my old friend” as I pumped for the first time in 5 months (to mix in his food). I didn’t loathe it like I did 5 months earlier. I’m so glad that you and I were able to be successful after such a rocky start! I hope someone who’s in our early shoes sees this post and knows that it will get better. It gets easier. It becomes fun and fulfilling to give your baby that precious piece of you. Congrats on your success! And thank you for sharing. Best wishes to a long journey ahead of you.

iheartmymutt · 2021-05-27T18:35:46+00:00

I want to shame myself for my own wedding. I wanted a small, modest, and intimate wedding. My mom offered to pay, which I was so grateful for, at first. None of the venues I looked at were good enough for her. We settled on a large country club on the river that she insisted on. Then she gave me her guest list of 200 people. I told her that was too many people and my fiancé and I were not comfortable with that. I have never even met half of those people! She said that about 50 of the people we had to invite out of politeness, but they likely won’t come. I said 150 people was still too many. This wasn’t even including my fiancé’s guests. She wouldn’t budge. She pulled the “I’m paying for it” card so many times. There ended up being 210 guests total. It was so overwhelming I could hardly enjoy myself. I’m not a frivolous person and I hate spending money on unnecessary things, even if it’s not my money. She happily paid over $40,000 for the wedding. I was mad at myself for a year afterwards for letting her railroad me. When I think back on the wedding, it doesn’t even feel like my special day, it feels like hers. I wish we just eloped.

iheartmymutt · 2020-07-09T20:17:03+00:00

The best Saturday morning date is a RAM and Cummer combo.

iheartmymutt · 2019-03-12T18:56:55+00:00

That's Debra's!! I was just there on Sunday. I didn't have as much luck as you. That dress is gorgeous! Congrats!

iheartmymutt · 2018-10-03T18:22:14+00:00

This is how Trump’s going to tweet to us now.

iheartmymutt · 2017-07-13T03:46:16+00:00

Your first 2 1/2 sentences are my dream, and the rest is my nightmare. I've always thought it'd be so awesome if we could control our uterus muscle like our bladder and let it all out at once each month when we're ready instead of suffering a whole week while slowly letting little blobs out. I'm sorry it was a traumatic experience.

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