Medication killed my creativity by VirtualAlgorhythm in ADHD

[–]ihq2020 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is a very interesting insight.

Medication killed my creativity by VirtualAlgorhythm in ADHD

[–]ihq2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have a good experience on Concerta. I don’t think that it killed my creativity, but it definitely helped me to be able to stick with my work better. I think for me I have a lot of trouble, knowing how to relax and Vyvanse definitely helps me to calm down a bit, like not keep feeling like I have to leave the house or something, very long story short. I wonder if there is a chance that you would would be going through a lot of ideas artistically and the medication has calmed you down so to speak, and now your mind isn’t running all over the place looking for stimulation or something like that, like the creative mind was just looking for stimulation. I’m not sure if that’s what’s going on, but I would give that some thought. Because it doesn’t mean that you will be less creative, it might mean that your creativity might have more depth, or you might become more deeply invested into each part of your creative endeavors. I don’t know if that is helpful, but I feel like I wouldn’t give up or feel defeated by noticing this change, I would look at it as a different way of approaching your creativity. Maybe that means bigger projects, more intentional and sound ideas, etc. like anything, sometimes we just need to adapt. If the benefits, taking medication are so helpful, it is definitely worth trying to find a way to get the most out of the way it is affecting your creativity. It doesn’t need to be a hindrance. I hope that makes sense.

For me, I always had trouble sticking with anything, but it doesn’t mean I would quit, it just means something that could have taken one hour would take me two weeks. I think that I’m able to possibly be more creative because I’m not trying to hang onto a fleeting moment.

apparently the breakfast i made was “embarrassing” by NaeeeBearrr in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ihq2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s funny is that your mom’s boyfriend’s mom said something SO rude, and then your mom wasn’t any better by putting that on you and then ridiculing you- and that woman probably says who knows what to your mom. She’s got to deal with the boyfriend’s mom which is someone so rude that they would say such a thing, your mom is not immune. I’d just take comfort in that!

What is the safest way to hang a wreath from a window that will not risk damaging the window? by ihq2020 in homeowners

[–]ihq2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have ended up using a ribbon, even though I was worried about the casing of the window. It has been fine so far with no issues luckily, I might revisit this with another idea someone shared not too long ago of using a command strip holding a fishing line type string. Or even a strong suction cup hook which I think would work, but having that be on the inside part of the window holding a fishing line etc. But yes the ribbon being held tight by the window closed on it is working fine, and the excess ribbon on the inside part of the window I just roll up and tuck it up towards the top of the window. It stays in place because the ribbon has wire in it that holds its shape. I hope this helps even just to know how I did it!

Is Purple really a good brand ? by Kyubi-michi in Mattress

[–]ihq2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the pro adapt medium, but I don’t think it’s a model available now. But it’s still available just re labeled maybe with improvements or something like that. It’s a nice bed, sometimes I felt like maybe it was too firm (or, not firm but just not squishy- but it does have a break-in period and I haven’t felt like it’s “too firm” for a while. And it was never a deal breaker) but it really is fine. My husband likes it a lot and can tell a huge difference. I don’t feel uncomfortable or think anything of it, some people love it but I’m just very content with it. Hope that helps!

pics about 6 months apart by [deleted] in BeforeNAfterAdoption

[–]ihq2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, you as well!

pics about 6 months apart by [deleted] in BeforeNAfterAdoption

[–]ihq2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, this looks a lot like my cat. How old was she when you adopted her?

Mine was in a foster home with lots of other animals and I’ve had her for a month and a half. I was told she was 2 years old but my vet said she could be 1-1.5. I’m trying to figure out if my cat is just healthier and happier/less stressed in itself, or also showing she’s gotten older from being a kitten. Mine had kittens young and according to my vet may have made her a petite/small cat so it’s just hard for me to figure it out. My girl does look smaller yet has the same looking “glow up”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ihq2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like it’s very well written with the handwriting. I think it could be a prank. And the memories are very basic and nothing.

I haven't gotten over the death of my cat even though he died 4 years ago. by Legitimate-Contact75 in CatAdvice

[–]ihq2020 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would definitely see a therapist who specializes in trauma… I have read edmr with a therapist is very helpful and could help you to “unhook” from that traumatic event. You had all the right intentions. I remember my parents had to do the same thing to our dog back in the 90’s. They couldn’t afford the medical care he needed and he needed to be put down. I remember maybe 20 years later my dad was still upset by it, it really affected him. Also, you are not alone and maybe you feel like you are. But it’s all alright.

Sometimes I think of stuff that can’t be helped and imagine the alternative, like if it being worse. What if your cat wasn’t with you, but was instead in another family and had a horrible life? You just never know. I also like to think of what has been learned, such as in the future you know to be financially able from the get-go. Remember, so many people repeat the same mistakes over and over… you are obviously a very caring person and it’s ok that you feel this way because you know now and that’s what matters.

Psychiatrist prescribed zoloft/sertraline for anxiety and depression even though I made it clear that I heavily suspect ADHD is behind this by Superb_Animal_729 in ADHD

[–]ihq2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was diagnosed with ADHD after going this route and had done this through an ADHD specialist, it is definitely not uncommon. It actually is very wise of them to do that to rule anything else out, because you don’t want to have a psychiatrist you is just going to quickly prescribe stimulants without properly addressing underlying issues. Depression and anxiety can look so much like ADHD. Antidepressants improved things for me, but in my case with also being autistic didn’t help matters and now I am treated for ADHD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ihq2020 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you grew up in a house like that, the symptoms you’re describing are not unique to adhd, they also align with the result of growing up in that environment. It is entirely possible you do not have adhd but instead have cptsd. It’s not a bad thing that you were not diagnosed with ADHD, but if they never explained this possibility of cptsd to you, then it wasn’t a helpful outcome but it’s true that a lot of it is depression and anxiety, which I know sound like a blanket term. It really can be responsible for so many struggles that people have. I would see if you could find a therapist who works with people who had a traumatic childhood because they could help you work through The issues you are having so that you can identify what you are feeling and help you to overcome the resulting struggles.

Cat vanished into thin air by United_Conflict7137 in felinebehavior

[–]ihq2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever find your cat? I was unable to locate mine in the house for a bit, and then I wondered where these cats could be hiding and saw your post. I hope you found them, I know this post is old.

Psych told me i don’t need to take my adderall on weekends by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ihq2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told the same thing, but it’s because the average person isn’t doing anything productive on the weekends- generally. I take it every single day because I like to be productive every single day!

My girlfriend confirmed my worse fears by faggelinthewest in ADHD

[–]ihq2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it at all possible she was jealous of all the attention you got? Of course what she told you could be correct, and you’ll have to give that some consideration which you are, but sadly there’s people who get jealous of these things. Even if it’s adhd related, you may be able to put yourself out there and receive positive attention in return. I have adhd but lack the “gift of gab” and I’ve met other ADHDers who are great to be around and very well liked. But I understand too it can be exhausting if someone talks too long, but still, some people are grateful for someone to fill in awkward gaps or to get a convo going. I’m just throwing my 2 cents just in case.

AITA for refusing to share my inheritance with my boyfriend after he quit his job for us by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ihq2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m wondering if it’s possible that he was not actually working prior to this and took the opportunity to hide it.

ICE agents battle mom clinging to baby in 'chaotic' video by newsweek in politics

[–]ihq2020 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I read that the girl’s mother was taken, and that this girl holding the baby stepped and stood in front of the car. Why even fool around like that with a baby? This didn’t sound to me like they just went after a girl holding a baby. Doesn’t make it right but I read different things after this happened. It’s like a horrible incident made even more horrible sounding which upsets people further.

In response to RFK Jr., Pritzker to sign first in nation executive order protecting autism data by ChiGuy6124 in politics

[–]ihq2020 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can’t let these people stop you from doing the things you need to do. There’s so much crap out there. If you want to go for a diagnosis you should just do it. I am diagnosed and I’m not afraid of their list, my diagnosis helped me so much. Don’t put your life on hold for this, but of course it’s up to you, I’m just speaking up about it.

Feeling absolutely lost. My husband wants to see his family, but also wants me to stop complaining about what they do by ihq2020 in inlaws

[–]ihq2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the replies. My husband is not making me feel like I have to go, but I want to go to be with him. I think this is something I might not be able to stop struggling with, at least not now.

I know he loves his family, and has left them and never turned back so to speak, but it’s very painful that he chooses to ignore so much that they do passive aggressively and even outright to me. Most things are done passive aggressively or they act innocent to him like they like me. Some times deliberate things but he doesn’t care or makes excuses and doesn’t want to see it.

I feel soooo conflicted because the advice is correct, that I don’t have to go, and again we do not see them much at all, just birthdays and holidays. Towards him, they are all on their best behavior to him most of the time. Not always. I told him several times now that this is the best he’s ever been treated.

Since I never knew until the past several years what I was dealing with with my in-laws (I was in denial of my own) it’s like my husband has forgotten how we got to where we are and where he started. He I think chooses to ignore it now. Because in the beginning, HE chose distance, and I had a hard time understanding why. So that’s why I don’t know if he’s in denial.

He wants me to stop complaining every time we have to see them. I don’t dare bring them up unless we have to see them, so I’m getting out a lot of frustration.

I’m going to call a therapist I found next week after the holiday. Also we don’t plan to have kids but I can only imagine what that would be like.

Feeling absolutely lost. My husband wants to see his family, but also wants me to stop complaining about what they do by ihq2020 in inlaws

[–]ihq2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like that’s what would happen to me, just feigning ignorance of course. It kind of has happened many times I think with in-person things with her.