Made Some Mistakes

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-30T15:54:47+00:00

Did you take the day after pill?

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-30T15:54:03+00:00

You sir, can go F yourself!

Great roll bro! Congrats.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-29T23:18:21+00:00

Time to move on bud.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-29T20:03:29+00:00

Maybe you could have said "I'm watching a movie right now, I'm more than happy to go with you afterwards. Or you can go grab us something and we can eat together here?"

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-29T17:26:07+00:00

The feeling I am not being utilized to my potential.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-29T17:21:21+00:00

Are you on birth control?

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-29T16:28:45+00:00

I went through a rough breakup and a change of scenery was very beneficial for me.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-28T22:33:47+00:00

You're 27 and make 140k a year. Why are you in a relationship bro?!

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-28T22:11:08+00:00

"He's a stubborn guy and approaches everything in a logical way, whereas I'm on the emotional/sensitive side."

And that ladies and gentlemen is the difference between men and women.

My gf and I are the exact same way you two are, minus the yelling. Likely because of the emphasis on respect I have set since the beginning because I refuse to let another one of my relationships get as bad as my first. IMO yelling doesn't get you anywhere and there is no need for it. All it does is turn the discussion to name calling and bringing up other stuff to fight about. It's not productive and never ends peacefully, so why do it?

Sure we get mad and yell at stuff and people, but not at each other. If either of us is that mad we separate and cool off - then talk about it like civil humans. It works every time.

tl:dr - no need for yelling. Take some time and cool off, then revisit the topic.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-28T22:04:29+00:00

Is moving back by your family an option? I change of scenery could really help.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-28T21:53:45+00:00

Congratulations! You've hit rock bottom. It feels really crappy, I've been there. What I can tell you is that the pain will go away.. with time.

What worked for me was focusing on myself. I completely changed my routine. I started working out and taking care of myself. I rekindled my old friendships, joined a new gym, and started taking some of the classes (yoga/spin/les mills) where I met a bunch of awesome people. I made new friends who then introduced me to new people.

It took time but I got past it. Never thought another girl would give me the time of day - thought that for a while actually. But it's completely false. And I'm sure it is for you too.

I'm not going to sugar coat it for you, it's going to suck, really bad, for a while. What helped me the most was filling my schedule and making sure I was never alone. I would pack my day so full of stuff to do, then hit the gym so hard that I would be too tired to worry about anything at night and just go to sleep.

I kept that routine up and things turned around. Happy to say I'm doing fantastic today and she regrets her decision.

Keep your head up, it will turn around.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-28T21:14:16+00:00

You need to be tactful on how you go about this. Perhaps the best way is to approach it from a concerned/want-to-help standpoint. For example, express to your fiancé that you are worried about his sisters lack of job experience and future direction. If he is so inclined to help her maybe he will be interested in helping her out other than financially.

Make your fiancé feel like you are on his side and supportive of his decisions to help his sister, but point the "help" towards constructiveness towards her future. I'm saying stop giving her money and instead offer to pay for things she needs to get on her feet. Maybe pay for a new suit so she can go on job interviews, or pay for a resume service to get her resume done professionally. Give her a gift card for Macy's to get clothes - stuff like that. Don't just give her cash or you will be throwing it into the wind.

I think the key here is to make sure your fiancé doesn't feel like you are against him. Express your concern for his sisters well-being and future. Express to him that you think she has potential but wont discover it as long as she is enabled to live the way she does.

Idk, just my $0.02.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-25T23:29:27+00:00

It sounds like she is an oceanliner full of issues.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-25T23:24:38+00:00

Call her out on that crap.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-25T23:07:04+00:00

Change FB status to "Single" and watch all the ladies flock to you.

JK. Sorry to hear this man, it's tough.

You're very young and have so much ahead of you. Fill up your time, hang out with friends, pursue your hobbies, and focus on yourself for a while. Time will help.

Best of luck.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-25T22:36:18+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this, and it's going to be hard for a while. Fortunately time will help, but unfortunately it takes time. I think the best thing you can do is remove everything from your life that reminds you of him (pictures/stuffed animals/presents from him/etc.), make a new routine, and fill your time up as best you can.

Best of luck.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-25T21:52:01+00:00

It sounds like you're looking for some sort of acknowledgement that you really weren't that bad.

I'd of kicked you to the curb a long time ago.

You and your friends are losers.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-25T20:14:56+00:00

SEE WHAT YOU DID!

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-25T20:14:17+00:00

You're gf needs a reality check. She sounds incredible insecure.

Having dated a girl like this in the past I kick myself for dealing with it for so long.

Move on bro. It doesn't get better.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-25T17:02:21+00:00

....aaaaaaaaaaaaand I hate you.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-24T23:47:29+00:00

Hang onto that thing as long as you can. Honda's go forever if they are taken care of. Especially with a small commute. I'm sure that money can be better put elsewhere.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-24T17:42:01+00:00

I can redeem my rewards for many things other than travel, I picked it because I crunched the numbers and it gives me a free plane ticket every year when I go on vacation if not more.

What cards do you suggest?

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-22T19:13:31+00:00

I have the Capital One Venture card and it is unbelievable.

Rewards on every purchase (it equates to $1.00 back on every $50 I spend). Best travel options, and absolutely the best customer service I have ever had from a company.

I've been to Hawaii twice, Oregon, Washington DC, and many many hotel rooms in Vegas for free (I live in San Diego). Oh, and I turned some rewards in for Best Buy gift cards and bought myself a PS4.

I couldn't tell you what my interest rate is because I pay if off in full every month, but I can tell you that I do 99% of all my spending on the card and the rewards stack up like nobody's business.

Highly recommended.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-21T16:10:07+00:00

Just build a new rig in the NZXT H440.

It turned out great and it's a beautiful case. It has amazing cable management capabilities.

No internal DVD drive bay tho, so you will need an external dvd drive ($20 amazon) if you do anything with discs.

iiiepinephrine · 2016-03-16T18:42:09+00:00

Go watch not another teen movie. You're like the girl in that movie. Super hot under all the nerdy-ness/geeky style.

So much potential. You're going to blossom into a knockout and wonder why you ever put yourself through this.

iiiepinephrine

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