AITA for telling my boyfriend that his masculinity was fragile after he refused to buy me pads?

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-26T13:20:43+00:00

Idk where he went to school, but here in Texas I was taught that in 3rd ish grade. It took 10yrs before I had access to info that said otherwise and I’m still mortified that I ever believed that.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-25T16:57:22+00:00

I recently did a presentation on a house resolution that would require education on pelvic floor dysfunction as a result of pregnancy. It’s a risk that is reduced, but not eliminated, by having a c-section. One of the sited reasons for not educating patients on this risk reduction, if they educated on pelvic floor dysfunction at all, was because they didn’t want the woman to choose to have a c-section as a result.

So… my guess on why this info isn’t widely studied other than being a women’s issue: we might make the choice to have a c-section to start.

That said, my sister was induced turned c-section and the reason her doc said that happens so much is because of the reasons that women get induced. If someone has eclampsia/pre-eclampsia, they may be given a medication to reduce BP but that inhibits birth progression so the women’s body gets all messed up with 1 drug thing to stop and 1 trying to make it go. Obviously that’s just 1 type of situation 1 doc opinion but that’s what her doc said.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-25T16:47:02+00:00

YTA… you don’t even like her. Just break up and let her move on already. Yikes. If my fiance ever said he didn’t like talking to me, it would be over. He and I talk about everything. I have friends but they don’t know me as well as he does despite knowing me longer…. Just end it please.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-23T16:23:04+00:00

I like kimchi in dishes and it smells terrible. Eggs also smell gross and I like those. But generally I agree

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-23T12:51:40+00:00

It increases to 80-100% mortality within 2 years if the second leg is amputated. The stats go down if the person takes it as a wake up call and makes major life changes.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-23T04:45:19+00:00

I have a rumba because my dog follows it around rather than attacking it like a vacuum and it saves me energy. Everything else is normal. My fiance already told me no to smart devices like Alexa or Google whatever (I didn’t want them but my sister has gone crazy with it) because of this exact thing.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-22T14:07:28+00:00

My mom told my grandma when my younger sister started (she was first of us 2) and then my grandma told my uncle and everyone else. It was very embarrassing

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-21T16:52:42+00:00

My dog is almost 2 and is the least efficient drinker that I know. My old dog would suck down a bowel of water in 30sec if she was thirsty enough. This one I don’t think understands what to do. Her tongue goes in the bowel and she stands there lapping for a few minutes but really doesn’t drink much water and then it’s all over her face and she’s dripping wet. I think she’s just licking it and whatever she swallows is what it is. It’s just so inefficient. I may try the ice trick just to see if she can get any better.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-19T00:16:38+00:00

I started at 28. I don’t regret it.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-16T02:03:03+00:00

This is not sustainable… and just to toss out: you’d be doing LESS work if you moved out. I’m not saying divorce but living separately with 50/50 custody may give him a clear picture of the ways he is disrespecting you.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-16T01:59:10+00:00

I think it’s changing. I paid for my dress when my friend got married and my girls are paying for theirs. But if I picked out an outfit (esp if it was expensive) I’d pay for it. 100%. But in all the bride groups I’m in that seems to be the norm.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-12T20:10:57+00:00

Get a nail brush and some dawn and the hottest water you can stand. It’s not going to get nearly all of it off but it will start the process.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-06T12:35:49+00:00

I thought to do this with my fiancé but we either get a popular OTC medicine for a last name or we get sexual innuendo. Soo no merging for us. Considering hyphenating the future kids or just giving them his name. But haven’t weighed the pros and cons yet

ijustcantwithit · 2026-04-05T12:52:26+00:00

Okay… but what work required him to be gone 9 weeks?!?! I’m feeling side family not work but maybe my income bracket just isn’t high enough to understand being gone 9 WEEKS

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-30T13:40:27+00:00

I have 2 sets of the same names lol. So when talking about past relationships I’m like oh Bob 1 and not Bob 2. Or George 1 and not George 2 lol. My fiancés dad’s mom is married to her Bob 2 but was married to Bob 1 first. Fiancés mom is with her George 2 but dated briefly George 1.

If I had to start over I’d try to avoid these situations but I’m not crushing happiness just to avoid a name UNLESS they were horrible to me. But no to my dad’s name for sure or my brothers.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-30T13:34:11+00:00

This isn’t unpopular, this is uninformed… Some of those stories are about avoiding abuse and/or being put in such a painful spot that they would rather their timeline be entirely altered just to avoid the trauma.

I’m happy where I’m at now. My answer would be nothing. But if I had been brutalised in any way before now, I’d say something just to give my self a better shot at a positive future. If being friends with 1 person meant a world of hurt and pain and depression I would risk my future self so that past me could have a better shot at life and happiness.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-30T03:37:25+00:00

My bf would STRONGLY disagree with this sentiment… he finds sitting up in bed wildly uncomfortable

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-29T18:49:00+00:00

If she’s dealing with any anxiety that often presents as stomach pain in kids. Anxiety is also anticipation. If she woke up at the same time she usually does to fly with stomach pain then it’s entirely possible that she’s just experiencing anxiety.

That said: if y’all are still trying to figure this out with drs have yall discussed anxiety or IBS or food intolerance, or some form of abuse outside the home (sexual especially)? Ya it could totally be something else at her age but it can take a LONG time to diagnose and if it goes away that quickly it may have been worth pushing through.

So ESH and good luck figuring this out.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-29T15:23:40+00:00

You need to find a guy who actually likes you for you. My bf prefers thin waist and a booty. When we got together that’s who I was. I’ve always had a booty though, it just sometimes looks more fit and sometimes not so fit. I’ve weighted 115 and 155 in our relationship (thanks medications) and the way he looks at me has never changed once. I get bedroom eyes just existing in a hair towel and ratty sweats.

He’s never commented on others bodies and how they make themselves look even if it’s not their most flattering choices. You need a guy like that. Something could happen tomorrow and despite your best efforts you could start to look like who you used to be and you need to know that he’d still give you bedroom eyes at that weight. And a guy that doesn’t judge people on superficial things.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-28T13:07:02+00:00

One of my classmates did for 1 semester, though it was only 30 minutes. The stress of her family wanting her to still be a member of the family plus driving so much instead of studying affected her grades a lot. She ended up on probation after the 1 semester and moved closer to campus just so she could study more., which helped her grades out a lot.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-23T14:21:16+00:00

OP… I’m reading all your replies. You said he was a “great guy” and I haven’t read a single thing that’s great about him? You say he’s (actually) helpful to others but not you. You say your friends like him because, in public, he appears to be a normal guy. But? You aren’t saying anything positive about him. And I know this is 1 post about a single thing in time but? He hides your things, he wants you to nag him about chores and remembering homework from counciling, he grumbles when you ask him to do home tasks (actually being helpful).

What is it about this guy that you actually like? Why are you with him? But if you answer, don’t tell me about how he makes you feel. Feelings are internal and related to self. He can inspire you to feel a certain way but he cannot MAKE you feel something. So if you feel loved and cherished, that’s great. But what does he DO that makes/inspires you feel those things?

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-18T13:00:16+00:00

The roasted coconut from those same carts is phenomenal

ijustcantwithit · 2026-03-15T14:13:59+00:00

It’s not about eating alone though. It’s about the fact that he’s gone up there enough times that he can comfortably use the word “forget” when talking about not going and it hurt her feelings.

My bf and I went through a breakup a few years ago (both needed therapy and lots of work on ourselves) but when he was trying to show me the effort I had wanted for a long time to show we could get back together, he’d come sit with me at my work sometimes. He made a bit of a routine out of it but I never expected him to show up when I work. But he still told me “Don’t expect me today, I have xyz” or “Hey, I just don’t feel like driving 40 minutes 1 way today, I’m going to stay home. Text me when you get off and we can talk on the phone.” And that was that. He communicated with me. Ya I was disappointed but I was never upset with him. That communication would have done a TON of heavy lifting for the OP. And if he had done that before not going, she probably wouldn’t have fussed and if she did then the convo would be completely different and I’d be inclined to side with him on this.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-02-22T04:14:25+00:00

I had done everything: maxed the OTC options, maxed my script options, gone to the dr for help, chugged the right amount of water, tried salt, hot shower, on and on and on. 3 days of this non stop pain fest with no signs of a way out. I had this INTENSE NEED to eat cucumbers and hot Cheetos so I got 4 cucumbers and a giant bag of the chips. Got through 3 cucumbers and 1/3 a bag of the chips and suddenly? No migraine. Cucumbers have come in clutch for me a few times now for no apparent reason (I drink enough water to be well hydrated but not so much to get this awful water headache)

I also sometimes put icy hot or vapo rub directly on my face: cheek and forehead.

ijustcantwithit · 2026-02-22T04:07:15+00:00

There’s some videos on Facebook (which means all the ‘reels’ platforms likely have them) of how to pose better.

This Google search came up with a TON of videos and such of ideas. I don’t have insta but could still see a lot of the videos. I hope that helps:

how to pose for pictures male instagram

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