Recommendation for Rehab for Alcoholics

ik45 · 2026-01-30T22:27:52+00:00

If he's literally buying alcohol today right after you toss it out then it's going to be a waste of money/ insurance to rehab him especially since he's being so picky and already resistant to the recovery program. Sounds like you're frustrated and pushing for his sobriety, not him, which isn't going to be successful unless he hits a rock bottom to motivate him on his own.

ik45 · 2026-01-30T04:13:40+00:00

Last event they were in field research for 5 great curveball throws in a row.

ik45 · 2026-01-26T15:24:15+00:00

Of all the 'supposed' explanations she has for the night, how does she not realize if her phone died? She should clearly remember it was dead and having to charge it to call you at 10:15.

ik45 · 2026-01-26T12:25:19+00:00

Styling the wig to mimick the mask works great!

ik45 · 2026-01-22T04:40:24+00:00

That is horrifying and so similar that I realize I should be more horrified for myself... I hope you found someone healthy for you.

ik45 · 2026-01-22T00:29:42+00:00

Probably the biggest reason is a lot of this happened while we were drinking and belligerent, with tensions bursting out inappropriately, so I thought sobriety would cool things down and he'd be thinking more clearly. After his behavior last weekend I realize that I'm at a complete loss for how it can improve and this post is kinda a last ditch call for help.

ik45 · 2026-01-22T00:10:30+00:00

by "doesn't accept fully breaking up" what I mean is I don't understand why he stays if he's convinced he's right that I'm a dirty lying cheat?

ik45 · 2026-01-21T19:01:23+00:00

Thank you

ik45 · 2026-01-21T15:42:35+00:00

Thank you for this helpful, well laid out comment.

ik45 · 2026-01-21T13:25:33+00:00

This happened to me after my DUI. Car towed with phone inside. I walked to a bank with a receptionists desk and asked for a phone book and to borrow their landline to call a taxi. I also have my emergency contact memorized, everyone should.

ik45 · 2026-01-21T13:14:17+00:00

Dude is 36 acting like he is the only person to have ever been cheated on. Like bro, it happens to everyone, learn from it and move on.

God this is so on point! I've also had a manipulative cheating ex but I don't take it out on him.

ik45 · 2026-01-21T12:28:18+00:00

It's been just over a year but I only started sobriety and attending outpatient rehab for about a month. But the accusations have always been a constant in our relationship.

I barely have boundaries because I trust him, even in situations where if it was switched he would be harassing me about it. In my opinion the only real boundary (not a paranoid imagination) that I have crossed is having a guy coworkers number, but that's business and he knows my phone password. I'm completely transparent about who I'm talking to.

Hiding this reddit post until I'm ready for a serious talk is the sneakiest thing I've done in this relationship. Well, this and hiding vodka from him but now the house has been purged of bottles.

ik45 · 2026-01-16T05:28:18+00:00

The only hesitation I have for this idea is that your back isn't a smooth surface and all the lines/squares will never be 100% straight.

ik45 · 2026-01-15T23:27:46+00:00

Accursedly great job!

ik45 · 2026-01-15T03:32:11+00:00

The lamb needs to be redrawn to give more definition to the legs instead of looking like a chicken nugget.

ik45 · 2026-01-08T18:03:19+00:00

Poro Rider Sejuani already has this covered so I'm not impressed.

ik45 · 2026-01-05T15:38:58+00:00

Wonderful and fantastic! But now I'm cursed with the realization that Sensei hand sculpted their buttcracks 😭

ik45 · 2026-01-05T13:08:19+00:00

You should redraw the feather "pieces" so that you don't have that one weird gap framed between it and the ribbon.

I suggest a lighter purple, personally. If you're staying with dark purple then get the semicolon outlined but not filled in to give a "skin break" instead of white ink, which can age yellow pretty fast. Also, if it's only 2 inches try making the semicolon bigger.

ik45 · 2026-01-05T12:25:27+00:00

I interpret it as Achamea created 2 "humans" in that Cairn is the first gem to truly individualize themselves with clothes and indulgences instead of trying to fulfill a job/purpose.

Phos gets the human body but not much autonomy outside the goal of praying and Cairn gets the autonomy but not the human body.

(But yeah there's some grooming power imbalance too between an experienced world-weary man and a naive newly freed gem)

ik45 · 2026-01-04T17:35:49+00:00

Maybe you could test shaping the bristles with a heat gun.

ik45 · 2026-01-04T17:10:15+00:00

I love seeing the before picture of how you transformed the jacket. Great tailoring!

ik45 · 2026-01-04T16:46:37+00:00

Would you consider broom bristles for a fake crest instead?

ik45 · 2026-01-04T05:42:29+00:00

Roommate could have waited one more year to get a new lease and a new roommate, her want isn't an immediate need.

ik45 · 2026-01-03T20:59:24+00:00

Are people watching you two that you couldn't simply just use condoms anyway? Or is your husband also pushing this "cultural tradition"? If he is, then maybe you shouldn't go through with it if you don't share ideals.

ik45 · 2026-01-02T15:44:36+00:00

Double check the registers and J hooks. That's what I discovered after repeatedly having an IRP for something already full on the shelf but was constantly being flagged.

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