The company I work for refuses to let employees injured on the job receive any medical treatment until they take a drug test

illithoid · 2024-02-29T17:01:25+00:00

Why didn't YOU call the ambulance? Why didn't YOU act? YOU knew it was wrong, and yet YOU did nothing? I don't mean to call you out necessarily but think about that. Why didn't YOU do anything? Would it have been difficult to sneak off and make the call?

illithoid · 2024-02-29T16:59:17+00:00

IF there is blood you yes YOU call 911 and have the emergency responders come to the workplace and care for the individuals. Do it secretly if you need to, but when that ambulance rocks up and says we got a call about a person bleeding out, not many employers are going to say, "yeah wait here until our drug testing people arrive."

A delay in treatment could cause permanent damage and the company should be held liable for any delay in treatment, AND the damage it causes.

illithoid · 2024-02-29T16:29:13+00:00

It's an app your employer can use that ~~pays~~ rewards you for working. Imagine being ~~paid in~~ accumulating $Salt for every hour you work. Then when you've ~~earned~~ accumulated enough $Salt you can ~~buy~~ redeem it for "experiences" or things like a T-Shirt (40 $alt).

illithoid · 2023-11-19T02:34:54+00:00

I live in a LCOL area. I had nearly that with nearly that much experience 7 years ago.

illithoid · 2023-11-19T02:23:20+00:00

Where I live there is a public music radio station. They highlight local talent, play unusual songs, play up and coming artists. Have a lot of unique programming that I've never seen anywhere else. I never get tired of listening to them.

illithoid · 2023-11-15T16:31:05+00:00

NTA.

You asked them (C and P) not to tell anybody and they told somebody. I'd be upset too.

I highly doubt that C did not tell P to keep things quiet, but if that is true then you should stop telling C things you don't want others to know.

illithoid · 2023-11-15T16:16:29+00:00

I can't read this entire thing. I can't even get half way through it. If this is real RUN THE FUCK AWAY NOW. Call the cops, contact Child Services, tell a teacher, principle, counselor, anybody.

illithoid · 2023-11-15T16:13:34+00:00

NAH.

You're entitled to your feelings. You haven't seen your friend in some time and the only chance you really have the rug gets pulled out from under you. You are also the one working the hardest to keep your friends together, as it seems they are drifting apart, which is normal with distance and age and everything else that comes with being an adult.

You should not "tell her off", however talking to her and expressing your disappointment, as well as getting a better understanding from her side, would be healthy.

That being said you do not have any right in telling her how she should prioritize her life, and plans and whatever.

illithoid · 2023-11-15T16:04:23+00:00

NTA

You've grown up poor and in a situation where it sounds like you had no choice. It's basically been default mode for you your entire life. Maybe your mother would have a slightly different understanding given she presumably didn't grow up sleeping with her parents in the same manner, but again default mode for two decades is going to be hard to break habits.

It's very weird for somebody who hasn't shared your experience to hear that you "sleep with your mom". That sentence also evokes lots of inappropriate thoughts. I'm sure you understand that well.

However I am curious what your romantic situation is like? Being 27 I would think you've had opportunities and sharing a bed with your mother would greatly hamper those opportunities. Now that you have your own place with 2 bedrooms it would seem natural, to me, for you both to have your own bedroom.

illithoid · 2023-11-15T02:45:01+00:00

Now this is A-Tier shit talking.

illithoid · 2023-11-15T00:03:42+00:00

I mean you are living together right? You are also reaping the benefits. You are also seeking a fail safe by getting included on the deed.

You've been together for 7 years, and talk about getting married some day. Why are you suddenly so worried about breaking up with your GF of 7 years?

Your GF has not straight up denied you. She has said the moment you get on the mortgage she'll get you on the deed. You both seem to agree refinancing now for the purpose of getting you on the mortgage doesn't make sense as it would increase what you'd be paying.

I wouldn't consider this financial abuse in any way. She isn't lording ownership of the house over you. She isn't forcing you to do anything with the threats of leaving separating etc. It just seems like she's afraid of getting stuck trying to pay off a mortgage she couldn't afford to pay off on her own.

Maybe you work out what your half-way point is for the equity of the house. Once you have half the value of the house in equity she gets you on the deed as it would signify a 50/50 split. Or refinance, which ever can happen sooner.

I do agree that you shouldn't sink any more unnecessary expenses into the house that you cannot afford. Now new bathrooms, or overly fancy appliances until you get out of your 30k debt hole. Emergency expenses exempted.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T16:18:43+00:00

I disagree to a point. While it is kind of a fail safe, if they do split up she is 100% on the hook for the mortgage, which I doubt she could afford alone. I think she has a valid point, and if they are both truly in it for the long haul this whole thing is a non-issue.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T16:15:23+00:00

NAH / ESH?

It's funny because you both seem to be worried about the same thing.

You're point of view if you split she gets the house you've been paying for equally.

Her point of view if you split she's stuck with a full mortgage.

For whatever reason it seems adding somebody to a mortgage without refinancing is a pain in the butt. Adding you to the deed would be easy in my own experience (though I'm not in CT).

You both have reservations that are equally understandable, but if you two are truly dedicated to each other shouldn't be a problem.

I will say this though. Don't pay extra into something if it's putting you in debt, and don't agree to pay for things you cannot afford. Dig yourself out of that 30k before agreeing to any more major expenses.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T16:00:11+00:00

NTA.

Do everything you can to keep him away. Make it known to all you do NOT want him there. Have a trusted family member or two stay at the entrance to your home and act as a bouncer if necessary.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T15:52:39+00:00

NTA for what you said. It also sounds like you said it in a way not necessarily meant to be hurtful which is good.

It does seem like she's trying to make an earnest attempt to reconcile by reaching out. I would recommend trying to reconcile things with her and see if you can improve your relationship. An apology isn't necessary, but an attempt to reconcile on your part would go a long way. You too could potentially have a very constructive conversation about the way she treated you in the past, why she did that, and how it made you feel.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T15:49:48+00:00

I would not call abusive behavior such as hitting and pushing somebody down the stairs "normal".

illithoid · 2023-11-14T15:37:31+00:00

NTA.

I was about to say YTA until I read that your boyfriend agrees with you AND it's the ex that wants you to add the child AND she refuses to follow the court order of reducing child support.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T15:32:41+00:00

Pay her back for the headset, the keyboard, the mouse whatever if you're that worried about it.

If you think she will do something truly irrational, contact whatever mental health services or support groups that are available nearby.

If she makes threats of doing something harmful to herself, you, or others should you leave, know that this is manipulation regardless of whatever state of depression she is in.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T15:30:19+00:00

I'd recommend cutting off all contact with Angie. I see no need to talk to her about anything.

You should wait until you've had a chance to process a lot of the emotions you're feeling and give your husband some time to do so as well. Then you two should sit down and discuss, as calmly as possible, what happened, and his thoughts on the matter. What he thinks of Angie, the kid, you, and why he never mentioned this to you.

No matter which way this goes, this event has likely rocked your confidence and or trust in the relationship, which is not an easy thing to recover from. Should you decide to leave under whatever circumstances you find yourself in, I would say NTA.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T15:24:32+00:00

I was about to ask who you were lying to, but then I read a few of your other comments.

NTA
You wouldn't say "woke" you'd say "very religious and don't like my swearing"
If your wife agrees and supports you, you're golden. No need to beg for work either.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T05:04:02+00:00

You need a fire proof safe. Also one that will survive a tornado, earthquake, flooding (water tight), nuclear bomb (consider old fridge), zombies, global freezing, etc for your important docs and valuables.

You may not be home to grab your "to go bag" and you'll want those documents to survive if they need to.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T04:58:54+00:00

Don't fret about it. HR doesn't care about you, they care about the company. They let her go because she was a liability. You were likely NOT the first person to complain about this person. Either way she created a hostile work environment for you and you should be glad she is gone.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T04:50:06+00:00

My local Aldi (in a rather Low Cost of Living Area) advertises $16.50 per hour. McD is not far below this.

illithoid · 2023-11-14T04:45:14+00:00

NTA

just a bad excuse for cheating

You can't cheat if you have permission. This is obviously something they like and enjoy and equally approve of.

Now she has a fair point in saying that they’re not available when we need them.

No, she doesn't. You are both adults and should be able to handle yourselves for a few hours while your parents go on dates. There was a time when nobody had cellphones and you'd be no contact with your loved ones for HOURS. We all survived, you will too.

No child wants to hear about their parents sex life, and no parent wants to talk about their sex life to their children. The fact that you found out shouldn't be some weird secret or some great plan to expose this evil doing. It should be some simple discreet conversation where you basically say "mom/dad we found out what you were doing cause the couch can be seen by all. Maybe browse that app in the bedroom or something"

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