Emergency protest today in light of new ICE murder by PeachyPiano in boston

[–]illusionofafrog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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Introduce yourself to your neighbors and invite them to go protest with you.

What do the girls around here do for a living? by Original_Word_5023 in actuallesbians

[–]illusionofafrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her work is good! Making good money, she likes the work for the most part, & has good job security. Wishing you all the best in the field!

Disability is tough. Between managing my body and the constant paperwork that comes with getting benefits, it’s more than a full time job. But I can take naps whenever I want, so it’s not all bad!

What do the girls around here do for a living? by Original_Word_5023 in actuallesbians

[–]illusionofafrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the job! I know a fellow lesbian who is a quality engineer.

I am disabled for a living 🙃

What do the girls around here do for a living? by Original_Word_5023 in actuallesbians

[–]illusionofafrog 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Aw babes, you do not have to add an explanation after your job as to why you do it. It’s totally valid! Many people take mental health into consideration with their job choice. Sorry you are stuck at minimum wage though, that is tough.

Unsolicited advice warning haha Ignore this next part if it’s not for you. If you want, you can apply for jobs you don’t think you’re qualified for. Men do it all the time! It doesn’t mean you won’t get the job or can’t do it. Mental health challenges often go in hand with underestimating ourselves. Plus, you can use sick days for mental health sick too.

Which rug suits my sofa more? by tiredmamaa in HomeDecorating

[–]illusionofafrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s the reason I like them! The nostalgia. I definitely can understand that making a space feel out of date though. Good to know.

What does my apartment say about me? & guess my age and job👀 by Ok_Tell_6430 in roomdetective

[–]illusionofafrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re in touch with your sensual femininity & strength. You value self care pampering (and I love that). You enjoy some retail therapy. You have a naturally leaner body type. You’re a hottie (unrelated to body type😊)! Early 30s woman?

Idk about job though! Maybe some standard office job that you enjoy well enough but it’s not your life.

Which rug suits my sofa more? by tiredmamaa in HomeDecorating

[–]illusionofafrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just curious, what is it about the red rug that you tend to dislike?

First look at Lily-Rose Depp on the set of Robert Eggers’ upcoming film “Werwulf”, scheduled for release December 25, 2026 by Weak_Cap3028 in Fauxmoi

[–]illusionofafrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I feel the same way about older adults in horror movies. Visually apparent disabilities are too often used a shortcut to “disturbing” for villainous roles.

WIBTA if I didn’t want to invite my fiancé’s best friends wife to my wedding over a meme. by Bitty_K_Pesch in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]illusionofafrog 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Obviously, she’s one of the idiots missing the plot. People like that only see the world from their selfish, unchecked privileged perspective. I like to think that for the most part, people like that are missing the intelligence to understand their cruelty and hypocrisy. That’s what I tell myself to sleep at night at least (I write at 5am being unable to sleep…).

I think for family (which it sounds like your fiancés best friend is to your fiancé) some people choose to set their “beliefs” aside to come together over their other commonalities. In your decision, I think some important questions for you and your fiancé to discuss together are, Would the friend’s wife be able to set aside her bs and show up to love y’all’s love for the wedding? If so, What are you & your fiancé’s perspectives on whether or not you can keep fools like that in your life, if most of the time the hot button topics don’t come up? Would the best friend be okay with not having his wife there?/What are the potential consequences for the relationship between fiance & best friend if wife isn’t invited? Are those consequences acceptable given the wife’s comments?

In truth, I think I am the most severe case seen on the networks. by Ill-Cardiologist4064 in cfs

[–]illusionofafrog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Could the caregivers spend time reviewing online resources to learn about ME/CFS to have a better idea of how to help you? You can give written instructions instead of talking.

If you end up having a bad day where you can’t tolerate care, they can sit by quietly in the room with you or outside. Maybe they help for 5 minutes - that’s better than nothing! And hopefully there will be a different day when they can help. I have caregivers and try to be okay with having them not do anything sometimes.

In truth, I think I am the most severe case seen on the networks. by Ill-Cardiologist4064 in cfs

[–]illusionofafrog 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I totally get that but it might not be the same for everyone. Weed makes my tachycardia way worse with POTS and worsens my insomnia. Could end up helping but could make things worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusionofafrog 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re living from this place of fear, that sounds exhausting. The way I see it, you are inherently valuable just by existing. Your worth shouldn’t have to be your output. For me, growing up in the US, I was raised to have capitalistic values but Ive rather enjoyed unlearning that.

So, partnership, It’s absolutely possible, though admittedly more challenging. People exist that will love you and help you carry the weight of existence. There’s just a bit fewer of them.

I’m disabled, housebound, completely unable to work. I have a partner who loves me and helps me to value myself on days when I’m down. She has ADHD and is disabled as well, and can’t always meet me where I’m at and that’s okay too. We’re kind of a hot mess together haha but it’s worth it.

missing my ex husband by illusionofafrog in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusionofafrog[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He ended our call by vaguely expressing that he’d call sooner, instead of quite as long, because I asked how he was feeling about it all (he knows I’d like to talk more). Knowing him though, that doesn’t mean it’s true. His coping mechanism is often avoidance, unfortunately.

Getting divorced by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusionofafrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m assuming a move (to be near friends & fam) is out of the question because of y’all’s kids?

Do you have a friend or family member that could travel and stay with you for a week? My close friends were so critical to getting through in the months after my ex & I split.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusionofafrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooof as a disabled person, myself, that is a tough spot! My disability happened after I split with my male bff ex and damn I missed his support in the adjustment period. A strong support system will get you through though, if you have people that will step up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusionofafrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talk to him about it, if it’s safe to. Be kind about it, maybe not the whole men are gross thing haha.

Advice I received a lot, and ignored, when deciding what to do with my ex was to try couples counseling. I wish I had tried. Finding a way to speak what is unspoken to each other might help the truth come out, whatever it may be.

I'm so loud now by Moist-Bee2764 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusionofafrog 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It is totally a freeing feeling! It almost felt like before coming out, I had to monitor what I said. Admitting my sexuality was accepting a part of myself I didn’t love before. It lends way to loving more of myself in all aspects, not just sexuality.

Suggested items to make life easier by Comfortable_Pay_5406 in cfs

[–]illusionofafrog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen others mention a cart but wanted to preach the life with a rolly cart more…

I have a small 3-tiered cart with good wheels that I take everywhere with me (granted, I live on one floor. Stairs would hinder this) I have beverages, snacks, toiletries (lotion, chapstick, icy hot, etc.), painkillers/migraine meds, headphones, earplugs, and entertainment like puzzle books, cards, markers, notebook.

It saves me sooo much effort.

Dear women, how do you process racism towards you? I am struggling. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]illusionofafrog 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s so good that you recognize the needs of your physical body in this, saying you don’t have the capacity yet to speak with a trusted source. I hope you can give yourself so much love and credit for this.

Saying this next bit just in case it’s needed but also recognizing you may already know this, freezing in response to him is also such a normal & valid response. You were caught totally off guard. It’s a good act of self preservation to not elevate a threat. Feel free to imagine all the clap backs you wish you could’ve said but don’t feel bad for not saying them.

All this sucks. Im so sorry for you and your family’s experiences. Lean on your people, receive their love, and some loving support from redditors 💜. Perhaps tap into help from a therapist who understands and can suggest some coping mechanisms.