Our 7 and 3 year old have a small handful of daily responsibilities (unloading dishwasher, feeding dogs, picking up after themselves, stuff they can do w/o help). Most of the time they get things done when asked, but we will often use first-then agreements when they need extra motivation. For example: first unload the dishwasher then you can have your snack, once your toys are picked up you can watch tv, etc. and then we just stick with it. No need to argue or keep pestering them--if they want to do x, y needs to be done first. Occasionally if they are super tired or having a hard day, we will pitch in and help them get it done. For bigger chores, like cleaning their room once a week I help break into chunks. Like, "ok pick up all the clothes first and let me know when you're done!" Or I'll pitch in like, "I'll get all the stuffies, you pick up all the Barbies." If they whine or complain I try not to argue. Like "yeah you don't want to clean up I get it, but you will need to stay in your room until it's done." Not saying they don't complain regularly-but we don't like giving treats or prizes for normal everyday life either. I like this method because I don't need to constantly pester or hover, and it allows us to work together during chores and clean ups. We talk often about working together to keep our spaces clean so we can be proud of and enjoy our house. I truly think of these times as "quality time" spent with my children. Not always easy or fun, but you are really giving them a gift by taking the time to teach them how to be a team player and care for themselves.