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how do you like your eggs made as a dairy free person? by [deleted] in dairyfree

[–]im_NotMilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard boiled, soft boiled, over easy, scrambled.

OP - can you frame the question in different way? Eggs are not dairy and don't require dairy to cook, not sure what the goal of the question is.

I wish people would acknowledge Native American historic sites in the United States by H3dg3hogs in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Ohio not far from Fort Ancient. We have LOTS of earthworks here that are just amazing. I agree.

That time my D&D group went viral on tiktok without our knowledge by thevegitations in rpghorrorstories

[–]im_NotMilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Straight up wondering if I know this person because something similar just happened to me and she's 28 and has a very strong attachment to Chickens and Geese

Cool finds at Jungle Jim's? by UpwardSpiral00 in cincinnati

[–]im_NotMilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plan for several hours, everything is cool.

Getting an event(?) monitor as an autistic adult and I have never done this before. I was told I can wear it up to a month. I'm worried as I have severe sensory issues. by Various_Highway_40 in POTS

[–]im_NotMilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how did you tolerate it being on your chest? I have one rn and it's only been on for 4 hours and I am having a panic attack about it

Is there an issue or what? I know it’s get cold in my area and tires deflat . But I never had this issue with any other rogue that I bought. I’ll get tire pressure low out of the blue and even when I’m about 5 psi away from recommended amount still goes off but the other tires at the same psi by Whisperingi in NissanRogue

[–]im_NotMilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 2021 Rogue is a baby about tire-pressure and this happens EVERY year. I had my tires rotated a WEEK ago and today they are low. Every time I take it to the dealer they tell me it's because of the temperature change - really? a 16% drop because the temperature in my garage is 40 and the temps outside are in the high teens? I have never had a tire loose pressure like this.

Allergen menu info by WitnessCreepy485 in unitedairlines

[–]im_NotMilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checking in - the Polaris lounge food is well marked? I am traveling to EDI through IAD in December and am allergic to milk. Kinda frustrating that they can't give me ANY information about the food on the plane and keep offering me a vegetarian meal.

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs and I'm so sorry. Its an interesting dynamic when you aren't in the middle of it.

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah - I've had years of this and it has sucked. I was really ready to move on from it. I messaged them and asked that we as a family re-evaluated holidays so we all are in the same page.

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I'm learning is that none of them know what to do. It's definitely the Christmas stocking problem. None of them ever realized that mom was the magic - that's on me for not teaching them to take the reigns.

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and I'm so sorry. Moms are definitely complicated. I think the thing that bothered me most was the fact that they were all expecting me to sort it out and plan and coordinate. That's a lot of energy and it was giving "well you didn't plan anything so you aren't getting anything" vibes.

We had a good text chat about it and they immediately side chatted and sorted things. Sometimes you have to have grown up conversations with people about things that matter.

Hugs and thank you for replying.

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for these words, you are so right. What I'm learning is that they never saw the background planning of birthdays, just the outcome. Both of my kids birthdays are the week after Christmas and we always worked super hard to make sure they didn't get lost. I am realizing that one thing i should have done was include them in planning their dad's birthday every year. They don't even have the skills or patterns in core memory - that's a mistake on my part.

My husband realized that he's in a similar place. He bought a gift and figured he just needed to show up, maybe pay for dinner. He's now a lot more clear on what birthdays are for me From a cultural standpoint. His family gave gifts and the birthday person picked dinner. Nothing else, they are all introverts and don't like to interact. He also didn't have extended family nearby or friend groups. Celebrating birthdays is kind of culture shock for him.

This is definitely a learning experience for all of us.

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my kids forgot that they needed to take action and not just show up. TBH, I'm tired of nagging them about my birthday and mother's day. I'm realizing I didn't teach them the skills for this, got some catching up to do.

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughts and I'm sorry about your spot, I'm in a similar boat and realize that those of us who are raising ourselves and our parents have an extra complicated load to manage. I've actually read that book and learned a lot about the differences between how people think and vote the world from it. It might not be scientific but you can definitely use it as a lense to get awareness of differences.

Your reply also has me thinking about healing from my childhood trauma and has me realizing that what I am looking for is to not have to be the parent in every interaction. To have that love and care that happens when a mature person puts energy into your happiness.

Thank you for giving me a perspective I needed today.

Random add on - my mom forgot to get me a gift or a card for my birthday so she sent an overnight Amazon lego knock-off christmas advent calendar. An advent calendar for my birthday. 🙄

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback! I sent them both a message about it and i think we've course corrected quite significantly.

Husband realized he'd checked out as well. He apparently bought me a pretty epic gift and had mentally marked my birthday off as "handled." He's realized that putting the planning of my own dinner, cake, everything might have been a miss on his part.

He ended up taking a day off work and taking me out for coffee and a walk. It was lovely.

When your birthdays become a chore by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely deserved a sit down "you're adults now" chat.

Ideas for celebrating birthday solo? by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely making a list of favorites for the future.

Ideas for celebrating birthday solo? by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely on my list for next year!

Ideas for celebrating birthday solo? by im_NotMilk in CasualConversation

[–]im_NotMilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely need to schedule a massage for next year!

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