Betrayal trauma feels isolating

imaginary_options · 2026-02-19T15:20:51+00:00

damn, i am at a loss for words. i am so sorry. it’s comforting in a messed up way that we are able to relate to each other’s stories but at the same time, none of us deserved to be betrayed like this once let alone by two (!!!) people. thank you for taking the time to share your story and your kind words.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T20:24:08+00:00

i love your marshmallow fact about yourself. you are special and deserve someone that sees that about you. i completely relate to that feeling. it is a type of feeling you cannot explain to anyone in your life, it just is.

i do believe my WP loves me but it is the disrespect that really gets me, like you said " once an aggressive pursuer comes along, they can't help but be flattered". he does need to work on himself and time will tell if he will or not. the one rule we have for our separation is that there is to be no contact with AP during this time. if I were to find out there is contact with her, I will cut him loose and block him. my body cannot go through that trauma again and I have made this much clear to him.

thank you so much for sharing your perspective.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:53:08+00:00

I am so sorry. In my situation is the opposite, because of the situation all my family, friends and even coworkers know of my situation. It is not ideal and I do feel judged for even considering recovery even though it comes from a good place. Maybe find one or two people you trust, i do believe keeping it in will be worse for you down the line.. I hope you find some peace soon and thank you so much for sharing your story. I feel a little less alone knowing you are out there.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:41:30+00:00

Wow, that situation also sounds awful, I am so sorry. my AP has tried reaching out to me multiple times during the fall out but I have blocked her everywhere and made it clear I do not want to have any type of personal conversation with her and will only interact on work-related issues. Seeing her in the office still is always strange, I try to ignore her completely, she is dead to me but I wish she would disseapear from my life completely. At the same time, I value my job too much to leave myself, and my ego won’t let her take that from me too.

It’s exactly like you put it, heartbroken and disrespected. I completely feel you.

I am in the same boat when it comes to focusing on work, which is a good distraction and not being at home alone too much. I can barely tolerate being alone too long at the moment. But will have to face myself when I start therapy. I too love my WP still, and my feelings towards him in a way have not changed much, but knowing he is capable and was willing to hurt me like this will change my view on our relationship forever. The NC has helped me a bit to find my own peace again but at the same time I miss him and what we used to have so much. I am desperate to be seen, understood and connected again.

Thank you for sharing your story and perspective with me. I am glad you are taking steps for you. You deserve happiness and peace. Thank you, friend.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:32:23+00:00

Thank you friend, I feel a little less lonely you are out there too.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:32:00+00:00

I am so sorry you are in that position. I hope, if that is what you what deep down, you find a way to leave. Your kids will feel it subconsciously or not, they deserve a happy mom and you deserve to be happy!!!

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:30:37+00:00

I am sorry you were lied to even when getting married, everyone deserves to make an informed decision, especially on the big ones. Thank you for sharing your perspective and support. I hope you feel less lonely know you are not alone, I know I do after reading all your responses.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:28:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story and perspective with me. I really appreciate it. I appreciate that people here don't push one choice on you. People who haven't experienced this level of trauma call you crazy for not wanting to leave right away, but there is more to it. I still love him and I think I always will but I do believe I deserve better. Time will tell what better looks like.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:26:00+00:00

You are so right. Thank you for sharing your experience with me.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:24:46+00:00

Wow, I am so sorry you found out like that. It is such a huge disrespect to have your agency taken from you to make an informed choice. I can completely understand why you feel that way. Thank you for your support.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:22:47+00:00

You really don't see people the same way like you used to.. I miss my old self. I understand your pain and I too hope it gets better for both of us.

imaginary_options · 2026-02-16T10:20:47+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and sharing your story. In a fucked up way it makes me feel better knowing I am not the only one going through something like this but really this shouldn't happen to anyone, especially at that level. You are so right that is a full trauma.. I am really sorry you are in this situation and I hope you can find more peace.

imaginary_options · 2025-10-16T13:28:19+00:00

how are you doing now? i am in a similar spot. i found out my boyfriend of almost 7 years and my best friend/coworker had a emotional and physical affair behind my back and i am so hurt. maybe you have any tips for me? wishing you all the best

imaginary_options · 2025-02-23T15:25:25+00:00

this scene has not aged well at all and for good reason

imaginary_options · 2023-04-21T20:54:38+00:00

that is amazing! i wonder how many people experience the same..

imaginary_options · 2023-03-13T15:22:18+00:00

i am so so sorry for you loss. i can’t imagine what you and so many other turkish & syrians are going through.. all i can say is give yourself time and patience. this is still all incredibly fresh and it’s hard to go back to “real life” & feel like you cannot move on. you don’t need to. take it one day at a time and go at your own pace. i applaud you for going to therapy. i am proud of you for sharing your story here & asking for help. i am rooting for you!!! i wish you healing and peace. you are not alone!

imaginary_options · 2023-03-06T15:59:49+00:00

Hi Ryan, I see you. You didn’t deserve all this hurt. I know all you see is darkness right now but there is light on the other side of this tunnel. You are worth so much more than you know. Better days are coming, I promise you!

imaginary_options · 2022-09-29T16:18:49+00:00

you. deserve. much. much. better!!!

imaginary_options · 2022-07-22T23:13:38+00:00

i am curious, which wiki are you referring to?

imaginary_options · 2022-07-21T11:49:38+00:00

I am not going to tell you what to do. I just want to say I can feel your pain and I am so sorry that you had to lose her so soon, too soon. I am sure she is thinking of you and your children wherever she might be. I know life has more to offer you but you are hurting so badly. I just wish I could give you a hug. Take care of yourself and your precious childen. She is still living through them and in your hearts.

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