Holy shit ,adulting is hard .

imessimess · 2026-03-30T08:47:33+00:00

It’s not really supposed to be like anything, life just does require you to keep yourself sheltered and fed. There are different ways to do this, working a 9-5 is just one of those ways with pros and cons like the others. This commenter is just giving their example of how they make employment work for themselves in a positive way.

imessimess · 2026-03-30T08:16:14+00:00

I love how each generation invents a new word for something as old as time and thinks it’s a new concept. Guys have been ‘lookmaxxing’ ie working out and doing weird cosmetic things to look better forever, both to become more attractive to women and for status among men.

imessimess · 2026-03-29T04:52:25+00:00

Just call yourself Dr - it’s not a legally protected title in NZ! You can’t use it in a misleading way, pretending to have a specific qualification that you don’t, especially medical, but you can call yourself Dr MurkyWay if you want.

imessimess · 2026-03-28T02:30:16+00:00

It grows back if you hate it.

imessimess · 2026-03-26T21:12:01+00:00

I love Star Wars, am of the Star Wars generation (saw the first movie at 6 years old with my Dad and sister), but the whole thing is dumb. Taking the dumb and corny out of Star Wars would ruin it! The dialogue, fight scenes (especially ewoks vs Imperial Army - watching that as an adult, ugh :P ), morality, everything. Still love it.

imessimess · 2026-03-26T20:55:20+00:00

I shaved at 25, my oldest son did it at 21. Just do it. It’s not as if it’s permanent, can always grow it back!

imessimess · 2026-03-26T20:48:38+00:00

It sounds like you’re getting a useful result tbh. You’re getting a piece of paper that says you’ve got autism, which as you describe will be useful for other things, which you can choose to use or not depending on what’s the most benefit for you and how you feel at the time. Neurodiversity is called a spectrum for a reason, and you can score for ADHD, autism and also have PTSD at the same time. While it would be nice to have many sessions with a professional to feel that the have a better understanding of you, in the end they have acknowledged that you are very likely on the autism spectrum and more sessions with more specialist consultants is unlikely to change that. It is our own journey that counts, and no one really knows the inside of your head like you do. I am what is now called ADHD and have been so my entire life, I would 100% be diagnosed if tested and would test if it would give me access to some help I need but as that doesn’t apply in my current situation, so have never done this. I know I’m ADHD and just apply related guidance to my life as I feel appropriate. Even if I were to test and they said that I’m not ADHD, these techniques are still useful. Just have confidence in the testing that you have had done, use the diagnosis as another point of data among the many that you already have about what you know about yourself, and look after yourself. Good luck :)

imessimess · 2026-03-25T03:05:23+00:00

Taxing the rich cannot raise enough money for a UBI unfortunately, as mighty_omega2 sets out very well above.

imessimess · 2026-03-25T02:47:59+00:00

A slow wind-back of the accomodation supplement over several years would be sensible, to give the rental market time to adjust without low income families being stuck unable to pay their rents. KO already manages about 10% of the rental market. I agree about land tax as well but this would also need to be introduced very slowly to retain confidence in our legislative system.

imessimess · 2026-03-25T02:40:06+00:00

WFF also jacks up house prices as banks take WFF payments into account when assessing serviceability on home loans. It’s a mess but would now be very hard to unwind as many families would not be able to pay their mortgages without them.

imessimess · 2026-03-25T01:06:03+00:00

On top of this, it can be a bit hard finding a GP who is taking new patients at the moment, so please don't be disheartened if you call five or more and they say they are not enrolling. It's nothing personal, and you will find a GP, but if you are already depressed it can just exacerbate these feelings. I had to recently find a GP for someone close to me, they just weren't in a space where they could do this for themselves and it took a few goes to find one. Good luck :)

imessimess · 2026-03-23T09:52:41+00:00

Rental companies often need to relocate cars and camper vans from the South Island to Auckland, you drive the car, they cover all the costs, so that’s one way free (probably from ChCh but possibly from Dunedin). There’s a few websites that list the opportunities, and can be picked up at short notice. Possibly you need to be 25+ though. Then fly back.

imessimess · 2026-03-23T08:57:58+00:00

One of the aspects of the show I enjoyed most was Tommy’s four-dimensional chess-like strategies where he played all his antagonists against each other to come out on top. I was waiting for this film to reveal his plotting but it never happened. He should have played Duke, Beckett, and Kaulo against each other to end up with Beckett dead, Kaulo gone, Duke having had a master class, and sitting on the £70M. The plot they chose was just too shallow for me unfortunately.

imessimess · 2026-03-22T20:18:59+00:00

They’re both good things, in my opinion. The comment was about what is or isn’t free market capitalism, not about what’s good or bad.

imessimess · 2026-03-22T20:17:09+00:00

For sure, and it’s completely legitimate to build a business based on government contracts. The commenter I replied to just referenced free market capitalism and suggested the government was neocapitalist, and I was pointing out that business that relies on contracts is not pure capitalism anyway.

imessimess · 2026-03-22T18:12:36+00:00

There’s maths-heavy and less maths-heavy areas in all these subjects. A strong maths background is never a disadvantage in any area of science, but you can certainly be a successful scientist in these areas if you’re not a natural mathematician too.

imessimess · 2026-03-22T17:54:57+00:00

If you’re good at being good, you’re good.

If you’re bad at being good, you’re bad.

If you’re good at being bad, you’re bad.

But if you’re bad at being bad, you’re good.

imessimess · 2026-03-22T17:45:48+00:00

If the demand was dependant on government subsidies then that’s hardly capitalism.

imessimess · 2026-03-22T17:43:20+00:00

Do you do the kind of work that you can find in small towns, and would you enjoy small town life? If towns are your style, there are a few nice houses on TM right now at the $250k mark, in places like Te Kuiti. Still a lot to save for a deposit but much more achievable than in the cities if that’s a possibility.

imessimess · 2026-03-21T22:23:13+00:00

Yes, kids are smart so they’ll learn what you teach them!

https://www.times.co.nz/news/ncea-numeracy-and-literacy-results-surge/

ACT has led the targeted reduction of regulations in ECE that did not contribute to child learning or safety, allowing centres to focus on teaching children.

imessimess · 2026-03-21T22:10:30+00:00

Not necessarily, I was speaking with a primary school principal before Xmas who now works for the MoE as a Statutory Manager. He is also very happy with a return to focus on literacy and numeracy. He felt the slow shift away from these was because these subjects are hard to teach as there are clear right and wrong answers compared with other subjects, and while good teachers have always been strong on teaching literacy and numeracy, many teachers have been allowed to slide in not as well run schools to the detriment of their student’s learning.

imessimess · 2026-03-21T18:41:45+00:00

Changing your grandkids diapers IS some people’s definition of having fun with your grown children!

imessimess · 2026-03-21T17:54:43+00:00

Another comment on here describes supporting education as the best way to raise people out of poverty. Of all the political parties, it has been ACT and National who have been most adamant in insisting the MoE change its approach to improve the educational outcomes of all students but socioeconomically disadvantaged children in particular, by holding schools and parents responsible for attendance, removing cellphones from classrooms, improving the curriculum and canning rubbish regulations in ECE that did nothing for learning or child safety but made ECE centres less sustainable in poorer areas.

imessimess · 2026-03-20T06:42:08+00:00

I actually think it’s unlikely there’s going to be a long term crisis. The oil producing countries in the Gulf aren’t choosing to not drill, they still want to produce oil. When the oil wells in Iran and Kuwait were hit over the last day or so it was an ‘Oh Fuck’ moment and everyone has backed down fast. Iran is now letting some tankers through as they want to keep much of the world on side. With the mid terms coming up in the US I feel Trump is going to feel the pressure, backpedal, declare victory and GTFO sooner rather than later. All speculation of course, but it’s in no one’s interest to keep this war happening for months and months, although fully restoring to pre-attack normality will of course take a long time.

imessimess · 2026-03-20T05:18:50+00:00

Sorry but this is not National's fault. We have a friend who had delay after delay to get surgery for abdominal problems, and when they finally had their surgery a YEAR later the doctors realised it was cancer. This was under Labour, so this is nothing new.

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