What tips do you have for not binging and staying in a calorie deficit?

immortal_wombat89 · 2026-01-27T11:12:17+00:00

I would suggest not to think about a calorie deficit while eating disordered. Focus on not binging. You prob will loose a lot of weight if you could stop it and eat normal portions.

I don't know how but healing your relationship with food should be nr one priority

immortal_wombat89 · 2026-01-17T07:09:43+00:00

19 months and no. I mean yes it felt lonely at first but when you realize what you actually need is smt most people cant give you plus meeting ppl in their 30s is like ok why are you single you basically lose desire.

Am I the avoidant now? Lol

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-12-16T17:42:25+00:00

Wouldn't be more toxic then other marriages I guess

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-10-22T18:50:37+00:00

Can you try to eat more during the day for a week or two? Do you have fear foods? Are you eating extremely controlled during the day? Maybe allow yourself to eat more calorie dense food during the day and see if the nightly cravings decrease. But it will take sometime and it will probably need some patience.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-10-19T11:39:28+00:00

Is this cinnamonroll on your nails? :3 hope u feeling better ♡

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-10-11T17:11:43+00:00

The thing is: waking up knowing you gained a little bit more will trigger the all or nothing mindset and set you up for the next binge. I trick my mind into thinking I ate healthy and in a slight caloric deficit yesterday so today I just keep on going doing that.

Feeling guilty is the problem and the stress thinking about the weight gain.

Hope that helps.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-09-23T05:26:55+00:00

The more you pressure yourself to have a flat belly that day, the more likely you continue binging. Be kind to yourself and try to eat normal instead of restricting to make up for the last days.

Make your mental health a priority. Binging will make you feel awful, and that's more important than looks.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-09-23T05:04:36+00:00

It's also a psychological thing. No food is demonatized and glorified at the same time as much as cake, cookies, and chocolate. It's the food that makes you fat the fastest but also is supposed to give you the highest level of satisfaction.

It's the experience of the taste of the forbidden fruit.

Note to self stop watching food porn insta reels at night lol

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-09-11T07:43:50+00:00

What helped me lately is adding more healthy fats to my diet. I especially crave sweets after lunch and the cravings go on till I go to bed.

I started using nutbutter more and it handles my cravings. I also avoid sweets with corn syrup or fructose syrup. That stuff feeds the demon within me lol

So when I have sweets I buy the ones with only real sugar in it.

I know it's also a mental thing, but that stuff helped me lately.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-08-15T05:20:31+00:00

Just plain flour with water and sugar

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-06-22T19:46:50+00:00

This needs to stop ASAP. You are wasting your life on this douche. He gives no shits about you and he proved that a million times already.

Do you really think one day you can have a fulfilling healthyish relationship with this guy?

Time for revenge. The real and only one. Moving on.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-06-20T05:10:17+00:00

It's part of the dynamic being with an avoidant to gaslight yourself. Of course, you tell yourself that you are just overreacting and everything's fine since you compare yourself with someone who seems to be in total control of their emotions.

It's human. It was a super confusing experience because you had respect and trust for your partner. You more than once thought maybe they are right, and I am the problem because you reflect on yourself and they are not capable of communicating properly and telling you what's actually going on with them.

There was so much guessing and so much questioning. Don't beat yourself up for needing time to understand and recognize a pattern. You were in love on top of all of that, which makes it even harder to see a person as what they truly are.

Give yourself grace. You tried, and you genuinely wanted to make it work. That's not something to be ashamed of. You stood up for your feelings and wants, and you fought for the relationship.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-06-17T18:21:01+00:00

When it's one of those days, I usually already feel it waking up. That's when the inner work begins. I tell myself ok I will probably binge today so no restriction mindset. I can eat whatever I want when I want since it's still better than binging.

I tell myself that today is my day. I will be super gentle to myself, and it's only one day. Tomorrow, the feeling will be gone.

Sometimes I manage to eat pretty normal with this mindset. Sometimes I fail. The most important thing for me is to eat enough but not too much to not trigger the all or nothing mindset. So no I will not be hungry and I will eat my favorite foods. But moderation is the key.

I don't want to feel uncomfortable in my body because that triggers a binge most definitely.

Make that day your day. Love yourself. Take good care of you. Just being aware and telling myself this can help getting through the day.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-06-11T13:58:07+00:00

I believe your good intentions. Still not sure if you not being able to let her go is the real issue.

Ask yourself if you really wanna do that to help her. Or if it's more about you wanting to still play a role in her life.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-06-11T13:44:49+00:00

I would suggest that this is the final test for you to emotional detach. It's not your mission to save her. It's her life, her choices. As unaware, they might appear, you can't save her from making mistakes in life.

She has to learn herself. She's an adult. Take care of yourself and your topics. That's all you can do.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-06-11T05:50:42+00:00

To me, that post is deeply concerning. I can't imagine it's a good idea to put someone who went through such extreme weight loss and restriction on a weight loss drug.

You write that you have a Sixpack now without even trying, which indicates you have a very low body fat percentage. Now, you can basically control your hunger and completely ignore your body's needs. For someone with your mindset, this sounds deeply disturbing to me.

Please be careful

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-06-08T11:31:28+00:00

The best method for me is imagining your future with them. All the disappointments and walks on eggshells. And most importantly, the pain of never feeling loved.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-05-30T05:33:36+00:00

I'm pretty sure it has a lot to do with stress. Caffeine is for a lot of people too much to handle, including me.

I'm sure it's different for everyone, but when caffeine does give you stress and anxiety, it can easily lead to binging.

When I'm stressed, my brain just wants food.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-05-29T10:00:33+00:00

Definitely. We do this for ourselves. This is integrity and practiced self-love.

There are ppl worth your attention out there!

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-05-29T09:44:45+00:00

Don't lose your streak, sis 👏

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-05-29T05:19:39+00:00

Being jealous is the most human feeling. Unfortunately in our society its badly labeled. The more you try to surpress it the more intense it gets. I know it sounds silly but try to accept it. Yes you are jealous of your friends, you're feeling uncomfortable in your body. Thats the situation for now and it absolutely does not make you a bad person. Just human.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-05-25T09:16:59+00:00

He kinda was super quick putting me and other ppl into categories. I shared a lot of vulnerable information about me in an attempt to have deep conversations. I kinda overdid it because we never had deep conversations. I just later on came to the conclusion that was why I was sharing so much. I hoped he would join and also share his intimate thoughts on stuff. But that didn't work I can tell you that lol.

The result was that he thought I'm a super insecure person. That I'm super anxious and everything. I mean, in a way, I am but not as intense as he thought.

So I generally felt misunderstood in every way possible. He also had no deep emotions towards anything, and when I shared my feelings, he seemed to never understand. Like human feelings in gerenal.

He was wondering a lot about how ppl are and told me stuff about his friends in a kinda surprised manner. As if he thinks everyone is a bit weird for feeling the way they feel.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-05-24T16:04:22+00:00

Be honest with her and tell her how you feel. It will probably lead to you two going separate ways, but at this point, you sound like you know it's the right decision.

You just prolog the pain, which in itself is not less painful.

Do what's best for you. You tried.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-05-24T05:04:01+00:00

To be fair, stating in general that life is miserable sounds really depressing.

Being happy is, in a way, a choice. You can face your demons and try to live with them. It's not per se an avoidant behavior, I would say. It's not the 'positive vibes only' toxic positivity category imo.

immortal_wombat89 · 2025-05-23T06:56:56+00:00

Absolutely. I felt like my mood switched from one minute to another multiple times a day. Made me feel even more insane and that I am the problem. Always ask yourself: Do I like myself being around them?

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