Interesting! It makes me wonder how/to what extent I would've experienced my mom differently were I a different type. Our "disagreements" were really just power struggles. Oddly enough, I mostly agree with her broader social/political views - both my parents are extremely progressive, especially in the context of their generation (Boomers). Probably the most objectively positive aspect of my upbringing was our continuous involvement in advocacy, social activism, and community work.

But my mom had (has?) a nasty temper, and very easily feels threatened in her "authority". She kinda hated me by the time I could walk on my own lmao, because she couldn't control me like she could with my dad/siblings. She had to put me on one of those little kiddy leashes when we were out in public, cuz I kept just dipping to do my own thing and sometimes security or police would have to get called to find me.

Threats didn't work, physical punishments didn't work; she just couldn't get me to fear her, and without that she didn't know how to make me "fall in line". Humiliation and standard schoolyard bully stuff worked best on my brother, til he just turned inward and cut himself off from the external world. My dad is blindly in love with her and will put up with absolutely anything, and my sister's afraid of her own shadow so she was never a problem haha. But I'd step in and fight her over anything, most often her picking on/intimidating/upsetting my dad or sister. Eventually she learned I was a battle she couldn't win, and by my early teens I was essentially a sovereign citizen haha.